Ngamanye amaxesha ebomini bethu kukho iintlekele. Sonke siyafa, kwaye oku akunakuphetshwa. Ukulahlekelwa ngumntwana, ngamnye abazali kufuneka bazi ukuba ubomi emva kokufa komntwana akayekanga. Kodwa indlela yokusinda ekufeni komntwana?
Ngeli nqanaba, uya kufuna inkxaso, amandla kunye namandla omoya. Ukufa komntwana kukulahlekelwa kakhulu kumntu ngamnye kuthi, kodwa kunzima xa uqaphela ukuba ulahlekelwe yinxalenye yobomi bakho.
Kubalulekile ukuzama ukuphazamiseka kule ntlungu kwaye ukuqonda ukuba ukulahlekelwa yilahleko kuboniswe yimpumelelo ephambili. Ukwenza oku, udinga ukusabalalisa izinto zezingane kwiindawo zokuhlala ezentlalo. Kwaye ekukhunjuleni yena kunye nezihlobo zakhe kufuneka bashiye abathandekayo abathandekayo kwiintliziyo zintliziyo. Kufuneka uyenze nezithombe.
Tshintsha ingqalelo kwaye unakekele omnye umntwana kwintsapho okanye kubazukulwana, ukuba unayo. Uninzi lwenduduzo lunokufunyanwa ngokwenza into. Zama ukuthatha into enjalo, kunokuba awuzange ujonge ukwenza ngaphambili, apho bekungekho ixesha elaneleyo. Ungayisebenzisi kakubi ibandla okanye uziphosele kwinkolo entsha, ingaba sisiphelo esibuhlungu. Ukuba uziva unamandla, thatha umntwana kwintandane. Emva koko endlwini iya kuza iholide kunye naloo mntwana, kwaye kuwe, ungabuyela kuye uthando olungenasiphelo kwaye ngekamva uya kuba yinkxaso yakho.
Umntu osinda ekufeni komntwana uhlala yedwa kunye nale ntlungu. Ukujikeleza kuya kuba khona kwaye kumncede, kodwa baya kuphepha ukuthetha ngokufa. Yaye ingqiqo yenkxaso ayenayo iya kuncitshiswa kwi-2-inqaku elithi "Ubomi buqhubeka," "Yomelela".
Ukulawula isimo sakho sengqondo, kufuneka ukwazi izigaba zentlungu. Oku kuya kunceda ukuqonda, nokuba ufikeleleka kwenye yazo kwaye kuya kufuneka uphendule kubafundi.
Isigaba sokuqala sothuswa kwaye sinzima
Kuyo awukwazi ukumkela ilahleko kwaye ungakholelwa kuyo. Abantu baziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo, bayiqhwala ngenxa yentlungu, bazame ukuzikhohlwa ngokwabo ekuhleleni imingcwabo. Umntu akayiqondi apho kwaye kutheni yena, ngubani. Kwaye ke iinkqubo zokusilalisa, izithambiso eziqabulayo ziya kunceda. Musa ukuhlala wodwa, ukuba unako, ukukhala. Eli nqanaba liphela iintsuku ezili-9.
Isigaba sokungabikho
Ihlala kwiintsuku ezingama-40, sele uqonde ukulahlekelwa kwakho, kodwa ingqalelo ayikwazi ukuyifumana. Ngeli xesha, abantu bakuva ilizwi kunye namanyathelo omntwana oshiyile. Ukuba ephupha, mcele ukuba eze kuwe, uthethe naye ephupheni. Mkhumbule, khuluma ngaye kunye nabahlobo kunye nezihlobo. Ngeli thuba, iinyembezi eziqhelekileyo zibhekwa njengesiqhelo, kodwa akufanele zihlale iintsuku. Ukuba le meko ayidluli, kufuneka ujike kwi-psychologist.
Ixesha elizayo lifikelela kwiinyanga ezi-6 emva kokufa. Ngeli xesha kuvela ukuqonda ngentlungu kunye nokwamkelwa kwelahleko. Kuze kube buthathaka, kwaye kuqiniswe. Emva kweenyanga ezi-3 kuya kubakho ubugwenxa "Undishiyile" kunye neengcinga zecala "Andikwazi ukukusindisa", ugonyamelo lungadluliselwa kwimeko, kubahlobo bendodana, kuogqirha, oku kuqhelekileyo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ulwalamano aluyikukhupha kwaye le miva akuzange ibe yinto ebalulekileyo.
Olunye ukhululo luya kwenzeka ngonyaka emva kokufa komntwana. Yaye ukuba unokukwazi ukulawula intlungu yakho, ke le mvakalelo ayiyi kuba nzima kakhulu njengolu suku losizi.
Ukuba uye wafumana zonke izigaba, ekupheleni konyaka wesibini inkqubo yokulila igqityiwe. Awuyi kukulibala umntwana oshonile, kodwa ufunde ukuhlala ngaphandle kwayo, ukudabuka akusoloko kuhamba kunye neinyembezi. Uya kuba nefuthe lobomi, iinjongo ezintsha kunye nezicwangciso ezintsha. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba buhlungu nokuba ndifuna ukwenza ntoni nam, khumbula ukuba kukho abantu obathandayo. Kufuneka uzinakekele zona. Simele siphile, kuba kulula ukufa.