Kufuneka ufundise abantwana ukuba bavelele. Oko kukuthi, ukuba kukho into eyenzeka kumntu omdala, ngoko uyazisola okanye uxolele. Bafundise ukuba bancede. Nangona kunjalo, abantwana kufuneka bakwazi ukuqonda ukuba abantu abasondeleyo kufuneka banakekele. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale ecinga ngabantu abathandekayo. Kwaye kubalulekile kumzekelo wakho ukubonisa abantwana indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo, inhlonipho, bathande abazali bakho okanye ugogo nomkhulu. Musa ukufihla imvakalelo yakho phambi koyihlo okanye utata, phambi koonyana bakho. Unokuphinda onke amazwi emini eya kuba ngumgangatho wakho wokunxibelelana kumntwana wakho. Kufuneka kuboniswe ukuba abantu abatsha kufuneka banakekele abantu abadala, malunga nogogo kunye noomkhulu, oye wanyamekela ngawe. Emva koko kwiminyaka emininzi uza kufumana ubuhlobo obulindele. Baya kuba nomdla kwimpilo yenu, imizwelo, baya kukunyamekela.
Nangona kunjalo, oku kulula ukwenza kwilizwe apho abantwana bebuntwaneni babona ootatomkhulu ekhaya. Ngokomzekelo, eNgilani kuya kuba nzima kakhulu, kwimbono yam, ukufumana le ntlungu kumntwana, kuba kuyinto yokuba abantwana bakhuliswe ngumama wabo. Kakade, wonke umntu uyazi ukuba kukho umfazi olungele ukuzala umntwana emva kweminyaka engama-30. Okokuthi, ukuba le ntsapho inekhaya, umsebenzi ohlawulelwayo. Kwaye emva kokuba konke oko banquma ukuzala. Kodwa kukho into enye kodwa. Akuyinto yesiko kubagogo ukuba banakekele abazukulu babo. Okokuthi, umama kufuneka azinakekele.
Kodwa kukho amazwe apho abazali abatsha bahlala emva kokudalwa kwentsapho kwaye bahlala kunye nabazali babo. Kula mazwe, abantwana banikwa ngokuzalwa emva kweminyaka engama-20-25. Le nto ayiyiyo ingqalelo kakhulu ehlawulwa kwiimeko eziphathekayo. Kungenxa yokuba kubakho abantu abadala, okuba ngabazali bomyeni wakhe nangaliphi na ixesha xa kunzima ukuba unike uncedo lwakho kunye nezinto zokomoya. Kula mazwe, uxanduva logogo kukunyamekela umzukulu wakhe. Akukho mntu wenza ukuba enze konke. Yena ngokwakhe uyayifuna kwaye unike bonke uthando lwakhe nothando kubazukulwana bakhe. Kwizinto ezinjalo iintsapho akunakunzima ukukhupha umntwana ngengqondo yokuhlonela okanye ukuthanda abazali bakhe okanye abadala. Ekubeni bebona yonke imihla kwintsapho yabo inhlonipho yabazali babo ekunyamezelweni kwabo badala. Babona ukuba oogogo nomkhulu bayazinakekela. Kula mazwe kwiipaki unokuhlala udibana noogogo ohamba nabazukulwana babo. Okanye abahambahambayo abanezinsana, oogogo baqhekeza. Sekude ngokwayo, kukho uxhulumano phakathi kwabantu abadala kunye nabantwana. Kwaye ekumomothekayo akunakwenzeka ukuba baphatha kakubi izihlobo zabo. Ukuba umntu ubona uthando aze ahloniphe yonke imihla, unokuyiqonda njani into embi? Kwamazwe afana neArmenia, eGeorgia, eRashiya, kulula ukufaka intlonelo kubantwana. Kwaye akufuneki umgudu omkhulu, kuba sele sele unako, kunokuthiwa, egazini. Kodwa amazwe aseYurophu, apho umntwana ehlala kuphela nabazali bakhe kunye nokutyelela oogogo nomntwana kuphela kanye ngenyanga okanye kanye ngeveki, ngoko ke imimiselo iyafuneka.
Enye ingcebiso, indlela yokufaka abantwana inhlonipho ngootatomkhulu babo, umzekelo, ubaxelela ngamabali malunga nabo. Into enomdla, ehlekisayo. Ngokomzekelo, unokuxelela ukuba ugogo wayeziphatha njani ekuzalweni kwakhe, ukukhathazeka, xa oogqirha babika ukuba ube ngumakhulu. Ziziphi izipho ayithengileyo xa esemncinane. Abantwana bahlala befuna ukuphulaphula amabali malunga nabathandekayo babo. Oku akunakwenzeka kodwa kubasondeza koogogo nomkhulu. Baqala ukucinga ngesidingo sokubathanda izalamane zabo, ukuhlonela kunye nokunyamekela kwabo. Emva kweminyaka, oogogo baya kuba ngabafazi abadala abadala abangenakunceda abanonophelo. Yaye ukuba umntwana wakho uyayiqonda le nto, ngoko kukufanelekile. Unokubamba kumntwana wakho zonke iimvakalelo, inceba kunye novelwano. Ngoko sele usenze into eninzi. Kwaye abantwana bakho bafunde ukuhlonipha kuphela oogogo babo, kodwa nabo bonke abantu abadala.