Ngoko ke, abaninzi abazali ababazibuze ukuba ngaba bafuna ukulungiselela isikolo kunye nomntwana osemaqeleni. Impendulo iyabonakala: yeewe kunjalo Ewe! Nangona ... esikolweni, baya kufundisa wonke umntu ... Makhe ahambe. Yaye ukuba uqala ukuqeqesha, njani? Yintoni yokufundisa kuqala? Nazi izinto ezingathandabuzekiyo kunye nemibuzo yabo bonke abazali. Kwaye ngenxa yoko-iimpazamo, "zikhukhumele" apho kufuneka sibe nazo kubantwana bethu. Ziziphi iimpazamo eziphambili zabazali bezabelo zokuqala zangaphambili? Funda, fumana kwaye uzilungiselele.
Akufanele lilibale ukuba ukufundiswa kokubhala nokufunda kukuxhomekeke kumfundisi wesikolo esiprayimari. Ngoko ke, xa umntwana engena esikolweni, ingqwalasela ayifumanekanga ekufundeni, kodwa ukuba ngempumelelo kangakanani umntwana wakho ubonisa ukulungele ukufundisa. Kubalulekile ukuqwalasela ukuba ikharityhulam yethu yesikolo iphakamileyo ibeka iimfuno eziphezulu kwizinga lolwazi lwabafundi bexesha elizayo. Kodwa kuphela abazali baqonda ukuba abantwana babo bazimisele ukufunda ezikolweni ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba umntwana kufuneka akwazi ukufunda, ukubala nokubhala. Kwabanye inqolobane enkulu yolwazi kunye nolwazi oluhlukeneyo. Kanti abanye bakholelwa ukuba umntwana wabo kufuneka abe plodding, akwazi ukugxila kwimeko ethile. Abazali abaninzi bathatha ukuzimisela komntwana ukuya esikolweni. Kakade, elowo ulungile ngendlela yakhe, kodwa kuphela inxalenye.
Enyanisweni, ukulungelelwa kwesikolo kukuhlobo "lokuxuba" kwengqondo yomzimba kunye nengqondo. Uninzi lwabantwana, ngokweengcali, luvuthwa kwiminyaka esixhenxe. Ngeli xesha, unako ukunika umntwana esikolweni ngokukhuselekileyo. Ngokusemthethweni. Kodwa le nto yinto yokuba akukho mhlaba ongenamigangatho. Kwaye izakhono ezenziwe ngabanye abantwana ngeeminyaka ezisixhenxe, ezinye ziphuhliswa kuphela kwizibhozo ezisibhozo. Yingakho abazali befuna ukuzimela ngokuzimeleyo umntwana wabo kwii-angles ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye ke kuya kum ukuba ndigqibe isigqibo sokuba ngaba ndingayinika kwiklasi yokuqala ngoku okanye ulinde ixesha elide.
Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana ulungele ukuya esikolweni ukususela kwiminyaka emithandathu. Kodwa kuphela kwiimeko zempilo yakhe. Impilo yinto ephambili yokufundisa ngokuphumelelayo ngekamva lesikolo. Kodwa, ngokudabukisayo, abaninzi abantwana banemiphumo-engokwenyama okanye yengqondo. Phantse i-40% yabalimi bokuqala bayagula ziinyanga ezimbini, kwaye bagula iintsuku ezingama-7-10. Kwaye oku kunokuthi kukhokelela kwizifundo ezingekho kunye nezikhalazo ngolwazi. Abantwana abanjalo bakuthola kunzima ukufumana imathematika, ukubhala, ukufunda. Ukuba umntwana wakho uya kugula, musa ukukhawuleza esikolweni, kodwa qiniseka ukuba uphucula impilo yakhe.
Ikhonkco No. 1. "Kuya kudlula ngobudala".
Ngaphambi kokuba u-Andryusha afike esikolweni, abazali bakhe banquma ukuba unyana wabo kufuneka ukuba afunde esikolweni esikhethekileyo ngokufunda ngokujulile ulwimi lwangaphandle. Nangona i-Andrei ngenxa yokubanda kwakusoloko ilahlekelwa iiklasi kwi-kindergarten, abazali bazama ukujongana naye ekhaya kunye naye, ukufunda nokuxazulula iingxaki ezinengqiqo. Kwaye ngempumelelo, le nkwenkwe yanikwa lula kakhulu. Wafunda iileta kwaye wayesele ekwazi kakuhle kwaye eqinisekile ekufundeni iibllabha, wakwazi ukuphindaphinda ukufunda nokukhumbula iimbongo ezinde. Kodwa u-Andrei akazange ahlale ebiza izandi ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukubonisana ngexesha elifanelekileyo kunye neengcali zentetho kunokunceda ukuchonga iingxaki kwaye uqale iiklasi ngexesha lokulungisa intetho. Kodwa abazali babecinga ukuba kuya kudlula ngobudala. Okwangoku, ubunzima benkwenkwe babangelwa ukukopisha izinto ezinobumba, iinombolo kunye neepateni. Kwaye oku kubonisa ukungabikho kokuphuhliswa kokubambisana-mandla kunye nokufuna ukuqeqeshwa kwengqondo ukuphuhlisa izakhono ezifanelekileyo zezandla zezandla.
