Ukugxeka abazali kuba nzima kunabo bonke. Emva koko, indoda encinci ithembele ngokupheleleyo abantu abenza iphela. Ukuba awuthembeli abazali bakho, ngubani na onokumthembayo kweli hlabathi?
Kodwa zonke iimeko ezifanayo ziyahluka, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha abazali banyanzelekile ukuba benze izigqibo ezimbi kwaye ezinzima. Kwaye abantwana bakhula baze bahlupheke, "Abazali bam bandinika inqanawa, oko kuthetha ukuba babengandithandi ..." njani, ukukhula, ukwakha ubudlelwane babo kunye neentsapho zabo ngolwazi olunzima kangaka?
Ngubani obulula kuye - kumakhwenkwe okanye kumantombazana, ophezulu okanye omncinci?
Kunzima ukusho ngubani olula ukulungelelanisa ubomi boqobo. Emva koko, inqaku elithi "abazali bam banikela kwintandane" linzima ngokulinganayo kwabo bafika kwindawo yokukhusela beselula, kwaye-ngubani okhulileyo. Isidingo sokunika umntwana akusivavanyo olulula kubazali, kodwa eli nyathelo lingaphezulu kovavanyo lomntwana.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abafana ababengamazi umzekelo kayise kunye namantombazana abangazange baqaphele umama we-caress bangaphumelela ebomini. Okanye ufunde uvuyo lokufumana intsapho entsha - ukuba unethamsanqa ngabazali abangabantwana.
Oku kuninzi kukuchaphazela ubomi bomi kunye nobomi kwiindawo zokukhusela, kunye nomoya ngokwawo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuba kude kakhulu ukuba ibinzana elithi "abazali bam banikela kwintandane" ayikho nje inkcazo yokwenene, kodwa ingenakukuphepha - ukuhlala iminyaka engama-18 kunye nabanye abantu abahluphekayo ngaphandle kokuqaphela intsapho yokuthuthuzela.
Ukudluliselwa kwamalungelo omzali kwiziko elizodwa kunye nokufudukela kwindawo yokukhusela kubonwa njengento yokuthukisa abazali ngabafana kunye namantombazana. Kwaye kwanexesha elivuthiweyo, xa bexazulula iingxaki zabo ezibalulekileyo, ngoku kunye nokumangalisa kwabo bajikelezayo - oogxa, abahlobo: "Ngaba ngaba abazali bakho banikezele kwiinkedama?" Kunjengobungqangi ababhalwa ngabo.
Ewe, abahlobo kunye nabaqhelana nabo, uluntu ngokubanzi luqonda ukuba iinkedama azikhupheli. Kwakhona zakha iintsapho, zisebenza. Kodwa intlekele "ndathunyelwa kwintandane" ngotshani obomvu eqhuba ubomi bonke bomntu - bobabini nabantwana abadala.
Indlela yokujongana nale nto?
Khumbula ukuba abaninzi abantwana banamakhohlisi abazali . Kwaye ukuba abantu abanonophelo kwiinkedama zingafundiswa ngenyameko, okanye bengayithobeli ingqalelo (apho abantwana babona kakhulu nzima), abantwana abaphumelele kwiintsapho apho ababini abazali abakwenzayo abakwazi ukwenza nto. Ubundlobongela buya kuhlala kuze kube yilapho abantwana behamba iminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo kwaye babalekela ngokoqobo ekhaya - baya kuhamba bafunde, batshata, bahlale phantsi kwisityalo, apho baya kunikwa khona ihostele.
"Ikhaya" abantwana bancike kakhulu. Ukuba abantwana abakhuselekileyo baphoqelelwe ukuba basombulule imiba yabantu abadala, bajongane nobomi obunzima, ngoko-ke "amakhaya" amantombazana ngaphambi kokuthatha umhlalaphantsi azimisele ukuhamba phantsi kolawulo kunye nonina.
Ukuphuhlisa izakhono
Ukuba awuqhelekanga ukuhlala kwintsapho, musa ukwenza iphutha elilodwa. Musa ukutshata kwaye ungakheli intsapho, ungacingi nje ukuba kufanelekile, njengoko kukho. Emva koko, kuya kufuneka uphile phantsi kophahla olulodwa. Ngeke ube "wethu" kubantu abangamashumi amabini okanye amathathu, kodwa "bam."
Isimo sengqondo sokunyamekela kwipropati, ukukwazi ukuxoxisana akuyona "indlela embi" - ngamandla, kodwa ngendlela efanelekileyo, ukukwazi ukupheka, ukukhokela nokugcina ucoceko kuzo zonke izakhono ezifunyenweyo. Kwaye ngaphambi kokuba kube nomnye nomnye, kubalulekile ukucacisa ngokucacileyo indlela yokusombulula yonke le mibuzo.
Kwaye, ngelishwa, isiluleko esifanayo sinokunika abantu abaninzi abakhulela kwintsapho. Ngokukodwa kwabo babenomama nonogogo abanomdla. Khawuqwalasele oku xa ucinga ngokucima ngexesha lakho elidlulileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Oko kubalulekile akukona okwenziwe kuwe ...
... Into ebalulekileyo yindlela ohlala ngayo nayo. Indlela yokuhlangabezana ngayo ngoku. Ukuqala kweemeko - ukhuseleko lweentsapho, uhlobo lwabazali - akukho mntu uzikhethelayo. Ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba uhlala njani ngoku.
- Yaye ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba unento yokunika yona-thatha yona.
- Xa uyifunayo, zibubele umama wakho.
- Xa kufuneka - uzifundise ubaba wakho, phumani ukusa ekuseni okanye uthathe indawo efanelekayo kwinkampani.
Ngoko, naphezu kweemeko zokuqala, unako ukwenza. Nangona wakhula kwintandane okanye ngexesha elithile kukho. Ukucaphukiswa, uxolo kunye "ngokubambelela" ngokusisigxina ngalezo zihlandlo akukhona nje ukuvelisa - kodwa kuyingozi.
Ngelixa uzisola, ulila, uphinde uthukuthele-ubomi buhamba. Iintsuku ezixabisekileyo, ezizeleyo, iiveki ... zonyaka. Oko ungayichitha ngokuzonwabisa ngakumbi kunoko ngoku.