Kutheni yena yedwa ?
Enyanisweni, izizathu zokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho abe yedwa unokuba yintoni. Umzekelo, uphawu lomlingiswa. Ukongezelela, le nto i -polypolarnoy, oko kukuthi, "inkokeli" ehlazo neyathula kunzima ukufumana abahlobo. Umntu onamahloni, umntu othulileyo akaqinisekanga kwaye akayazi into enomdla ngayo oontanga. "Umkhokeli" ongenamkhethe "uthanda ukulawula yonke into, ulawule imithetho yomdlalo. Ngaphezu koko, ucela abanye ukuba bangenisekanga, ngenxa yoko, abantwana banqabile ukuba ngabahlobo naye, njengokuba oku akuthandiyo wonke umntu.
Esinye isizathu sokunyaniseka kwengane yimeko yangaphandle - ehamba kwindawo entsha, edlalwa kunye nokutshintshela kwintsapho entsha. Umntwana omncinci kumntu ongaqhelekanga akulula.
Mhlawumbi umntwana engayazi indlela yokwenza abahlobo - engazi ukuba ubuhlobo buni, akakwazi ukuseka nokuphuhlisa oonxibelelwano nabadala. Kule meko, umsebenzi wabazali kukufundisa umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba nabahlobo. Ngaphezu koko, umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba aziphathe njani nabahlobo bakhe. Kule meko, ukucokola iingxoxo akunakukwazi. Xelela ibali lakho ngomntwana malunga neentombi zakho kunye nabahlobo bakho, jonga iikhathuni malunga nabahlobo kunye naye, cula iingoma malunga nobuhlobo naye.
Umzekelo ngamnye
Jonga ngokukhawuleza iingxaki zakho, uze usombulule iingxaki zomntwana. Unabahlobo abaninzi? Ngaba uhlala udibana nabo? Ngaba unika inkxaso kwixesha elinzima? Ukuba ngaba bakho abahlobo bengekho kwindawo yokuqala, akufanele umangaliswe, ekubeni umntwana ngelifa udlula umzekelo womzali wokuziphatha.
Ubungakanani bobuhlobo kuwe kufuneka bube ngumkhokelo wokuthatha isenzo, kungekhona isibhengezo semfundiso. Ukuba umntwana uya kubona indlela uyise encedisa ngayo umhlobo wakhe ukulungisa into ethile, umama u tyelele intombazana egulayo esibhedlele, ugogo kunye nabahlobo bakhe baya kwindawo yokuzonwabisa, ngoko uya kufunda isifundo sobuhlobo.
Indlela yokufumana abahlobo
Kufuneka ukuba uqale ngesinyathelo sokuqala-ulwalamano. Umntwana unakho kwaye ufuna ukwenza abahlobo kwintsimi okanye kwindawo yokudlala nomnye umntu, kodwa engazi indlela yokwenza. Umsebenzi womzali ukuxelela umntwana indlela yokujongana nale nkwenkwe, kunye nendlela yokufumana intombazana, ukuba ufuna ukubazi. Okokuqala, kunokwenzeka ukulungelelanisa abantwana umdlalo onokubathanda, kwaye ulungiselele kwakhona, makabe badlala kunye. Umzekelo, unokudlala ukudlala, ukufihla nokufuna, ukuhlawula. Ungayihlabelela ingoma kwi-cartoon ndawonye, udlala umdlalo wefestile kunye neentambo (umzekelo, "Kolobok"). Ingakumbi umntwana uthetha nabantwana, amathuba akhe okufumana abahlobo.
Kuzo zonke iziko zasesikolweni, abantwana bafunda kwiimeko ezintsha ukusebenzisana kunye nokuphuhlisa izakhono zonxibelelwano.
Mema abanye abantwana ukuba batyelele. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka ube nemidlalo ekhaya, apho ungadlala kunye, abathathu bethu. Lungiselela izipho ezinomdla kubantwana kwaye ulungiselele itafile enandi. Nawe u tyelele.
Ukuya kutyelela, ukudweba umfanekiso okanye ukupheka umhlobo ipayi, umntwana kufuneka aqonde ukuba abaya kwiindwendwe ngezandla ezingenanto. Buza inkunzi malunga nabahlobo bakhe. Ukuba omnye wabahlobo bomntwana wayegula, uxolelane nabo, ukuba kukho impumelelo, vuyisa.
Kukho konke okufuneka ukwazi ukuba ubukhulu, kubuhlobo kubandakanya. Ngoko-ke, fundisa umntwana ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza kwaye ushiye indlu yabanikazi ngexesha. Qaphela ngokucophelela ukuziphatha komntwana kwiqela.
Ukuba iimidlalo kunye noMisha ziphela ekulwa, kwaye umkhankaso kuLiseza uphela ngeinyembezi, kungcono ukuba ungagxininisi ebuhlotsheni babo, mhlawumbi abantwana boMoya oPhezulu abasondelene.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokwenzeka ngenye indlela, umntwana wakho unamathele kunomnye umntu, kwaye ukuba engabikho, uhlaselwa kumakhohlisi, kwaye xa ebona ukuba udlala nabanye abantwana, ukhwele ngomona. Kule meko, umntwana kufuneka achaze ukuba umhlobo wakhe unokudlala nabanye, kwaye oku akukona ukungcatsha.