Iziphumo zophando zinjalo ukuba ukusetyenzwa kweentetho ezinganeleyo kubangelwa ngumva, kufumaneka kwi-60% yabalimi bokuqala. Akukona nje ngokumangalisa nokubetha, kodwa ngokubhekiselele kwizandi ezingafanelekanga, ukungakwazi ukuhlukanisa izandi ngamagama. Musa ukulibala ngegama elincinci, ukungakwazi ukwenza ibali kwimifanekiso uze uqhube incoko. Abantwana abanjalo abafundi ukufunda nokubhala ngokulula.
Ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqaphele nayiphi na ingxaki ngentetho yomntwanakho, qiniseka ukuba uqale ngomlomo weengcali. Yaye khumbula: abantwana abanjalo abanconywa ezikolweni ngokufunda ngokujulile ulwimi lwangaphandle. Ukongezelela, ezinye iingxaki zentetho zibonisa inkqubo encinci ye-nervous child. Nika ingqalelo ukuba umntwana ulele kakuhle, ungakhathazeki malunga nokwesaba kwakhe, ukucaphukisa ngokweqile. Ngaba unayo iminyango engapheliyo, ingabe uyaluma izipikili zakhe. Ukuba kukho imiqondiso emininzi ingentla, kufuneka ufune iingcebiso kwi-psychioneologist.
Ngoko ke, singathi u-Andrei wayengakulungele ngokupheleleyo isikolo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba le nkwenkwana ayilungele isikolo umama wakhe amkhethele sona - ngomthwalo omkhulu wolwimi kunye neemfuneko eziqhelekileyo eziqhelekileyo. Kule meko, kuya kukhethwa ukunika umntwana kwisikolo semfundo jikelele esilula.
Iphutha inombolo 2. "Ikhaya" abantwana.
Ira sele sele eguqule iminyaka engama-6 ubudala. Unomdla kakhulu, intlalontle, intombazana enomdla. Wayethetha okulungileyo kunye nokuchanekileyo, izandi ezivelele, ngokukhawuleza ezikhumbuza iingqungquthela kunye nokufunda iimibhalo ezilula. Ngaphezu koko, wayenayo yonke imfuneko yeemathematika kwaye wayekuthanda kakhulu ukudweba. Ekuqalekeni, intombazana yayilungele isikolo. Kodwa kwakukho "NGAPHANDLE": ngenxa yengqesho eqhubekayo yabazali uIra wakhulisa ugogo nomkhulu. U-Irina akazange ahambe kwi-kindergarten. Ngomgudu wokukhusela intombazana kuyo nayiphi na ingxaki kunye nokumnika into engcono, i-Ira yavalwa kakhulu kwaye yajika yaba yinto engathandekiyo, "hayi" kwaye "kufuneka" umntwana. Ngokungafuni, uninakhulu noomkhulu baba negalelo ekuphuculweni kwengqondo yomzukulu.
Ekuqaleni kwesikolo , umntwana kufuneka abe kakuhle emoyeni. Emva koko, isikolo akusiyo nje izifundo, kodwa nootitshala nabafunda nabo. Phakathi kwenkwenkwezi efunda nabo imivurha ihlala iphuma, ingxabano kunye nobudlelwane kunye nootitshala abahlali behamba kakuhle. Abantwana abaphangiweyo ngononophelo olunzulu kunye nothando, banzima ukuxabana nokukhanyela esikolweni. Kwaye emva kokuba benqwenela ukuya khona. Ukongezelela, abantwana "ikhaya" bahlala bengabonakali ngokubhekiselele kubomi basekhaya. Unenkathazo eninzi ukuba ucofe iqhosha lawo, ubophe izicathulo zabo, uqokelele izinto zabo ngokukhawuleza. Iziqhamo, kodwa ngenxa yoko, umntwana uya kuthatha ixesha elide ukuba atshintshe ekutshintsheni, ekuhambeni kwexesha ukuhamba, ungenaso ixesha lokutya.
