Iingcamango
Isekelwe ekufundeni iinkqubo zezinto eziphilayo ezivela emzimbeni kwinkqubo yothando.
Ngubani kunye noko sikukhethayo
Siyamthanda umntu ophilileyo nabantwana abanengqondo abaza kuzalwa. Kwaye xa sidibana, sihlola umntu ngokwemali yakhe yangaphandle - unamandla ngokwaneleyo ukulala ngesondo: yintoni ububanzi obunamalungu kunye nombingeleli onamandla. Kwaye kwinqanaba elingu-reflex sichaza iphunga lomzimba wakhe ukuze siqaphele indlela imicimbi yakhe inokukhusela ngayo kunye nezinga le-hormone yesondo, ukuba ungasondeza kangakanani. Ukuqhubela phambili umgqatswa ususwe kuwe ngekhowudi yeDNA yakhe, ngaphantsi komngcipheko wokuba nomntwana onesifo esiza kuye. Ukuba ukuvumba komntu kakubi kuwe, akukho mthando - lo mfaki sicelo akafanelekanga ukukhulelwa kunye nokuzalwa kwabantwana. Kwaye ingqiqo kunye nokomoya koqabane livandlakanywa kwindawo yokugqibela - ngokutsho komgaqo-siseko.
Uthando
Xa ubona indoda ekhangayo, umzimba wakho uthi: "Ndiyayifuna, ndiyakwazi ukuzala!" Unomdla wokwabelana ngesondo kwaye ukhathazekile: "Nokuba ungayifumana njani?" I-hormone yokucindezeleka i-norepinephrine ingena kwigazi. Iimvakalelo zinzima, iintsimbi zentliziyo, i-rub rub. Ebusuku, ayikwazi ukulala, emini, ukuxhalabisa, abanye abantu baze balahlekelwe isondlo sabo kwaye bancede. Kodwa uhlangane kwaye ulala ngesondo. Ukuxinezeleka kunciphisa, i-norepinephrine iyawa. Kodwa ukuhlanganiswa kwama-neurohormones okugcoba, ukuvuya kunye nenjabulo - i-dopamine kunye ne-serotonin iyanda. I-Dopamine yi-hormone yesigxina, igxininisa ngcamango enye, i-catalyst of passion kunye nomthombo onamandla kakhulu. Abo balawulwa yiphumo layo, abaqapheli nantoni na ngaphandle kwabo abathandekayo babo, kwaye ngenxa yabo bangakwazi ukujika iintaba. Umoya uguquka ukusuka "kubonakala, uyakuthanda, ngoku ndiya kuphakamisa," de "kubonakala ngathi, akayithandi - andiyikuzibamba" ... Ininzi, uthando luqala kwi-dopamine kwaye luya phambili kwi-serotonin. Unoxanduva lokuzilolonga ngokumnandi: ulungile, kwaye intanda yakho imane imangalisa, kwaye ihlabathi lihle. Awubhali umbongo? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuqokelela ingxelo yenyanga ngeeyure ezimbini? Isigaba se-ejection ye-dopamine kunye ne-serotonin-lo lulo lwesimo esinoyikekayo sokuthandana nokuthandana, ukuze siphile esiyiphuphayo. Enyanisweni, uguquko olufanayo lwezinto eziphilayo - kunye nokuphazamiseka kokulala nokuqonda kwezinto eziyinyani-zivela kulabo abadlala i-roulette, bandile ingca okanye bawela kwisifo sengqondo se-schizophrenic ... Yiza! I-Hormone-romance inamandla kakhulu kunyaka, ukwenzela ukuba izithandwa zivame ukulala ngesondo kwaye zikhulelwe umntwana. Emva koko izinga labo linciphisa - yonke into, uthando luphelile. Ezinye izibini zikhangelelana ngokugqithisileyo-kwaye zabalekela ngokuphazamiseka.
