Albert Camus.
Namhlanje kwihlabathi kukho abantu abaninzi kwaye baninzi banenkxalabo kwaye behlala bebuza - kutheni kunzima ukufumana uthando lwakho?
Esinye sezizathu eziphambili zokusilela ekuthandeni uthando lwakho ngumqondo wabantu abafuna umlingane wabo womntu, ukuba baya kuthandana kuphela xa bezithanda baze bafumane abantu ababathandana nabo. Ama-singles abukela uthando lwabo, kodwa baxakeka kule mvakalelo. Uthando ludluliselwa kusasa kwaye, njenge-Alberta, e-Alberta, ayiqondi ukuba kusasa kuza. Kutheni? Xa umntu ethanda ngakumbi, unamandla ngakumbi kunye novelwano lwabanye, kwaye ngokuchasene - ukungabi naluthando kuya kubangela abanye.
Amadoda nabasetyhini abaye baqala le ndlela, ngokwemvelo, abayiqondi le meko yengqondo, kodwa ifunyanwa rhoqo. Kwimeko ethile, iholide, kwindawo yokuzonwabisa, i-movie eqhubekayo, inye imeko efanayo iyaqhubeka: nakunoma yimuphi umcimbi, ibhinqa efuna uthando, ekhulume kunye neendoda zamadoda kwaye ingafumani isikhulu kwihashe elimhlophe, iqela okanye lixoxa kuphela nabantu ababaziyo kunye nabo bonke abanye abantu bayeke ukuhlala.
Qinisekisa ukuba unqanda uthando lwakho, oku kuthetha ubomi, ngomso, unokuzama kwizinto ezilandelayo: ukuba ulibazise ukuthengwa kwezinto ezintle, ukutya, ukuhamba okuthakazelisayo kunye neentengiso ekukhanyeni nakwinto enjengelo "suku olukhulu" ngelixa, xa ukuhlangabezana nothando, ngoko uhlala ngomso kwaye ufumane uthando lwakho luya kuba nzima kakhulu. Ukuze uchithe ixesha kwaye ufumane esinye nesahlulo sakho sodwa kufuneka ufunde ezo zimpawu ezinomdla wobomi bexesha elizayo, ufunde ukunika nokufumana uthando. Konke oku kuya kukutsala ngokuchanekileyo kwabo bantu abanezimpawu ozifunayo.
Ukongeza kwizinto eziye zacatshangelwa, kunokubakho nezinye izizathu zokhuseleko, ukufunyanwa kwezinto eziyimfuneko zesikhashana, ezengqondo, mhlawumbi zezemali nezinye iindleko ezifunekayo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu apha akuyi kulahleka ithemba ngenxa yamaxesha angcono.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunzima kangakanani ukufumana uthando lwakho, kwinqanaba elithile, kunjalo, kufuneka ucinge ngamanani amanqaku anomdla. Kubalulekile ukujonga ngaphaya komsebenzi - ngokukhawuleza umhlobo ohleli etafileni esondeleyo isiqingatha sakho? Unokuzama ukuthetha kunye noogxa, kwaye mhlawumbi ubuhlobo buya kukhula lube yinto enengqiqo, kungekhona ukuba uyayithanda, kodwa umzekelo, ubungqina obuqinileyo nobuqinileyo, obubaluleke kakhulu.
Unako, emva kokuba uhlalise induduzo yekhaya lakho, yenza ukuba uqhelane nge-Intanethi, leyo leyo, ukuba uyakhawuleza, kunokubangela into enenjongo. Isitratato sinika namathuba amaninzi okuthandana-ngamanye amaxesha ngamazwi ambalwa kwintengiso, ibhasi okanye kwi-alley epaki eya kufumana umntu omdala.
Kwakhona kunokwenzeka ukuba ujwayelane kwiiklabhu, kwiindawo zokuzonwabisa, kwiindawo zokuzonwabisa, kwiindawo zokutyela nakwezinye iindawo zoluntu, nakwiindawo zokutyelela okanye kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zokutyelela. Kule meko kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukuziphatha komntu, ukubonakala kwayo kungabonakalisa ukuhlonipha kwayo, oku kubaluleke ngakumbi kwiimeko zobuqhetseba kunye nokukhwabanisa rhoqo. Inombolo yolwandle, kunokuba ixhomekeke kwisini kuphela, esiza kuvuyisa, kodwa iya kugqiba ngokukhawuleza xa uhlala kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo kunye nezisindo. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuba uqhelanise kwaye ufumane umphefumlo wakho umlingane, nantsi into ephambili ayikuhlala phantsi kwaye ulinde xa ifika, kwaye wenze kwaye ke akudingeki ucinge ngendlela kwaye kutheni kunzima ukufumana uthando lwakho.