Nangona esikolweni, ukukwazi ukwenza imizamo ethile enamandla kubaluleke kakhulu. Esikhundleni sokuba "Ndifuna-andiyifunayo", umntwana kufuneka aziphoqe ukuba enze izenzo ezithile, kunye nexesha elithile. Amakhono anjalo awafikeli ngokwabo. Kubalulekile ukufundisa nokuphuhlisa intando ngaphambi kokungena esikolweni. Oku kuququzelelwa yimidlalo yeemidlalo, izabelo kunye nokusebenza kwemisebenzi yasekhaya. Kwaye, ke, zonke iimpawu ezisisiseko zesicwangciso sengqondo-zengqondo zenziwe kwiqela lezingane, kwinkqubo yokudlala kunye nokufundisisa.
Ikhonkco No. 3. "Ukulungiswa kakuhle."
Abazali bakaDenis babesondela kakhulu kwimfundo yonyana wakhe. Kwiminyaka emithathu waya kumdaniso kunye nedama. Kwaye emine-kwisikolo sokuphuhliswa kwangaphambili, apho wayebandakanya khona ukufunda, izibalo kunye nolwimi lwangaphandle. Umbuzo wesikolo apho indodana iya kuhamba nayo ayizange ime. Ukususela kwiminyaka emithandathu ubudala, uDenis waya esikolweni esiprayimari kwi-gymnasium kwaye, njengoko kulindeleke, waqala ukuzisa ezininzi. Kodwa kwiklasi yesibini, uDenis wayenengxaki: esikolweni - ngezinyembezi, ukusuka kwisikolo-kwaye ephukile. Izikhalazo zathisha malunga nokungazimeli kunye nokukwazi ukuphendula umbuzo olula. Kwaye ngenxa yoko-ukuncipha kwezemfundo. Kwenzekani?
Impazamo eqhelekileyo yindlela yokuzimisela ukulungiselela umntwana esikolweni, ngokusekelwe kwinqanaba lokuphuhlisa jikelele. Ndiyabulela kumabonwakude, iikhomputha, umntwana wamanje uyazi kakhulu ngehlabathi elikujikelezile. Ukongezelela, zenziwa ngokubhekiselele kwi-diaper. Ngokwemvelo, ukuya ezintlanu okanye ezintandathu zeminyaka yezakhono eziqokelelweyo, abazali babonakala bengaphezulu. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo le meko iya kuba yintloko xa ukhetha isikolo. Ngenxa yoko, abantwana abakulungele ukufumana izabelo ezinzima kwaye bazalise iimfuno zabazali nesikolo abakwaziyo ukwenza. Ngoko ke, ukwenzela ukuba ugweme iingxaki, kuyimfuneko ukuchonga ukuba ngaba imisebenzi yengqondo njengememori kunye nokuqwalaselwa kwenziwa kwinqanaba elifunekayo.
Ikhonkco No. 4. "Ndifuna ukuya esikolweni."
UVanya uneminyaka engama-7 ubudala, kwaye umntakwabo uSeryozha ngu-6. UVanya uya esikolweni kulo nyaka. Iphothifoliyo enhle kunye neyunifomu yesikolo sele isithengiwe, ipenki, iincwadi kunye neepensele ezinemibala zilungiselelwe. Kwaye, kwaye uSergei uyazama rhoqo kwipotifoliyo kwaye ubonisa ukuba akayi kukhanda ngaphezu kweVanya. Abazali bam bacinga: kutheni? Ukwahluke phakathi kwamakhwenkwe ngonyaka. Makuye kunye ukuya esikolweni, ngexesha elifanayo akuyi kuba nexhala kwaye kuya kunceda ukuncedana. Ukongeza, abaninzi baya kwibanga lokuqala kwiintandathu.
Iphutha elingenakuthethelelwa ukuthumela umntwana esikolweni, ekhokelwa kuphela yizicelo zakhe. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo "Ndifuna ukuya esikolweni" kuthetha ukulandela kuphela iimpawu zobomi besikolweni: ukugqoka iphothifoliyo enhle neepensele, ukuba kuthiwa ungumfundi, ukuba abe ngumzalwana osekhulile. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, qiniseka ukuba umntwana ukhetha ukufunda umdlalo. Ukuqhuba uvavanyo: ufunde incwadi enomdla, nqama ngexesha elithandekayo kwaye ubuze into ayifunayo ngaphezulu - funda okanye uhambe udlale umdlalo. Ukuba ukhetha umdlalo, uqala kakhulu ukuthetha ngesikolo. Ukuya kwibanga lokuqala, umntwana makayinqwenele incwadi kwizinto zokudlala.
Ukuba umntwana wakho akakwazi ukwenza konke, yenza njalo naye, ungaphuthelwa ixesha!