Uthando lwabathandana
Iimbini eziseleyo ze "hormone zothando" zijojowe enye emibini ukuya kwimithathu emithathu. Ibhinqa lilawula ukondla umntwana ngesifuba, kunye nendoda-ukumnakekela. Ngaphezulu, umfazi unako ukuhlala ngaphandle komlingane. Ngoku isigaba sothando siphelile. Ngako oko, inqanaba lomtshato liwela ngomnyaka wesihlanu womtshato.
Uthando-uthando
Ngaba usasawonye? Ngenxa yoko, umzimba wakho uzimisele ukuvelisa umntwana kunye nalo mlingane. Ivelisa ngakumbi i-oxytocin - ihomoni yesisa kunye nobubele, kwaye i-vasopressin - ihomoni ekhusela impahla kunye nomona: "Wam - ungathinti! Emva kweminyaka eyi-10, imithombo ye-hormone iyanqongophala, kuba umntwana ukhulile. Yaye uthando luye lwaphantsi, kuba intsingiselo yalo kukuzalana nalo mntu. Enyanisweni, kukho izibini ezithatha umnyaka we-15 womtshato inqanaba lama-hormone lihambelana namanqanaba okuqala olwalamano. Kwafunyanwa yizinzululwazi zaseNtaliyane. Kwaye ngoku ididekile zibuza ukuba le nto ingaba njani.
Yintoni ebhalansi
Mhlawumbi awuzange uthandane nothando ngothando ngenxa yokuba ngokwemvelo ungaphantsi kwezixhobo ze-dopamine kunye ne-serotonin? Ukukhangela ngokwenyama. Ngothando oluqinileyo, kunye ne-oxytocin ne-vazoiresin, unako. Kwaye "intloko yabhidliza" isigaba - cha. Kwakungekho. Ayikho ilungiselelwe. Kwaye akukho nto yokulinda.
Isizathu kunye nomphumo
- I-Karmic Theory
Isekelwe ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwesizathu kunye nomphumo. Umphefumlo awufi, awunayo isondo, kwaye akhumbuli nantoni na ebomini beminyaka. Ukuba wenze into embi, ngokubuyayo uza kuba neengxaki kunye neentlungu - kungekhona kulobu bomi, ngoko-ke ngokulandelayo. Usebenze kakuhle - intsikelelo ilindele wena, kungekhona ngoku - ngoko ke, kodwa kuyimfuneko. Kwaye kukho uthando lweentlobo ezimbini.
- Uthando "karmic"
Akayithandi i-lottery ethandwayo, kodwa ingxaki yakho engasombulukiyo evela kwizinto ezenziwe kwangaphambili. Kwaye kunikwa ukusebenzela i-karma embi - ukulungisa iimpazamo zangaphambili. Kuchanekile ngakumbi ukuyibiza ngokuthi "i-karma yongeziweyo".
Ngubani kunye noko sikukhethayo
Uthando lubambisana nabatshatileyo okanye izalamane ezisondeleyo eziye zatshatyalaliswa ngokubanzi ebomini obudlulileyo. Emva kokuba baxakeke baze baqedwa. Kwaye ngoku sinamathuba okulungisa yonke into. Akunakwenzeka ukuwuphepha - yidwala.
