Kodwa aba "bantwana kunye nabazukulu" abafanayo bahlala bethetha ngokukhawuleza ngolu hlobo "lomtshato womtshato" kwaye bakhetha olu hlobo lwentsebenziswano kunye nobudlelwane baseburhulumenteni, obunqamle isitampu kwipaspoti, kaninzi.
Izizathu ezikhuthaza abantu abaselula ukuba bangazibophelelanga ngezibophelelo zomthetho bahluke. Amadoda afana neenkululeko zentando inkululeko, abangafuni ukuzibophelela nayiphi na imbopheleleko. Nangona baya kuzalisekisa le mbopheleleko, kulula ukuba bafeze ngaphandle kokunyanzeliswa ngokusemthethweni.
Abafazi banzima ngakumbi. Umfazi onqabileyo ubeka imeko ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane bokuqala bomtshato, ngenxa yokuba ululahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo ngokungaqhelekanga.
Isimo sengqondo sengqondo sabasetyhini kumtshato womtshato sichaphazelwa ngumtshato wabo ophindaphindiweyo. Ngamanye amaxesha amava amabi "olwalamano olusemthethweni" athetha ukuba kuphephile kwaye kulula ukuhlala kunye nomntu othandekayo ngaphandle kwemfanelo. Ukongezelela, oku kwenza ubudlelwane phakathi komntu nomfazi bomelele kwaye baqaphele, kuba onke amaxesha kukhona ukwesaba ukuba omnye wabo uya kuthatha kwaye ahambe. Yaye nangona iphuma, ke kukho ukudibanisa-ayiyi kuba nayo yonke le tape ebomvu ehamba kunye neenkqubo zesahlukaniso somtshato.
Akunakwenzeka ukuba ungakhankanyi ngokuthethiwa ngabafazi abakhululekileyo. Bayeke ukuyeka ukwenza yonke imisebenzi abafazi ababizwa ngayo ukuba bayenze emtshatweni. Zizimeleyo, zilahla ngokwazo, iimali zazo kunye nexesha ngokwengqiqo yazo kwaye azidingi umntu ofumana umvuzo, owayesetyenziswe ngokuqhelekileyo njengentloko yentsapho kunye nesondlo. Kwaye nangona abafazi abanjalo bafuna indoda enamandla kunye nenkathalo ecaleni kwabo, umtshato ngokombono wabo ungumgangatho obangela ingxaki engadingekile, kuba abayi kuyeka umsebenzi, indlela yabo yobomi kunye nokuba umntwana akayi kutshintsha le meko.
Inani elikhulu labasetyhini abakhetha ubudlelwane be-free ezamahala abameli be-stratum efanelekileyo yokubambisa, abantu abathiwa be-elite. Ukuzalwa ngokuzimeleyo ngokwezemali, eziphethe zonke iinjongo zentlalo, abafazi beli qela badla ngokunciphisa inkululeko yabo. Ukulahla isizathu esisisiseko senani lomtshato, oko kukuthi imali, babeka ubudlelwane benothando ngokwabo entliziyweni.
Isangqa njengoko kubonakala ngathi, kuyinto eqhelekileyo kumaqela angeniso-mali aphantsi ukuba aqiniseke ubudlelwane kwaye kuphakathi kwabesetyhini abanjalo ukuba ipesenti yabafazi abangatshatanga ziphezulu. Okokuqala, oku kubangelwa kukuba ininzi yabo ibona injongo yabo ekudaleni intsapho, emtshatweni. Kodwa hayiyo yonke indoda yintsapho eqinile. Emva kokuba imitshato idlalwe kwaye yonke imali isetyenzisiwe, umzuzu wenyaniso ufika - iingxaki zemihla ngemihla, apho, njengokwaziwayo, abaninzi abantu bathanda izikebhe ziphukile.
Ngoko, imfundo kwizithethe ezizimeleyo, umnqweno wokugcina umntu ocebileyo okanye imbono yengane ezayo, onelungelo "lokuqinisekiswa ngumthetho" uthetha konke oku kuchaza isimo sengqondo sengqondo sabasetyhini kwimibandela yomtshato, apho ikhefu lenzeke khona. Abafazi abanjalo bajonge phambili kwixesha elizayo, baqiniseke ngeengxaki zemali. Kodwa njengokuba kukho ukubonisa, umtshato oseburhulumenteni awunesiqinisekiso sokuphumelela kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ubudlelwane bexesha elide. Kuninzi kuxhomekeke kubayeni nakwabasetyhini ngokwabo kunye nombono wabo ngokwabo kwindlela yoluntu. Isimo sengqondo sabasetyhini siqondakalayo - bahlala becala ngokungaqiniseki nokugwetywa kokuziphatha, njengoko izibini ezitshatileyo zisabonwa njengomzekelo kummandla wethu, kunye nabasetyhini abangenabantwana bavelwano.