Enye yeemvakalelo ezinzima kunomona. Uyidla umntu ngaphakathi. Emva koko, kukho ukucaphuka, umsindo, intukuthelo, nokuzithemba. Ngokuqinisekileyo kubangelwa uluhlu lwezono ezibulalayo zomntu, lunokutshabalaliswa kalula. Ingqondo yethu iphelile ukuqonda ngokwaneleyo ulwazi kwaye iphinda iphinde iphindze umbuzo ofanayo: "Kuthiwani ngam?". Andiyicingi ukuba umntu ulungile ngoluvo lokuphila. Ngoko masiqonde - qwalasela intsingiselo yelizwi elithi "umona" kwingqondo.
Yintoni inomona?
Ukuqala, siza kuqonda intsingiselo yomona. Ukususela kwingcamango yengqondo, inzondelelo ibangelwa ngumnqweno wokuthelekisa into yonke ixesha. Ubuntu bulumko kwaye ucinga, uhlalutya rhoqo into ethile, kunye nohlalutyo ngaphandle kokufanisa. Kule ndlela kulandela ukuba abantu abangaba nomona nje abakho. Omnye umbuzo yile nto enokuzibonakalisa ngayo kwaye ifuthe ihlabathi lethu langaphakathi. Uthelekiso lujoliswe kwinto ethile umntu ayenayo. Isihloko singaba zizinto eziphathekayo kunye neempawu zomntu ngamnye. Umzekelo, ikharityhulam kunye nokukwazi ukuthetha. Wonke umntu ongenakukwazi ukufumana yonke into kanye, ngoko ke kukho umntu onokuningi. Kodwa lo mgaqo-nkqubo wokuthelekiswa okungapheli uthatha iingcambu zawo zonke ebuntwaneni obufanayo. Kwanqanaba lokuqala, ootitshala bafanisa abantwana: "Nantsi nguSasha, wenza ngcono kunommelwane wakho." Kwaye nendima efanayo nabazali: "Wenzani na umsebenzi? Kwaye nabanye abantwana? ". Yaye ukuba umntwana uphelele kwabanye - udumo. Ukuba akunjalo, bakugxeka. Olu hlobo lwamava olutsha lusishukumisela ukuba senze izinto ezongezelelekileyo kunye "nezenzo." Ungalokothi uqhathanise nomntwana nabani na, ukuze umgca wekhwele ungabi ngumpawu kubo nangabantu abadala. Impumelelo yomntwana wakho inokuqhathaniswa neyakhe, ukumbonisa ukuphuhliswa.
Umona awubonakali kuphela ngenxa yokuthelekiswa, umona uphinde ukhuphiswano. Emva koko, njengokuba izilwanyana zikhuphisana ngendawo yokuhlala, kunjalo nabantu. Kakade, inzondo ekhohlakeleyo ikhona phakathi kwabantu abanobuhlobo bentlalo efanayo kuluntu, kwaye bafuna izinto ezifanayo okanye iingenelo zokomoya. Sinomona ngabalingana nabo, izihlobo, abahlobo, osebenza nabo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu, ufunde imbali yomhlaba, uya kuba nomona ngeenkwenkwezi zaseHollywood kangangokuthi wathenga enye indlu. Nangona kunjalo, kukho nabameli abanjalo abanomona onomdla. Banoba nomona ngomntu wonke nantoni, esitalatweni, emsebenzini, kwi-cinema. Kule meko, kufuneka uqhagamshelane neengcali.
Umnyama "nomnyama" nomona
Sinomona, siyaqonda ukuba oku kubi. Isazela siyathetha kuthi, kwaye siqala ukufuna isizathu sokuba ndikhwele ngobubele. Kubantu kukho igama elithi "umhlophe" umona, ongenanto yokungabikho komthetho. Kwaye ndiza kukuthukuthela: umona awuyi kutshintsha umbala wendalo. Kukho ngokwalo. Ukuba sinene into enyanisekileyo neyinyanisekileyo, ngoko-ke ayinomona, kodwa uyamhlonela. Ubona intombi yakho kwisigqoko esitsha, kwaye uyamthanda. Uyavuya ukuba ibonakala enhle kakhulu, ngeli xesha udibanayo, kwaye ungabi nomona. Kwi-concerto ye-virtuoso, xa wena ngokwakho ungazange ubeke isitya ezandleni zakho, andicinga ukuba uthi "Ndiyammona", kunokuthi "ndiyamthanda". Kodwa ukuba ufunde naye kunye, kodwa awuphumelelanga, unokuzifihla. Udumo luyamkelwa, kwaye umona unomona.