Indlela ekhangeleka ngayo
Ivela kubokuqala: uyibonile - ukutshitshiswa, intloko kwintambo ebomvu. Kwaye ukukhala okuvela eminzini yomphefumlo: "Yiyo le nto!" Uthando luhlala lugxininisa kwaye lunomdla, unjengotangatye leemvakalelo lifakela isibini isibini kunye kunye nexesha elifunekayo ukuxazulula ingxaki efanayo. Ngamanye amaxesha-iminyaka emininzi, kwaye umntu kunye nobomi bonke abaneleyo. Kwaye baphila kabi, kodwa abanako ukuhlukana. Ngokuqhelekileyo - abangenabantwana, kuba abantwana banokuphazamisa abazali babo kwimisebenzi yekharmic. Masithi umfazi washada, wazala waza wagula kakhulu. Umyeni akazange anikeze umfazi wakhe nabantwana bakhe, kodwa okhohlakele wabaleka kwelinye - unamandla kwaye unempilo. Umfazi wakhe waqalekisa, kodwa akazange avumele ukuhamba noThixo, njengomntu obuthathaka kwaye ongenakunceda. Bathuthuma i-karma: yena-engenakuxanduva, ungazixoleli. Ukukrazula le nto i-karmic knot, abatshatileyo kufuneka balungise iphutha. Kwimeko yangoku, bahlanganisana nothando oluvuthayo ekuqaleni kokubona nomtshato osondeleyo. Kwiminyaka emihlanu kamva kuvela ukuba indoda yakhe igula kakhulu. Emva koko iziganeko ziyakhula kwaye ziphele ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Isiphelo esihle
Umyeni wakhe uhlama imisebenzi emithathu kwaye unika intsapho, ebomini obunzima, umfazi wakhe utshintsha. Umfazi uyamxolela aze ambulele kuye. Buhlungu! Ijeti ivuliwe. Kwaye ke iimvakalelo zize zenzeke ngokugqithiseleyo-le ndawo ifana nomdla wokuzaliswa karmic. Umfazi uhamba ngcono. Umyeni udibana nothando olutsha. Esi sibini siqhawule umtshato. Emva kwexesha elithile, umfazi owayengumfazi wokuqala naye uya kutshata. Yena kwaye uvakalelwa kukuba utshintshile ukuba uphucule, umphefumlo uphile, ubomi buye buphucula.
Ekupheleni
Umyeni usela ngesosizi okanye afune ukuphazamisa, emva kweengubo zonke, umfazi uhlaselwa, ufunga kwaye ahlase. Abakwazi ukuhlala kunye kwaye abanako ukusabalalisa. Ekugqibeleni, umlingane ogulayo uyafa, kwaye umyeni uyayichukumisa intloko yakhe malunga nesibhambathiso sebhokisi kwaye uzive enetyala. Kwaye ekuzalweni okulandelayo baya kuhlangana kwakhona kwaye baya kutshabalaliswa "uthando karmic" - de kube neengqondo ezaneleyo zokuziphatha ngesithunzi kwizilingo.
Uthando "luyinyani"
Kuthelelwe abo abanakho konke ngokulandelana nge karma, kwaye akusoloko bexhamene nezenzo zethu kwimizimba yangaphambili.
Ngubani kunye noko sikukhethayo
Uthando lokwenene luvela kwiimeko ezimbini. Eyokuqala: imiphefumlo edibeneyo kwizithuba zangaphambili kunye nezenzo ezilungileyo-abahlobo, omnye wabo obengumzimba wesilisa, okanye umzalwana nodade, okanye u-anti kunye nomntakwabo, badibana kwaye baqaphelane. Enyanisweni, ngumvuzo wokuziphatha kakuhle kunye nezenzo ezilungileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo. Okwesibini: Uthando luzalwa phakathi kwabantu abangaxhunyiwe kwizinto ezidlulileyo, kodwa banako ukuhamba kunye nesangqa esitsha sophuhliso-ukuze bangene kwelinye uluntu okanye bafumene italente entsha. Ngokuqhelekileyo uthando lomphefumlo "omtsha" usekelwe ekubaleni kwaye luvela kwingqondo ukuya kwivalelo. Yena kwaye usebenze ngokukhawuleza ubusuku bonke kwiprojekthi enye kwaye unqume ukutshata, ngoko kukho igama okumele uthethe ngalo, kwaye ubomi obunomdla kakhulu kwaye bugxilwe emsebenzini.
Indlela ekhangeleka ngayo
Uthando lukhula ngobumnene nangcembe. Amehlo akhe akafihla kwaye intloko yakhe ayiyi kuhamba. Ekuqaleni kubonakala kuthobekile, ngaphandle kwemisebenzi yokuqhumisa umlilo, kodwa kufana nesidlo esilungileyo: okuqhubekayo-into emnandi kwaye iyamnandi. Unokuhlala iminyaka emininzi.
