Ngaba ucinga ukuba ukuphakama, ubunzima kunye nokubala kwakho kuxhomekeke kuwe kuphela, mhlawumbi kunye nabathandekayo bakho? Akunandaba nokuba kunjalo! Kuye kwavela ukuba le nkcazelo ye-anthropological ingakuxelela malunga neempawu zakho zobuqu kunoma yimuphi umntu oqhagamshelana nawe. Kwaye, ngokuchaseneyo, ngokufunda "ukufunda" umgaqo-siseko, unokukwazi ukuchaza ngokucacileyo ukuba umlingani wakho uza kuziphatha njani kule nto okanye kuloo meko. Eli nqaku liza kukufundisa indlela yokujonga uhlobo lobume bomntu.
NJANI ABAKHULU ABAKHULU?
Ukhula luphawu olubonakalayo lubonakalayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuhlala rhoqo phakathi kobuninzi kunye nomgangatho wengqondo kunye nobude bomzimba akubonakali. Nangona kunjalo, ukukhula kuchaphazela kakhulu umlingiswa womntu, amandla akhe okuthetha. Umzekelo, umntu okhulayo ophezulu uneza "ubunzima". Kwaye ngokuthe ngqo.
Kutheni abantu bengabonakali ngokubaluleka ngokubaluleka kokukhula, ngokubanzi, kuyaqondakala. Abantu bavela kwiimeko apho ukukhula kwakunxulumene namandla. Kwaye oko kwakubaluleke kakhulu, ngakumbi kubantu. Ukubamba, ukufumana, ukuphumelela, ukukhusela - ezi ziinjongo abantu abaye bazama ukuzifezekisa kuwo onke amaxesha, kwaye, kwixesha la mandulo, lingafunyanwa kuphela ngoncedo lwamandla.
Emva kwexesha, ubudlelwane obuphakathi kokukhula kunye nomoya luye lwaguqulwa ngandlela-thile. Akuyona into yokuba nayiphi na umntwana ephupha ukuba akhule ngokukhawuleza ukuba abe mkhulu, oko kungukuthi, kungekhona nje umnini wamandla okwenyama, kodwa kunye nelungu elipheleleyo loluntu. Kwaye umnqweno wamakhwenkwe ukuba ukhule ngokukhawuleza unobuninzi ngaphezu kwamantombazana. Ukugxeka ekukhuleni ukusuka kwontanga kudala ubunzima obunzima obuphantsi. Yingakho amadoda amaninzi aphantsi abonakaliswa ngolu hlobo njengento ephakamileyo yeenjongo, ngamanqaku athile afanelekileyo (khumbula ukuba zifunyenwe zihlandlo ezithandanayo: unomntu omfutshane kunye nekhredithi enkulu, ungumzekelo omdala osemilenze) kunye novakalelo olunzulu kwiimvavanyo zabanye.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba i-statics ephakamileyo iyangqina ukuba amadoda aphantsi aya kuba ngabathandekayo abathandekayo. Kakade! Indoda encinane kwintathu yokutshatyalaza ixoxa ukuba i-hormone yakhe ayifumanekanga, njengoko amantombazana enqwenela ukudibana nabafana abade. Uqala ukukhangela ngenyameko iqabane, ukulwa nalo ngokomqondo nangokomfuziselo, ukufunda ukuba ungayi kulahlekelwa yintliziyo kunye nokufumana iindlela ezintsha, ezona zinzulu zokunqoba iintliziyo zamantombazana. Kubonakala ukuba, ukuqala kwimigangatho engabonakaliyo ngenxa yokukhula kwabo, "amafutshane" ngamanye amaxesha afinyelela ukukhawuleza okukhawulezayo. Ngaphezu koko, kukho ixesha elininzi lokuba amadoda anjalo kuphuhliso loluntu. Ngoxa abantu abathandekayo bebaleka kwiintlanganiso ezingapheliyo, "iifutshane" zihanjiswe ukuba zifunde, zisebenze. Kodwa isimo sengqondo sabasetyhini ekukhuleni siyahluke. Ukuba le nkosikazi ayisebenzi kule podium, ukukhula kwayo okuphezulu kunokuyenza inqabileyo. Amadoda athathaka kakhulu (okunjalo uhlobo lwalo) ukuqonda ukubanjwa kwebhinqa, kwimeko efana nokukhula. Kwaye abafazi be-intuitively bafunde ukuba ukukhula okuphezulu kunciphisa amathuba abo ekungeneni kwimbono yesiqingatha esomeleleyo sobuntu.
