Yintoni ummangaliso?
Enyanisweni, ukukholelwa emmangalisweni akude kuqinisekiswe ukuba kukho iifairies, unicorns kunye neerons ezilungileyo. Abantu abadala, abantu bakholelwa kwimimangaliso into ehlukileyo. Kunoko, bakholelwa kwinhlanhla, ekuhlanganiseni kweemeko ezenza i-income or material income, utshintsho olumangalisa kwisimo kunye nokuziphatha kwabanye ababa sisiseko sokuphucula ubudlelwane. Kuyisimangaliso ukuba siqhelane ngokuqhelekileyo nabantu ngokukhawuleza sibe yinxalenye yobomi bethu kwaye baphumelele. Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba imimangaliso ayenzekanga, kodwa iziganeko ezininzi zemihla ngemihla zingabonwa njengommangaliso. Umbuzo: njani ukudibanisa nale nto?
Abanye, ekupheleni komsebenzi kunye nokugxuma kwibhasi, okufuneka ukuba idlule imizuzu elishumi edlulileyo, ngokumomotheka ukuthetha ngommangaliso. Ngezinye iindawo, ungayikhokheli nantoni na, okanye ubiza yonke into evamile yokudibanisa kweemeko. Emva kwakho konke, kukho izibane zendlela eziphosakeleyo, ukuqhuma kweendlela, abaqhubi abafuna ukuphuma ngaphandle kwi-kiosk yeekreta. Ngoko luhlobo luni lokuthetha esinokuthetha ngalo? Ewe, imimangaliso eyenzekayo okanye ayiyenzeki ngokuxhomekeke kwindlela esibabonayo ngayo, nokuba siyabona konke. Abanye bakholelwa ngokwenene kwizinto ezintle kunye nemilingo ehlala kwihlabathi lethu, asiboni nje. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, inkolelo enjalo ingabonakala ingabantwana, i-athomu kunye neyengqondo, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi kunomdla kakhulu ukuhlala phakathi kwezinto ezizodwa kunye nokucacisa zonke iimeko ngoncedo lwemimangaliso eyahlukeneyo kunokuba ubukeke bubuhlungu kwaye bukhulu kakhulu kwihlabathi. Ukuthetha malunga nommangaliso, awudingi ukudibanisa izimanga zakho kunye nokuphambuka kwengqondo. Kholelwa kwinto kwaye uyibone ngokwenene, izinto ezahlukeneyo. Nangona, mhlawumbi, abantu esiyicinga ukuba singagqibekanga ngokweengqondo, ngokwenene, sibone okufihlakeleyo kwizinto ezininzi. Kodwa akukho ndlela yokuthetha ukuba ubuninzi benkolelo enjalo.
Ummangaliso uyinto ekhethekileyo, into esiyilangazelelayo kwaye kwenzeka. Kwihlabathi lenene labantu abadala, imimangaliso iba yinto encinci, kodwa ayayilahlekelwa yimpawu zabo, kuba zikhona kwiimpawu kunye nemimangaliso. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kunzima ukuphendula ngokuthe ngqo umbuzo, yintoni le nto engacacanga, kuba umntu ngamnye unengcamango yakhe. Ngendlela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntu ukholelwa okanye akakholelwa kwimimangaliso, wonke umntu unommangaliso wakhe, umntu oqinisekileyo Ukuba akunakuze kwenzeke.Kodwa ke, akusiyo into yokuba sonke sifunda iindaba zeenkcazo ebuntwaneni bethu kwaye sikholwe kwihlabathi lemilingo. Siyabulela oku, i-subconscious yethu isenethemba lokumangalisa kwaye abaninzi bazama ukubona kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla. Emva koko umbuzo uvela: ngaba ufanelekile?
Ngaba kufuneka ukholelwe kummangaliso?
Yintoni esinika ukholo kwimimangaliso? AmaPassimist athi ukukholelwa okukodwa kukukholelwa kwinto enjalo. Kubalulekile ukuba nethemba kwaye ukholwe kuphela kuwe kunye nemibutho yangempela, kuba imimangaliso ayenzeki, ngoko ke kukho ukholo olulolo hlobo intlungu. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo? Xa umntu ekholelwa kummangaliso, ngoko, emva kokuba kwenzeke, uziva unonwabo olukhulu ngenxa yokuba kwenzeka isiganeko esikhethekileyo kuye nangona kungabalulekanga, ukuzonwabisa kummangaliso kusekuhle. Kwaye njengokuba kakisvestno, ukuzonwabisa nokuzonwabisa, umntu uqinisa impilo yakhe, emzimbeni nangengqondo. Ngaphezu koko, ukukholelwa kummangaliso, sibona imimangaliso kaninzi, oku kuthetha ukuba kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuvuya.