Yintoni ebhalansi
Uthando lwe-Karmic akusiyo isohlwayo, kodwa umsebenzi ofuna isisombululo. Xa sele iphelile ngesisombululo seengxaki, lixesha lokufuna uthando lokwenene. Uthando "lwenene" luyinto entle. Kwaye ukufumana oko akunzima. Ukukhethwa kwabathandekayo kukuhle: ezungeze apho kukho amadoda amaninzi, imiphefumlo yabo kwimvelo yethu yangaphambili iyenze ubudlelwane obuhle. Okanye abo bafanelekile okwangoku, ukwenzela ukuphuhlisa nokukhula kunye.
Injongo
- Intsingiselo yamanga
Ngokwezihluko ezahlukeneyo kunye nezicwangciso, ujikeleza ngemisebenzi yabalobi banoveli, ama-mystics yanamhlanje abhala ngaye ngokuthuthumela.
- Ngubani kunye noko sikukhethayo
Siyamthanda lowo esinokuziqonda thina, ngenxa yokuba uyamkela kwaye unokukunceda ube njengomntu okhulelwe nguThixo okanye iCosmos - kungekhona ingelosi enomusa, mhlawumbi neengqiqo ze-villainy. Umntu wakho kuphela odibaniswe nawe kwindawo yenkcazelo yamandla ngesicwangciso seZulwini. Ikusasa lakho likuqhubela kwiintlanganiso, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uza kuwufumana. Ngokwemfundiso, awukwazi ukushiya indlu: kwindlu i-wiring iya kukhanyisa-kwaye umlindi womlilo oza kubakho ukukhawuleza ukukusindisa, okanye ipayipi iya kutshabalalisa-kwaye iplumberhi ekhohlisa iya kuyilungisa. Oku akucaci ukuba wenzeni ukuba izulu lakho lo mthandayo lenze ingozi okanye isifo. U-Toli uya kufuneka abe ngaphandle kwakhe, okanye uya kuthatyathwa omnye umviwa ovela "kumgca wesibini" - elowo umfazi ulala kwindoda ebulalayo.
- Indlela ekhangeleka ngayo
Akunakwenzeka ukuba uqikelele ukuba lo "ngumntu wakho": wena kunye naye ukusuka kwintlanganiso yokuqala uyamangalisa kwaye inkululeko, njengokungathi uye wazizana ixesha elide. Unesondo esihle. Ubomi obudibeneyo akuwona umsebenzi onzima ukudala intsapho, kodwa inkqubo yendalo, njengokuphefumla, engadingi imimangaliso yomonde kwaye idibanise. Uphikisana, kodwa ungaze uhluthe kwaye uhluthane. Ngothando, ufumana uvuyo olukhulu. Kodwa bonke abanye ubomi banokuhamba ngokukhawuleza: uBon akazange ahlangane noClyde, kwaye baya kuphanga amabhanki, umphathi ophezulu uMasha wathandana no-Yura owayengumbonisi waza washiya entlango, apho kungekho nkcubeko okanye ayithuthuzele. Kodwa asisoloko sifuna ukuphanga amabhanki okanye ukuhlala ehlathini, nangenxa yothando olukhulu. Ngoko ke, siyalahla umthandi othandekayo kwaye sikhethe zonke iintlobo zolonwabo kulonwabo loluthando-into enhle yabantwana, ukhuseleko, umsebenzi ozalisekileyo, inhlalakahle.
- Yintoni ebhalansi
Kuthekani kuthi xa umfazi otshatileyo eza kuwe emva komnyaka wenkulungwane? Kungaba bubulumko ukuba ungalindeli, kodwa ujabulele-nangona ungenalo uthando olulungisiweyo, kodwa ulwabelana ngesondo, ubuhlobo obuhle kunye nobuhle kunye namanye amadoda. Intlanganiso iya kudibana - ulindele inveli enkulu. Uthando olusenqunjelwe ngaphambili, akufanele unqabe ngaphandle kokulihlwaya. Ngako-ke sinqwenela ngokwenene sifuna into - ngokwenene, ngentloko yethu, intambo yomthambo, intliziyo nenyama ... Kwaye ke-njengoko unquma, kuya kuba njalo. Ukuba uyiphuthelwa kwaye awuyi kuzama, uya kuphelelwa yintlungu kwaye uxhatshazwe.