♦ Kakade, ukukhula akukwazi ukulungiswa, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba kusebenze. Abasetyhini abaphakamileyo, abanomphathi okhulayo kunye nenja ehleliyo, akufanele babekwe kwiinkonzo zesikhumba. Kutheni ikhishini lilimale? Zama ukukhetha iingubo kwipateni yesigaba esinqamlekileyo kwaye unamathele ngokuthe ngqo iinwele.
♦ Abasetyhini abasemncinci, eduze kwabo naliphi na i-Napoleon yiBonaparte, bafanele bathathe inzuzo "ngekhalenda" yabo - banxibe izicathulo ezinezithende eziphakamileyo, "i-la Babette" kunye neengubo zokugqoka kunye namaqhosha ahlelwe ngokuzenzekelayo, njl.
ZINYE ZI-KILOGRAM?
Ngokubhekisele kwimeko yokubonakala komntu, uhlobo lomzimba wakhe lunokwahlula kwiintlobo ezintathu zabantu. Iyokuqala uhlobo lwe-asthenic, oluphezulu, oluxhomekekileyo, elincinci, elinesigxina. Abesibini - abantu bemizimba evulekile, bathambekele ekuzaleni. Zivame ukuba zincinci, kunye nesisu esikhulu. Ziye zincinci, iinwele zendalo, ekuhambeni kwexesha ziyakwazi ukulandelelana. Iingcali zabo zengqondo zibiza "iipiknikics". Icandelo lesithathu liquka isisombululo esisisigxina, esibanzi ngokubanzi, kunye nesimangcu esiphucukileyo somntu ngamnye. Iingcali zabo zengqondo zibiza "iimidlalo". Xa uza kugqiba uhlobo lomzimba ngelihlo, qwalasela izinto ezikhethiweyo "zokuzingela kuzwelonke" ukutya. Lowo ufumene ilungu leqela lesibini, lingaba ngumntu wofuzo ovela kuqala. Kwaye ngokuthe ngqo.
Umgaqo-siseko uhambelana ngqo ... nokugula kwengqondo. Kuyabonakala ukuba abantu abasempilweni abanokhathazeka ngengqondo baphila.
♦ Thatha, umzekelo, abantu abane-"schizophrenic touch". Ngokudibeneyo kweemeko, nganye iphila ngokukhuselekileyo kwaye isebenza, kodwa kwiimeko ezinzima, izimo ezinobungozi zibonisa iimpendulo ze-schizophrenic. La madoda, ngokutsho kweengqondo zengqondo, bashiye iklasi ye-asthenics. Umntu owaziwayo emhlabeni wonke u-Athos ngummeli ocacileyo we-schizoids. Olunye ulwahlulo, ukutyekela ukucinga okungabonakali konke.
♦ Ukuba ungowokuzalwa kwee "picnics", ngoko ngokokungahambi kakuhle kwengqondo ungaqwalaselwa nge-cycloid. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu balolu hlobo bavuya kwaye banxibelelana. (Ukuba ufumana ukufana okufanayo, ungabiza "ipiknikishi" ePorthos.) Kodwa ukuba ukudakumba kuye kwahamba, ke kuyaqhubeka umjikelezo obekwe kuso. Emva koko uphinde utshintshe kumjikelezo wesimo esihle.
