Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana babonelela ukuba abazali bayabakhathalela. Abantwana bakholelwa ukuba abazali akufanele bawasebenzise, ​​bengenakuzimela ngokubakho kwimpilo yabo. Kwaye abazali bahlala bebanomdla malunga nendlela ogqoke ngayo namhlanje, oko badlayo, banika iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokulungisa iimpazamo ezenziwe nguwe, ngoluvo lwabo. Kungaba, nangona usukhulile, uhlala ngokuzimeleyo kwaye uhlukile kubo. Ewe, abazali abayithandi le ndlela yabazali babo. Kodwa indlela yokumisa le ntlungu? Indlela yokuphelisa indlela yokuziphatha engalunganga?
Ziziphi izizathu zokungenelela?
Isizathu esibalulekileyo kukuba ukwesaba kwabazali. Baye bacinga ngento yokuba umntwana sele ekhulile, akafuni. Ndatshitshisa kakhulu ukuyeka ukuhamba kwilwanyana yakho ekudala. Awukwazi ukucinga ukuba izigqibo ezibalulekileyo ziya kwenziwa ngaphandle kwazo? Umntwana wakho oyithandayo unokuphendula njani ngezenzo zakho kunye nobomi bakho?
Abayikiyo abazali?
Bahamba ngeyure kweso sokuba into engathandekiyo kufuneka yenzeke kumntwana. Ngamanye amaxesha kuvela ukuba intonga igobile kakhulu. Oku kuboniswe kumlinganiselo omkhulu wezenzo nezenzo zezingane. Esi sitratweni ungangena phantsi kwebhasi, esikolweni banokubakholwa. Ukuba umvuzo uphakamileyo, kukho ubuqhetseba. Kwaye unokuhlwaya, wadibana nentombazana enhle - oku kubi. Uya kutshintsha umntwana.
Ukuba kwimeko enjalo umntu akhula, uhlala egcwele i-phobias engadingekile, engamvumeli ukuba aphile ngokugcwele. Ukuziphatha okungalunganga kwabazali ngokubhekiselele kumntwana wabo kubamba ubugovu babo. Bacinga ngoxolo lwabo, kwaye kungekhona ukuba umntu okhulileyo uza kungena njani kwihlabathi labantu. Kwaye, njengomthetho, xa ekhulile, ungena kwi-clogged and unadapted. Kunzima kuye ukwenza izigqibo ngokuzimela, kuba abazali bakhe abazange bamfundise.
Ukwesaba izigqibo ezingalindelekanga
Abazali bavame ukwesaba ukutyhila okungaqhelekanga komntwana wabo. Ukuba zonke iinjineli zisekhaya, kwaye umntwana wabo waba ngumlutha womculo kwaye ufuna ukuzinikela kuye ubomi bakhe, ngoko bamnika iingcamango ezimbi malunga neemvumi. Emva kwexesha, indoda encinci iqala ukukholelwa ukuba abaculi banomlutha kunye notywala. Ngoko uqala ukulibala inzondelelo yakhe. Akunjalo indima yokugqibela kulo mdlalo kubazali. Kodwa wayenokuba ngumculi odumileyo, ukuba kungengenxa yeengcebiso "ezilungileyo" zabazali abalungileyo.
Unokuthintela njani ukuphazamiseka okubi?
Ngoko, sele usumdala. Ukuphazamiseka rhoqo kweentsapho ebomini bakho kuqala kukucaphukisa, kukuthintela ukwenza izigqibo ezinzulu. Thatha ngesandla uze uqhekeze intambo engabonakali edibanisa nabo. Emva kwakho konke, intambo yomzimba iyanqunyulwa kuphela ngenxa yokuba umntwana akasasadli ukondliwa ngumama. Uqala ukwenza oko ngokwakhe. Cacisa ngokucacileyo kubazali, mbulela ngokugcinwa kweso sigcine kwaye uthi awuyidingi. Ixesha lokuba uhambe ngobomi ngokwakho.
Lungiselela intetho yakho kwangaphambili, uthethe, emi phambi kwesibuko. Khetha umzuzu xa abazali bephelile, bekhululekile.
Xa uthetha, jonga kwamehlo abo, ithoni yentetho kufuneka ihlaziye, iphelise amagama angcolileyo. Ngaphambi komyalezo onoxanduva, khumbuze uthando lwakho olungunaphakade. Yithi banokuhlala bexhomekeke kuluncedo lwakho kunye neengqalelo. Cinga ngendlela yokukhusela isicaphulo esinzulu okanye ingxoxo kwiitoni eziphakamileyo.
Kungenzeka ukuba abazali abayi kubuya kuwe ngaphandle kokulwa. Ukutshatyalaliswa koxolo kunye nabo ngokwabo. Ewe, kuya kubangela ukucaphukisa, ukudumala kuwe, mhlawumbi nenzondo. Musa ukuphelelwa lithemba. Ixesha liphilisa yonke into. Ekugqibeleni baya kufika kwisigqibo sokuba usele ungumntu omdala, unelungelo lokuxazulula imiba ngokwakho. Ubudlelwane kunye nabazali buya kubuya.
Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukusombulula le ngxaki ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ngempumelelo. Qalisa izenzo zakho kunye nezenzo zakho ezifanelekileyo, ukuba awudingi uncedo lwabazali kwakhona. Bona ngokwabo baya kubona ukuba ukukhusela kwabo sele kukuthintele. Baze bahambe behamba.
Hlalani nobudlelwane obufudumele nabazali bakho, zama ukuyiqonda. Ukuba unabantwana bakho, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu. Kodwa xa zivela, izenzo zabazali bakho kuwe ziya kuba zicacileyo. Ngeke ukwazi ukubona into engafaniyo kubo.