Ngubani kunye noko sikukhethayo
Ibhinqa lithandana nomntu obonakala njengobawo. Ukuba akukho ntata - kwikhosi ngumfanekiso wendoda eyayinyamekela wakhe - umzalwana, umalume, umkhulu. Kuyo yonke into emele ibe yindoda ifakwe kuyo. Konke okunye, kungcono kakhulu, kaninzi akamkeli amadoda. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akaqapheli. Inkwenkwe iyakuthandana nomfazi obonakala njengomama. Kuza kuhlambalaza. Umhlobo wam oneminyaka engama-30 ubudala ukhononda ngokuthi uye waqhubeka eziphatha njengomamazana kamva. Kwaye kunkwantya kakhulu kuye-uninazala, akanako ukuma. Kodwa akananto yokwesaba: ngokuqinisekileyo ufana nomkhwekazi wakhe nobuso bakhe kunye nomlingiswa wakhe, apho indoda yakhe yathandana. Kwaye abahambisani nomama wabo ngoba bafana kakhulu kwaye banomona womyeni nomnye.
Indlela ekhangeleka ngayo
Isitayela senveli yethu incike ekubeni ubuhlobo nomzali wesini esahlukileyo. Inketho yokuqala yayiyinyameko kwaye yayisithanda intombi - intombazana ivakalelwa kubakhethiweyo ukuvakalelwa ngokulingana kunye nokuvisisana, kunye nesifiso sobulili kunye nokuxhamla ngokomzwelo.
Option Three
Ubaba wayengathandanga intombi yakhe kakhulu, okanye akazange akwenzeke - walalalala emva kokuqhawula umtshato kwaye akazange ahambise nayiphi na imibuliso. Intombazana iya kuthanda ukuwa ngokukhawuleza ekuboneni okokuqala kwaye iyandile: yava ilizwi elivakalayo okanye yabona isandla somntu omhle kakhulu ngeminwe ende-njengotata-kwaye yanyamalala! Olu luthando lukhulu ngokwesondo kunemvakalelo. Kwaye lo mthando wesondo udibanisa ngokupheleleyo, kuba uvumela umfazi ukuba angene phezu komqobo wokungaqondi kakuhle abantu kunye noyiko lwabo. Nangona uthakazeliso oluphambeneyo luya kudlula-khangela, kwaye uqonde uhlobo lwakhe. Yaye uya kufakwa kuye. Ayisoloko ikhona ngale ndlela, kodwa kaninzi iwanele.
Option Four
Ukuba le ntombazana yayingekho, unqwenela uthando kwaye ukhetha umyeni osekhulile-uyise. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuncinci, kodwa uninzi lwengqondo.
Yintoni ebhalansi
Ngokwale ngqungquthela, uthando luhlala lunothando kunye nokuxhomekeka komzimba. Xa ulahlekelwa ngumhlaba phantsi kweenyawo zakho - intanda uyakuthanda. Ukuba uziva uzibi, uya kuziva kwaye ukhawuleze, "use-line" naye. Ubume bakho bempilo kunye nomoya kuxhomekeke kwintanda ethandekayo: ibuhlungu - kwaye nawe, uyadabuka - kwaye udabukile. Yaye ukuba umntu ephika isiqhotyoshelo - ngoku sinofashini - kwaye uthi ekuthandeni kufuneka ube "ozimeleyo kunye nokhululekile", kwindoda enothando inkululeko, kufuneka usebenze ngokukhawuleza. Ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukukusebenzisa kwinkqubo epheleleyo - ngokwesini, ngokwasemzimbeni, nakwezemali, kodwa akayi kunika nayiphi na into yokubuyisela - engekho ngesondo rhoqo, novelwano, nokuba ngumhlobo. Emphefumlweni womfazi ngamnye kukho uluvo lwendoda eningathanda ukuba yinto yangaphandle kunye nobuntu. Lo mfanekiso ubizwa ngokuthi "animus". Emphefumlweni womntu wonke kukho umfanekiso ofanayo nomfazi onqwenela ukuba nguye, obizwa ngokuba yi "anime".
