Ukusinda buhlungu kuthetha ukukwazi indlela yokuhamba ixesha elide ekuzamkelekeni ukulahlekelwa kunye nokubuyisela imeko evamile yomzimba kunye nomzimba.
Kulo rhu lumente, umntu ubhekene neengxaki ezinzima:
- ukudabuka kunye nobuthixo - bukhulu kakhulu emva kokulahlekelwa kwesihlobo;
- Intukuthelo - ivela kwingqondo yokukhungatheka, nokungabi namandla okutshintsha nantoni na;
- umva wecala kunye ne-self-flagellation-kubangelwa kukuba umntu uqala ukucinga ukuba akazange athi into ethile kumfi, akenzanga into;
uxhalabo kunye noyiko-kubonakala ngenxa yedwa, ukwesaba ukungahlangabezane neemeko, ubungozi;
-Ukufumana - ungathatha inxaxheba yokunganakwa okanye ukunyaniseka, ukungafuni ukwenza nantoni na;
- ukuphelelwa lithemba - uhlobo olubi lwemo engathatha ixesha elide;
- ukutshitshiswa - imeko yokugada, ukudideka, ukunyaniseka; ihlangene nabantu kwimimiselo yokuqala emva kweendaba ezibuhlungu.
Ezinye iingcamango zixhaphakile kwiindawo zokuqala zokulila kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ziphela emva kwexesha elithile. Ukuba bahlala, bangakhokelela kwi-phobias kunye nokudandatheka, okufuna unyango olunzulu.
Akusoze kube yindlela yokuqala yokuphendula emva kweendaba zokufa. Ukungaphumeleli ukukholelwa kwinto eyenzekayo kunokuhlala ixesha elithile.
Ukudideka - ukungakwazi ukugxila, ukusabalalisa iingcamango, ukulibala kunye neentambo.
Ukukhathazeka kukunyanzelisa iingcamango zomntu ofileyo, umzobo wemifanekiso yokufa. Khumbula kwakhona imifanekiso yomfi.
Ivakalelo lokuba khona - iingcamango ezihlala zihlala kwicala lokufa, azikho ndawo.
I-hallucinations (ebonakalayo kunye nokuphicothiweyo) - yenzeke ngokukhawuleza. Umntu uva ilizwi lokubiza lomfi, ubona umfanekiso wakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka kwiiveki ezimbalwa emva kokulahleka.
Intlungu ingaphezu nje kwemizwa, ichaphazela kakhulu iinkqubo zokucinga. Umntu onxinzelelekileyo akakholelwa ekufeni komntu othandekayo, uhlala ecinga ngaye, upheqa kwiingcinga zakhe ezibalulekileyo kuye, kunzima ukuba agxininise nakweyiphi into, uvale ngokwakhe.
Ukongeza kwintsimi yeemvakalelo, intlungu ifumana impendulo emzimbeni. Ukuphazamisa ukuqina emqaleni, ubunzima esifubeni, intlungu entliziyweni, izifo zesisu. Inwele ekhoyo, utywala, ukutshisa okutshisayo okanye amaqabunga abandayo.
Ngokuxinzeleleka ixesha elide, iingxaki zempilo ezinzulu, ukuphuhliswa kwezifo ze-psychosomatic kungavela.
Ubuthongo obuninzi buba lukhuni, luphakathi, ukulala, ukulala. Kufuneka siqonde ukuba abantu baqonda ukufa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, abanye bahlala behlala kunye kwaye bafuna ukuhlala bodwa, ngoxa abanye bekulungele ukuthetha ngemini yokufa kwaye banokukrakra xa kubonakala ngathi abanye abaliliyo kwaye bakhala ngokwaneleyo. Kubalulekile ukuba ungafaki uxinzelelo kumntu, kodwa uncede amelane namava akhe.
Umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba ilahleko yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokujikeleza ubomi. Wonke umntu ozelwe kufuneka afe - lo ngumthetho. Yonke into esiyibonayo kuthi, olunye usuku luya kupheliswa-umhlaba, ilanga, abantu, izixeko. Yonke into ebonakalayo yendalo yesikhashana.
Ukufa komntu othandekayo kusishukumisela ukuba sizibuze "Yintoni ubomi?", "Yintoni injongo yobomi?". Iimpendulo zale mibuzo ziyakwenza njengenkuthazo ekutshintsheni indlela yobomi, yenza kube ngakumbi kunentsingiselo kwaye inzulu, kunceda untshintshe ubuntu bakho, wenze uthando kwabanye abantu.
Iingcebiso zokunqoba intlungu.
Yamkela imeko. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba umntu uye wasala kunye naye, ubuncinane kule bomi, akuyi kwenzeka.
Sebenza nge ntlungu. Ukuvumela ukuba ukhale kunye nokuthukuthela, iinyembezi nomsindo kuyingxenye ebalulekileyo yenkqubo yokuphilisa.
Ukulungiswa kwihlabathi ngaphandle kwayo. Akukho mntu uya kutshintsha umntu othandekayo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba afunde indlela yokuhlala kwindawo edibeneyo.
Ukubuyisela amandla okuvakalelwa kwintsebenziswano. Vumela ukusebenzisana nokwakha ubudlelwane nabanye abantu. Musa ukucinga ukuba oku kuya kunqambi imemori yomfi.
Ukubuyisela ukholo, iinkolelo kunye nemilinganiselo. Emva kwexesha elithile umntu ufumana intlungu kunye nobudlova, ubuyela ebomini. Le ngongoma ebalulekileyo emva kokubandezeleka kwengqondo.
Yintoni enokuyenza kunye nendlela yokunceda uphile ngayo ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo.
1. Yiba ngumphulaphuli omhle. Abantu bafanele bathethe kakhulu malunga nokufa komntu othandekayo. Xa beyathetha ngakumbi, baziva ngokukhawuleza ukuba yinyani.
2. Ungesabi ukuthetha ngomntu ofile.
3. Hlalani kumgca. Zibize okanye u tyelele isijwili. Kwimeko enjalo, umntu akakwazi ukuzimela ngokuzimeleyo kunye nabahlobo bakhe.
4. Ungasebenzisi izifanekiso, uthetha ngokunyanisekileyo.
5.Isandla seTyjanti sencedo. Inokukunceda ekuphekeni, ekuthengeni, ekucoceni.
6. Yiba novelwano - ukukwazi ukuvakalelwa ngabathandekayo.
Yiloo ndlela abagulisa ngayo i-psychologists ukuba baziphathe ngayo ukuba umntu othandekayo uye wafa nendlela yokuphila ngakumbi emva kokulahleka.