Kodwa kusenomvakalelo omhle, umvakalelo wothando, obuye ube nemithetho yakhe, ngamanye amaxesha afana nemithetho yothando, ngamanye amaxesha ahluke kuwo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuqala kothando olukhulu nolusulungekileyo uthando, olukhula njengomthi onamandla kwimbewu encinane.
Le miva emibili idla ngokudideka, ngoko ke makhe sibone ukuba yintoni uthando lwangempela kunye nokuthandwa kwezinto. Ngelo xesha, asiyi kuthetha into engcono okanye eyingozi. Akuwona umsebenzi wethu ukuthelekisa ezi ngcamango. Sizama nje ukuyiqonda, kunye neengxaki zabo.
Ngoko, makhe sizame ukubona oko uthando lokwenene luyilo. Ngokombono wam, kuqala kokuvisisana, ukunyaniseka nokuqonda, siya kuhlalutya le micimbi ingezantsi, ngokubanzi.
Ulungelelaniso - olu lunye lweziseko zothando lwenene, kuba indlela engafani ukuyijika ngayo, kunye nokudibanisa kakhulu, okubizwa ngokuba "iqhwa nomlilo," kusakhiwa ngokuvisisana. Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha ukuvumelana oku kunzima kwaye akuqondakali kwabanye, kodwa ngokubalulekayo kuyaqondakala kumthandi, ngaphandle kwenye indlela bekungekho uthando ngaphandle kwalo. Kwaye maxa wambi izibini ezintle kakhulu ezinokubambisana ngokumangalisayo azikwazi ukuba kunye, kuba akukho ukuvumelana nobuhlobo babo obuhle.
Ukunyaniseka yinye ilitye lembombo kwisiseko sothando. Ngaphandle kwayo, uthando alukwazi ukwakhiwa okanye, kwaye ungakholelwa umntu othi akukho ngaphandle kwamanga akukho buhlobo bokwenene, okwenene lwakhiwe kwi nyaniso. Oku kunjalo akuthethi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukunciphisa i-uterine ye uterine inyaniso, ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukugqithisa iingqungquthela kwaye uziphathe ngendlela eguquguqukayo, kodwa akukho mzekelo ungathethi. Emva koko, unjengobhubhane, okokuqala kubonakala ngathi kuncinci kwaye kulula ukulawula, kodwa emva koko udibanisa emva kolunye kwaye ngoku uselwandle uluthando luyabuthiwa ngumthi omkhulu weoli.
Ukuqonda okufanayo kuyimfanelo ebalulekileyo ekuthandweni. Emva kwakho konke, ngaphandle kwayo, uya kuhlala ukhubeka kwindawo epholileyo kwaye uziqubuzele ezininzi zeecon. Ngothando lwakho udinga ukuthetha "ulwimi olunye", kwaye mhlawumbi kuya kuba njengentaba yaseBhabheli, le ngcamango ilungile, kodwa ngenxa yokungabi nalutho ukuqonda akukho nto eyenzekayo. Ngelo xesha, kufuneka kubekho imfihlakalo kumntu wakho, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo kufuneka ukuba linomdla, ukuze ungakhathali ukuqiqa yonke impilo yakho, yonke imihla.
Ngoku sekuyisikhathi sokuthetha ngokuthandana kwaye uzama ukuqonda ukuba yintoni uthando lwangempela. Masiqale ngento esiyithethayo, uthando kunye nokuwa ngothando, akufani, nangona iimvakalelo zifana kakhulu. Kodwa uthando lufana nomoya ovuthayo, onokukhanya kwemvula yamakhowe. Uthando, luninzi lwento, amandla kunye nobubanzi. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kuthandekile ukuba uthintele ekuthandeni kwaye uyicinge njengento encinci kwaye engadingekile, apho kulula ukuwela khona. Emva kwakho konke, phantse njalo, uthando lukhula lube luthando (njengoko luchazwe ngasentla).
Kuzo zonke ezi ngasentla, kulandelelana ukuba uthando kufuneka lube neempawu ezifanayo kunye nothando, kodwa luneenkalo ezininzi, ezithile. Ezi zimpawu zikhulula ubudlelwane, kunye nolunye uhlobo lothando lomfanekiso womntu othandekayo. Makhe siwaqwalasele ngokubanzi.
Ukukhululeka kobudlelwane, kubonakala kum, kwaye kuyacaca kuwo wonke umntu, kunqabileyo xa ubuhlobo obuhle buqala ngokuthuthumela nokubuhlungu. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ubudlelwane apho kungekho nethemba lezona zinto zilungileyo, ziza kubakho into enhle. Kule ndlela kulandela ukuba uthando, okokuqala, luyinto ebonakalayo ekukhanyeni kwembono yehlabathi, kungoko kunjalo, ukubala umbala kwi-pink! I-Romanticism ikhula ukusuka kwingcambu efanayo, kuba siyazi ukuba wonke umntu uneempazamo zakhe, kodwa ngexesha lokuthandana asiziboni. Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, uvakalelo luba luthando, sisele luyiqaphele, kodwa sinokuyinyamezela okanye siyilungise.
Kuzo zonke izinto ezithethwa, kulandela ukuba iimvakalelo zothando lokwenene noluthando lokwenene zifana kakhulu, kodwa azinjalo. Emva kwakho konke, uthando aluyena uthando, kwaye akukho uthando oluhle lukhula lube yintando yangempela!