Ibhinqa kwixesha lethu le nkqubela liyaqina kwaye linamandla. Umntu ngokungafuni, kodwa qala ukuthobela. Kwaye, banokwenza ntoni, ngokuchasene nabaphathi kunye nabafazi abalawulayo.
Ubukhosi besifazana yimfundo yokuthobela indoda. Ukuba ungumfazi oqinileyo, kufuneka ufumane umntu obuthakathaka kunani. Kuvela kuye ukuba unokumisela lowo ufuna. Ungenza nantoni na kuye, ubuncinane ikhoboka. Into eyona nto kukukwenza konke ngokuchanekileyo, imfundo yale ngongoma ifuna utshintsho oluncinane kunye nexesha elithile.
Ekuqaleni, amadoda anqula unkosikazi, uyigqoke ezandleni zakhe ngokwemfuziselo nangokomfanekiso. Bafuna ukunika loo ntokazi into ayenazo nangakumbi. Eli bhinqa liyavuya kwaye ngokukhawuleza ligxotha umthandi wakhe "phantsi kwezithende." Amadoda asweleyo awanqabile, ayakuthanda ukuthobela. Ngokuqhelekileyo la madoda ayenomama oqinileyo owayehlala ebonisa ukuphakama kwakhe kwindoda yesini.
Ukuze umntu wakho azithobele kwaye akakwazi ukukuxelela ngelizwi, kufuneka uqale uzibeke ngaphezulu. Ngoko wuleza wazi indawo yakhe yokwenene. Ukuba uqala ukukhathazeka kwaye ulungile, uze uqale ukubonisa izihlunu zakho, ngoko umntu uya kunkwantya kwaye abalekele kuwe.
Umntu obuthathaka uya kuhlala ecela icebiso, uya kujonga ngokoqobo emlonyeni wakho aze alindele impendulo enokumisela. Ukuba uyayinqabela, iyakwazi ukuphosa. Uyimbuyisela kuye umama wakhe othandekayo, owayesenkwantya ngaye, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo wawahlonela kwaye wawaxabisa.
Ukufundisa ukuthobela komntu onobuthakathaka kulula, sele sele ufumene ukuthobela, ukulungele ukuzalisekisa nayiphi na i-whims yakho. Khumbula imithetho emininzi yokukhulisa nokuqina kokukhuliswa.
Kumele umxelele okokuqala ukuba uyintloko yentsapho;
Ilizwi lakho liyokuqala, kwaye lisekondari kwaye alisoloko liqwalaselwa;
Nguwe owona mntu unelungelo lokufumana yonke into, kwaye unemvume yakho ngqo;
Umnqweno wesifazane ngumthetho ongenakukhutshwa;
Ibhinqa yinto ephezulu kunazo zonke, inokuba yinto ephantsi kuneThixo, kodwa ingabi ngaphantsi komntu;
Unquma ukuba uza kwenza ntoni kwaye wenze ntoni, yenza isigqibo, kwaye uyayithobela kuphela le miyalelo.
Kule miyalelo elula neyinkimbinkimbi, ubomi boMninci noMkhonzi bokwakha. Kodwa kuphela ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuthenga "i-real estate", ongenalo ilungelo lokuvula umlomo wakho kulungiso lwakho. Ngoko ukuba akatsho ukuba uya kuphosakela kwaye unetyala, kwaye unokugwetywa.
Izihlwayo zihluke, kuxhomekeke kwinto othanda ngayo. Ingaba yesohlwayo sesigwebo kunye nesohlwayo somzimba. Ezi zihlwayo zithwele uxanduva lobulili phakathi kwakho. Ngoko ukuthetha isandulela ngaphambi kobusuku obunomdla. Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda anjalo embhedeni anqwenela ukuthobela umfazi. Ngokwezesondo, umfazi unokudlala indima enkulu, kwaye enze umthandi wakhe enze konke afuna. Ukumanga imilenze yakhe, kumdlalo omzimba.
Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, ukwenzela ukuba abafazi abangeke bavuke kwintsapho yabo, into ephambili kukuba akufanele iphoqeleke. Akukho mfuneko yobudlova emzimbeni kumntu womntu, ukuqonda okufanayo kuyadingeka kuyo yonke into.
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale "ukudlala" kwintsapho yeNkosikazi kunye neNceku, yenza amalungiselelo kunye neqabane lakho "elunxwemeni" ngendlela eya kusabela ngayo kule nto. Kwaye, ukuba ulungele zonke iimeko zakho, uze uqale ukufundisa ukuthobela kwakhe. Yaye ulawula phezu kwakhe njengoko intliziyo yakho ifuna. Ufuna ukuzithoba kumntu, fumana umviwa ofanelekileyo. Unamandla ngakumbi kwaye unamandla, kwaye ke indima yakho kwintsapho iya kutshintsha, uya kuba khoboka leNkosi yakho.