Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, yonke into ishintshile. Ngoko ke, kufuneka sizibuze, ngaba umfazi angayifumana indoda? Nangona kungcono ukubuza, ngaba kulungele ukuphumeza?
Ewe, inkokheli inokwenza okuninzi ngenxa yothando. Kodwa, ngaba ufuna olo thando?
Ngokubanzi, kutheni abafazi bafuna ukufezekisa amadoda? Isizathu salokhu asikho uthando kuphela, njengoko umntu unokucinga. Enyanisweni, kukho iimeko ezininzi ezichaphazela into yokuba umfazi uqala ukuziphatha ngale ndlela.
Eyokuqala ngumdla wemidlalo. Abanye abafazi bathanda ukuvavanya ngokwabo kwaye bazingqina bona bafumana umntu. Kodwa oku akusoloko kukhangeleka emehlweni emehlweni endoda. Inyani kukuba amanye amantombazana aqala ukusebenzisa zonke iindlela zokufumana indawo yento yabo. Ngokomzekelo, phantse wonke umfazi uyazi ukuba nayiphi na indoda isoloko inomdla kwisini. Ngoko ke, amanye amantombazana afuna ukudukisa abafana nangayiphi na indlela. Inkambo yotywala, ukuziphatha kakubi kunye nokunye okuninzi. Ngokwemvelo, abafana abayizidalwa zensimbi, ngoko, ngokuqhelekileyo, zikhokelwa ezi zinto. Kodwa inyaniso kukuba ukunqoba okunjalo kukungathandabuzeki. Njengoko uyazi, akunakwenzeka ukwakha ubudlelwane phakathi kwesondo esinye kunye nokuthandana ngokwakho, kuthokoza kuphela kule nto, kwakhona. Ngoko ke, xa umfazi ekholelwa ukuba uphumelele indoda, uyaqiniseka ukuba wayisebenzisa kwaye akayi kuthatha into ebalulekileyo.
Kwakhona, umfazi unokufumana umntu ngaphandle kwempindiselo. Banokuphindezela abo babathandayo okanye amanye amantombazana. Kule meko, le ntombi ayiyi kwenza ngaphandle kwesondo. Inokwenzeka ukuba, uya kuzama ukuthanda nomntu ngokwakhe, ukuba azibonele, aqinisekise into okanye enze intlungu. Kule meko, ukunqoba kwindoda kumfazi kunokwenzeka, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kuba yintlungu kunye neinyembezi. Inyaniso kukuba kwiimeko ezinjalo, ukukhubeka kunye nokukhubeka kufuneka kuhlale. Okokuqala, oku kungaba ngumntu ofunwayo. Le ntombazana isebenza nzima kangangokuba imthande, ukuba loo mfana uqala ukuziva. Kodwa kuphela umfazi uqonda ukuba akanakukuthanda. Ekugqibeleni, ubuyele kumntu wangaphambili, okanye aphelise nje ubudlelwane kunye nabo abangenayo.
Impindezelo yamanye amantombazana ayilungile. Ukuba ibhinqa yenza oku kwintombi yomntu, ke intliziyo ephukile iqinisekisiwe. Ukuba uthe wavuselela uthando lwakhe, ngoko kwakhona, intsha iyakhathazeka.
Kodwa, rhoqo iimeko xa abafazi befezekisa abo bathandayo. La mabali ayenzibuhlungu, njengokuba abantu babecinga ukuba ngabahlobo okanye abayithobeli ingqalelo. Ukuba ule meko, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba awuyi kukunyanzelisa uthando, kwaye yonke imizamo ayiyi kuphumelela. Ukongeza, ngoko unokulahlekelwa ngumhlobo omhle okanye uhlaziswe.
Kodwa ukuba usenqume ukukhetha indlela efanayo, khumbula ukuba, mhlawumbi, uya kuba nomuva ukuba umntu uyazivumela ukuba amthande. Uya kuqonda ukuba nguwe owaqalisa ubudlelwane kwaye uyesaba ukuba uya kukushiya.
Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyayidinga lo mntu, zama uzenze ngokuchanekileyo. Okokuqala, njengoko sele kukhankanywe ngasentla, indoda enye ayikwazi ukuyigcina enye. Ngoko ke, akudingeki ukuba ufumaneke. Ngokwesondo - ewe. Kodwa ayifumaneki kuphela. Umfana kufuneka aqonde ukuba akayi kukwazi ukukusebenzisa xa efuna. Ukwazingca nokuzithemba. Kodwa ngexesha elifanayo kufuneka ukhangele kwaye uziphathe ngendlela efunayo. Ngoko ke, ungalokothi ukhohlwe malunga nobufazi kunye neendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ukudlala naye, umdla wokuziphatha kwakho. Ngendlela, kubalulekile ukuphawula ngokukhawuleza ukuba awukwazi ukwenza oku xa umntu eyazi ukuba uyamthanda. Kwimeko efanayo, yonke into kufuneka yenziwe ngokuchaseneyo. Ukuhlala ngesondo kunye nowesifazana, umele umbonise. Makhe abone ukuba akayiyo indawo yendalo yonke, kwaye unokuba nomdla kwabanye abantu. Ungamvumeli ukuba azisebenzise kwaye awugijime ukunceda, nguye kuphela oya kubiza. Yeka ukuba ngumhlobo othembekileyo nonyanisekileyo. Ewe, awukwazi ukuguqula indlela yokuziphatha ngokukhawuleza, mhlawumbi uya kukhankanya into ethile. Vimba nje. Musa ukuhleka kuyo yonke ihlaya, ungabambi nawaphi na amagama akhe kwaye ungakhangeli amehlo. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kusebenzayo. Umfana ubonisa ubukho bempahla. Usetyenzise ukuba ungowabo. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza uyaqonda ukuba intombazana eyayilungele yonke into kuye, yayeka ukumbona. Emva koko, mhlawumbi, uya kuqala ukukufumana. Ngamanye amaxesha lo mpawu ubangela ukuba umntu avume ukuba unomdla kuwe, kodwa akafuni ukuyiqonda. Kwimeko nayiphi na, nangona ukuba ibe yakho, musa ukuzivumela ukhululeke. Umele akhohlwe ukuba ulungele yonke into, ngaphandle koko umntu akayi kuluqonda umfazi njengokuba ufuna.
Ukuba akazange akubone, zama ukuba yintombazana ayifunayo. Ngezihlobo kunye nabahlobo, kunye nokumjonga, funda into ayithandayo kubasetyhini, kwaye wenze umfanekiso onjalo. Akukho mzekelo ungaxhomekanga entanyeni yakhe, kodwa yiloo nto imfuneko kakhulu kuye. Kodwa, ukhetha indlela efanayo, ungakulibali ukuba ngoku ufanele udlale indima yonke yobomi bakho. Kwaye kunzima ukuhlala kwimaski. Kodwa, ukuba unobaluleke gqitha kwaye unonwabo - ukuzithemba.
Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha kweentlanga zitshintshile njani, izibini ezinamandla kunabo bonke abantu bafuna abafazi. Kuphela kwimeko xa umntu ethanda wena ngendlela ongenayo kwaye engenzi indima, intombazana ivakalelwa. Ngako oko, ngaphambi kokuba uzame, cinga: ngaba kukufanele konke ubomi ukubiza kunye nokufuna uthando lomntu, okanye kungcono ukulinda nokudibana nomntu oza kufuna wena, kuba uya kuthanda.