Sondela kwi nyaniso
Abantu abaninzi abakwazi ukufumana ukunqoba kwabanye abantu kunye nokunyuka, ngenxa yokuba abazi into abayifunayo ebomini babo. Ewe, unokunika uluhlu lweminqweno yakho. Kodwa ngaba uya kuqiniseka ukuba lo ngumnqweno wakho, kwaye ungafani nokukopisha umntu. Ngokomzekelo, uzama ukunciphisa umzimba, umonelele abahlobo bakho, obani, ngombono wakho, amanani alungileyo. Uzama konke okusemandleni akho, kodwa konke akunanto. Ngenxa yoko, umona uyanzulu, uhlala unesihawu.
Mhlawumbi simele siqale sijonge izinto? Yivume njengoko ukhona, ukunciphisa ukubaluleka kokulahlekelwa ubunzima, kwaye uqaphele indlela umona ngokwawo uza kutshabalala ngayo. Kukho imeko xa ingxaki, eqinisweni, imele iphendulwe ngokuhlukileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu onomona akakwazi ukufezekisa oko akufunayo. Kubonakala kuye ukuba iqela eliqhelekileyo lawa livela esibhakabhakeni. Akazange amhawukele xa 'ephosa njengegrowug invili' ukuvula ityala. Yeka uze uzibuze umbuzo: ngaba unokuphinda uphane? Ngaba ufuna le nto? Xa sineenjongo ezininzi ezilinganayo nemikhosi yethu, into yokuba umona ayibonakali.
Zininzi iindlela zokujamelana nomona
• Ungayithandi njani, kodwa uyavuma ukuba le mvakalelo ihlala kuwe. Oku kuza kuba yimpumelelo enkulu. Emva koko, abo bavumelani nxamnye nale nto, kwaye ngaba ngabaphathi bekhwele.
• Khumbula ukuba umona ungakhokelela ekuphazamiseni ukuphazamiseka. Andicingi ukuba uyayidinga.
• Hlaziya ukuba ngubani na into enomona, ukuba kunzima ukwenza engqondweni yakho, yenza uluhlu. Umzekelo, uhanjelwe ngumona ngabanye abantu. Ngoko ke yinto nje. Akukho bantu abagqibeleleyo kwihlabathi, kwaye banamacala abo angalunganga. Musa ukujonga ngapha, kodwa kunoko umthobele umyeni wakho, ingaba unayo impazamo. Buyela kuye, kwaye ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi uya kunika izinto ezintle.
• Thelekisa kunye nawe, kungekhona nabanye. Jabulela ngenguqu, kwaye xa ubona i-regress, qhubeka uthabatha amanyathelo athile. Umona kuphela kukuphazamisa kuwe.
• Unqabana udibana nomntu owanelisekile konke into ebomini bakhe. Ngoko ke, musa ukuphazamisa iimvakalelo zakho, uzive nomona ngenxa yeqabane elingenalutho, elinomyeni wakhe. Ngaba unesiqiniseko sokuthi uvakalelwa kakhulu kule meko? Jabulela bhetele ngento enayo kwaye uye kwiinjongo zakho.
• Ukuba impumelelo yomntu ayikuniki ukuphumla, ngoko uthathe "inhlanhla" izifundo ezimbalwa. Gcina indlela yakhe yokunxibelelana, ukuziphatha nokubonakala. Kodwa, nangayiphi na imeko, musa ukuyikopisha, kuba unobuntu obubini obuhlukeneyo.
• Khangela ixesha elihle kwizinto ezingahambi ngendlela ofuna ngayo. Ukuba wakho umlingane ukhuthazwa esikhundleni sakho, akukho nto, uya kuba nexanduva elingaphantsi kwaye uchithe ixesha elingakumbi kunye nezihlobo zakho.
• Musa ukusebenzisa amandla kumona, kungcono ukuyijika ibe ngcintiswano oluphilileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana oko ufuna.
• Ungacingi ukuba ukuthelekisa nalabo ababi kakhulu kwaye ngaphantsi kwakho kuya kukunceda. Inceda kuphela ekuboneni kuqala, kodwa ngokwenene ukhulula, kwaye uyancipha ngokuzithemba.
• Ungacingi abanye ukuba babe nomona. Cinga ngoobani kunye nento oyithethayo. Ukuba usetyenziselwe ukuxelela wonke umntu malunga nezicwangciso zakho kunye neenjongo zakho, yilahla le ngxoxo. Emva koko, ukuphunyezwa kwabo kuya kufuna amandla amaninzi, ochithayo kwiintetho ezingenanto.
• Kholelwa kuwe, ngobuchule bakho, zama ukuqonda amaphupha akho kunye nethemba.
Xa usebenze ngentsingiselo yegama lomona kwizengqondo, uyaziqonda kakuhle izenzo zakho. Yeka ukunqanda ukuba "uzitye" wena nabanye ngabanye nangaphandle. Khumbula ukuba umona ungenye yezono ezibulalayo. Ngaloo nto ufanele ulwe kwaye uphumelele!