♦ Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, "ii-athletics" ziqela leentlobo ze-viscose. Okokuthi, aba bantu bancinci ukugula ngengqondo. Kwaye xa kunjalo, kwindlela yokuhluthwa. Abadlali bazinzima ukulungelelanisa iimeko ezintsha, baqaphele ekucingeni kwabo.
Kodwa iimpawu zokuziphatha? Konke kulula. Phendula, ungacingi, ucinga njani u-nervous, caustic, gallbladder? Uhlobo oluhle, olumnandi, nolonwabo? Mhlawumbi ininzi yethu isalathisi sokuqala sincinci, kwaye yesibini - emzimbeni.
Sinemibono enjalo evela kwiokhokho ezikude ezazikholelwa ukuba umfazi onomdla unempilo ephezulu kwaye akanakukwazi ukuzinza, kwaye ngoko unako ukuvelisa kwaye ukhule inzala epheleleyo. Indoda ehluthayo yayidibene nokuchuma kunye nokuthula endlwini. Ubugcisa bexesha elidlulileyo lalingumqondiso wobuthakathaka nokunyuka, uhlobo oluthile lomtshato "wendalo".
Ngoku siza kufutshane. Xa sele udibene nomnxibelelwano, uninzi oluthe tyekele ekuzaleni, kunokunyamekela, unokuziphatha ngokulula kwaye ukhululekile. Ukususela kumntu onjalo akanakulindela ukunyaniseka okanye "ukuvuthela emva." Ukuba umlingani wakho ocacileyo, uqokelele kwaye uthethathe ngenyameko nangenyameko. Ukunxibelelana nabalinganiswa, uhlonywe "ama-Fifty-Fifty", khetha uhlobo oluthile lomgca ophakathi phakathi kwezi zibini zikhankanywe ngasentla.
AH, SHEARS!
Njengoko akukho mzekelo ofanayo kwiintendelezo, ngoko akukho zimbini ezifanayo ezinyawo kwihlabathi.
♦ Ukuba unemilenze emide, awukwazi ukufihla isimo sakho sothando kwabanye. Wena, ngokuqinisekileyo, ulindela ekuthandweni kwangaphambili, ulwandle kwaye uhamba phantsi kwenyanga. Ngokuqhelekileyo awunakulungele ukuxazulula iingxaki ezahlukeneyo kwaye uzame ukufumana "umva" ongazifihla.
♦ Abanemigudu emifutshane banokufuna kwaye baqhube ngokukhawuleza ukudla isidlo sokuqala kunye nomtsha omtsha. Bomelele emhlabathini, kwaye abayidingi i-pink drooling. Iingxaki ngabo bantu zixazululwa xa zifika. Enyanisweni, banokulindela utshintsho rhoqo kwiimvakalelo.
Indlela yokujonga ukuba imaphi imilenze 'ugqoke'? Ubude bemilenze bujongwa njengesiqhelo xa lilingana nesiqingatha sokuphakama kwebhinqa kunye ne-3-8 cm. Ukuba ubude babo buyingaphantsi kwesigamu sokuphakama, imilenze ibalwa njengefutshane. Ukuba lilingana nobude be-9 cm okanye ngaphezulu-ubude.
KANYE, OKUYI, GAIT!
Ukuchaza ubunjani bokubonakala komzimba, ngamanye amaxesha umntu ukhohliwe malunga nento ephambili - malunga nexabiso. Kodwa uthetha ngeyona nto! Ukuba uhamba ukukhubeka, ukukhwela kancinci ngaphakathi, abanye banokuqonda ukuba unamahloni kwaye ungonwabi ebomini bakho. Nangona oku kuyinyaniso, umntu akafanele avume abantu abangaziwa kwiimeko ezimbi. Qala ukuhlakulela iinyawo ezinqabileyo, ezindizayo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza zivela kuma-abalandeli aziyi kubakho izibane! Asiyathethi ngemilenze yabantu, ngenxa yokuba ayithwali imithwalo yempilo yengqondo.