Ngubani kunye noko sikukhethayo
Ibhinqa lithanda umntu ophethe iimpawu ze-animus yakhe, ukuze azenzele inxalenye yehlabathi lamadoda ayifunayo. Indoda yinto ekhangeleka njenge-anime yakhe, kuba iyadinga ihlabathi elincomekayokazi. Kwaye kulo mzekelo, uthando lwabo luqinile kwaye lude - siqonda kakuhle ukuba ngubani oyingxenye yobuntu bethu. Olu thando lunokubambisana kunye nokungalindelekanga, ekubonweni kokuqala, kubini. Ngokomzekelo, phantse unobantwana oyingcwele, ugcina ubomi beentsana ezisandul 'ukuzalwa, kunye noMoscow obengumntu oza kuvela kwintlephelo yoluntu okhumbuza abadumileyo ukuhlafuna okanye ukuphuza emsi, kwaye uyahlawulwa: iimagazini - imifanekiso, iinkwenkwezi - ukwenqaba ukupapasha. Uyamthanda, kuba uhamba phezu kwayo nayiphi na inqatshelwe kwaye akanandaba nokuziphatha komphakathi. Yaye yathi - ngenxa yobungqina kunye nokuncedwa kwabantwana. Kulo, kwakhona, kukho ukungabi nantloni kunye nokuhlazeka, umnqweno wokuhlambalaza imilinganiselo yokuziphatha, kodwa akabonakalisi le miva. Bakhe kwisigxina sakhe somntu, isiqingatha esicacileyo. Kwaye wayeya kuba ngumfazi othobekileyo kwaye ongenabugovu kwaye wayeza kubathanda abantwana. Bathandana kungekhona ngenxa yokuba ukuchasa kuyabamba, kodwa kuba baninzi kakhulu. Xa ndiqala ukufunda ngale ngqungquthela kwaye ndagqiba ekubeni ndizenzele njengendoda, ndaphenduka kuba ngumfanekiso wendoda yam, ngohlobo olulodwa kuphela. Kwaye ndakhawuleza ndihlonipha kakhulu umbhali.
Ibukeka njani ukusuka kwicala
Izenzo zale ndoda zibonakala ngathi ziqondakala kwaye ziqondakala - thina kwindawo yakhe ziziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Umfazi uxolela indoda eninzi - njengoko wayeza kuxolela. Yaye uyayiqonda kakuhle. Unako ukumvumela ukuba ahambe uhambo olude kwaye ulinde ukubuyela kwakhe iminyaka. Uhlala ehlala nobomi bomthandi bakhe, ekhohlwa ngaye - njengabafazi abaninzi be-servicemen abangacingi malunga nomsebenzi wabo, kodwa kuphela-ngokukhuthaza umyeni wakhe. Kwakhona, ngamanye amaxesha ayengacaciswanga kwaye anesisa, indoda iyaziphatha - iyamkela umfazi emva kokuphanga ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ngamanye amaxesha ubeka umsebenzi wakhe kunye nempumelelo yintanda yakhe yonke imibala kunye nomphefumlo womphefumlo. Olu thando lunokuhlala ixesha lobomi. Kwaye akayi kukhanya ngokukhawuleza-ufuna imzuzwana yenyaniso, uhlobo oluthile lokubangela kwangaphandle, ukuze abantu bavule, bajikeleze ngokungalindelekanga baze babonane. Olu thando luzalwa ngohambo, kwintambo yomlambo, ngokuhlwa, kwintetho eyimfihlo, kwiofisi edeleyo.
Yintoni ebhalansi
Yiyiphi into ebalulekileyo: ukuba umfazi akazange afune ukuba, nangona iyure indoda kwaye akanako ukuzicingela ngomfanekiso womntu kwaye ujabulele umdlalo onjalo, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu, akunakwenzeka ukuba amthande umntu. Kuyafana nakwamadoda. Mhlawumbi, kumphefumlo onjalo akukho ndawo yomntu wesibini. Kwaye akukho mnqweno wokubonga, ukuqonda nokuwamkela omnye ... Akukho mfuneko?