Iindwendwe ziqinisekile ukuba kwimimangaliso kukhona ukudumazeka okukodwa, ngenxa yokuba abaqapheli ii-onyxes. Abaninzi bacinga ukuba le nkolelo iyiphumo le-naivete kwaye ayinelisekanga kweli hlabathi. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, yintoni inokuthi uxolo lwangempela lusinika lona? Ingcamango yokuba yonke into eyenzekayo kwimijikelezo ethile kwaye naluphi na ukuphambuka kulo mjikelezo nje yintlekeleko yeemeko apho akuzange kubekho nantoni ekhethekileyo nge-Intanethi, kuba yinto edabukisayo kwaye idangele. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba ukhangeleka kwiingxaki, unokuqonda ukuba baninzi kangakanani abantu abachaphazelekayo kwihlabathi lethu. Nsuku zonke bahlala njengamarobhothi, benza imisebenzi ethile. Bafuna ukutshintsha into ethile, kuba akukho nto ikhona kule nto. Iindwendwe zihlala zihamba, ngenxa yokuba akunakwenzeka ukubala yonke into. Yaye ekubeni i-voodachu, eyona hlobo elithile lommangaliso, ayikholelwa, ngoko nayiphi na into enjalo ibhekwa ukuba iyiphumelelo. Xa abantu bephethe iinjongo zabo, iifessimists zithi oku kuhambelane nje kweemeko kwaye okwesibini akuyi kuphinda kwenzeke kwakhona, ngoko kungcono ukuba ungathathi amathuba. Ukukholelwa emmangalisweni kukuba nethemba. Nangona zonke izinto zingekho kakuhle, umntu owaziyo ukuba kukho imimangaliso ehlabathini, akasayi kubeka izandla. Ngendlela, musa ukudibanisa ummangaliso kunye nobudenge. Ukuba abantu abanqweneli ukwenza nantoni na banethemba lokuba yonke into abayifunayo esibhakabhakeni iya kuhlaselwa esibhakabhakeni, kwaye oku akuthethi ngokholo kwimimangaliso, kodwa ngenxa yokunyaniseka nokungafuni ukuzisebenzela. Abo bakholelwa ummangaliso bavuma nje ukuba nangona imeko yangoku, apho kubonakala ngathi ayikho indlela yokuphuma, kuya kuba kusekho uhlobo olumnandi lwezinto kwaye yonke into iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo. Into emangalisayo, ihlala iyenzeka. Mhlawumbi oku kungenxa yokuba ukucinga okulungileyo kusoloko kumtsalane okulungileyo kumntu. Ngako oko, ukuba sikholelwa kwimimangaliso, ngoko sicinga ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ngoko ke, ukuba ucinga malunga nokuba uyadinga okanye awudingi ukukholelwa kwimimangaliso, impendulo iyakuthi ibe yinto efanelekileyo. Into eyona nto ayikukuba ngothando lomhlaba wakho wefantasy kwaye ungakulibali ukuba nakwiinganekwane zefeyri kunye nabafikeleli beza kuphela kwabo bazama ukuzimela ngokubodwa ebomini babo. Ndiyabulela ngokholo kummangaliso, kulula kakhulu ukuba umntu abhekane neengxaki zabo, kuba uyazi ukuba emva kwexesha elimnyama kuhlale kusasa kwaye into engalindelekanga iya kwenzeka, into enhle, into eguqula yonke into ibe ngcono. Kwaye abo basenza siqiniseke ngokungabi nentsingiselo yemimangaliso, eqinisweni, abafuni ukubona uhlangothi oluhle lobomi. Ewe, kunjalo, nganye ipompo kunzima ukuphoxeka. Kodwa ukuba awukholelwa ezintweni ezintle, oko oku kulungile akunakuvakalelwa kakhulu kangangokuba ubomi bakho bugcwele kwaye bunomdla. Ngoko ke, phakathi kokholo nokungakholwa kwiimimangaliso, mhlawumbi kungcono ukhethe owokuqala, kuba kukubulela ukuba uya kuhlala unamandla okunyuka kwaye ungayeki naziphi na izimo.