Yintoni enokuyenza kumfana ongashiyanga?

Ngamanye amaxesha amadoda ayanyamalala ebomini bethu ngokukhawuleza nangenanto. Ngaba uchithe ubusuku ndawonye, ​​sele udibene nenyanga okanye uhlala kunye kunye nesiqingatha sobomi bakho - akunandaba. Xa ehamba ityuwa aze aphele. Ngaba uya kubuya? Kwaye ngaba kuyimfuneko ukulinda? Yintoni ongayenza kumntu ongakushiyanga?

Bahlala bevuya ngokukhawuleza. Yena, ophupha ulwandle ukususela ebuntwaneni, wakhonza kwisebe lezemikhosi waza waphelelwa ngumsebenzi. Andizange ndifumane umsebenzi kwindawo yam eyimfuneko, ndaphazanyiswa yimpumelelo yomvuzo. Umfazi wam waqala ukubona, bathi, akukho msebenzi ohloniphekileyo, akukho mali enzulu. Kodwa, ngokubanzi, yonke into yayingalunganga. Intombi yam yayikhula. Emva kokuba bekulindele iindwendwe. Baye bahlambulula kunye nokulungisa zonke iintlobo zezinto. Kwaye kukho ukungabikho kwetyuwa endlwini. Wathatha izinto ezimbalwa kwaye waya esitolo - ngokukhawuleza, kwada kwafika abahlobo bakhe ... Emva kwenyanga wanikwa i-telegram ezivela kwezinye iziqithi. Kule nkcazo edibeneyo yayiqondakala kangako: Ndidibana nomnye umntu ohamba ngeenqanawa, ukuba umntu owayedinga ngokukhawuleza umqhubi wendlela. Le nqanawa yahamba ngaloo mini. Ngezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo, unokubuyela ekhaya kuphela ngonyaka kunye nesiqingatha kamva. Ngeli xesha, baqhelana ngomnye. Bafuna ukuqhawula umtshato. Kodwa banquma ukulinda indlu entsha: ithembele kwintsapho yabantu abathathu, kodwa kungekhona kubini. Ixutywe. Kwaye ke babandakanyeka. Kwaye bathetha ukungadidi. Kwaye bahlala njengaye. Ibali ngokutshatyalaliswa kwakhe ngokukhawuleza lixelelwa njenge-anecdote - kunye nokuphela okungalindelekanga. Kukho iinkqubo ezininzi ezibaluleke kakhulu kumadoda kunomsebenzi, ukuzibophelela, uthando kumfazi kunye noko kubonakala kunengqiqo. Umzekelo, ukuziqonda kwayo. Okanye ubunzima bexesha eliphakathi. Emva kwakho konke, ukuzingca kunye nomoya wokonwaba wothando. Kuyinto enomdla ukuba konke oku kubaluleke ngaphezu kokuthanda kwakho, kodwa akuyikukhansela. Unokuthanda kakhulu - ngokunzulu nangendlela yakhe. Kwimbali malunga ne-motifs yamanxweme iyadibaniswa. Eyona nto iphambili yithuba elizenzekelayo lokuzifeza, ngenxa yokuba umntu ukhohliwe yonke into ehlabathini. Kodwa kwindawo yesibini yinto enqwenelekayo yokukholisa umfazi wakhe-ukufumana imali, ukuphepha ukuhlambalaza ... Kwaye ufumane indlu yeqhawulo-mtshato ngaphezulu - yona kunye nentombi yakhe. "Ndiyifumene injongo, andiyiqapheli imingcipheko," - into ebonakalayo yindoda. Ukuphazamiseka ngokukhawuleza kwanokuphazamiseka kukuphazamiseka. "Akayithandi, kodwa akanalo isibindi sokuthetha ngqo!" - le yinto yokuqala (kwaye kaninzi yodwa) into efika engqondweni yethu.

Awuyi kukholwa, kodwa kulula kakhulu ukuba umntu aye empini okanye asindise umntu ophuma emlonyeni we-mvuu yaseAfrika kunokuba athethe ngokunyanisekileyo nentombazana. Le yimiba yesini yobuchopho: banesiko somlomo esiqhelekileyo siphucukisiwe kunokuba sinakho. Umnqweno wokucacisa nokwamkela iinkcazo, ukuqondwa nokuqondakala yipropati ye-femine. Indoda evela kule imeko ezininzi ikhululekile. Kubalulekile ukuba azi: oko akwenzayo kulungile. Bonke abanye - iinkcukacha, abafanelekanga kwaye banqongqole kwikhosi. Kwaye, nangona kunjalo, izizathu zokuthi izihlunu zindoda zincinci zihluke kakhulu kunokuba zingathandeki kunye noyiko lweengxoxo. Kwaye ezinye zazo ziyafikeleleka ekuqondeni kwaye zixhomekeke kuxolelo. Apha, umzekelo ...

Ukunyanzela iMajeure

Mhlawumbi akabalekanga nonke. Kwaye waya kukuthenga iintyatyambo kwaye wangena kumapolisa ukuze alwe. Okanye ulondoloze umntwana enja kwaye ngoku ulele esibhedlele. Okanye walahlekelwa imemori kwaye waphumela indlela yakhe. Nantoni na into eyenzekayo ... Okokuqala, mbiza umnxeba. Akunjalo ukuba uya kuthatha ifowuni. Kodwa xa kunjalo, uya kuthi uqiniseke ukuba umntu omthandayo uyaphila. Yaye ukuba akayithathi okanye ifowuni ingagqithwanga, fonela isitishi samapolisa, i-ofisi yokubhalisa ingozi, izibhedlele, iziganeko, abahlobo, amafulethi kunye nemibonakalo. Esi siganeko se banal-kinoshnogo asinakuphetshwa. Ngokukhawuleza kwenzeka ingozi kumntu othandekayo? Oku kungenzeka ukuba kukhishwe ngaphandle. Ukususela ekuqaleni.

Ucinga kakhulu

Ngamanye amaxesha amadoda ayalala ngaphandle kwengcaciso, kuba ... bacinga ukuba bachaze yonke into. Masithi okokuba iminyaka ingcamango yayivuthiweyo - umzekelo, ukuba kuyimfuneko ukugcina i-belka e-Antarctica okanye ukuba imilinganiselo yentsapho yasemakhaya iphelelwe yisikhathi. Incoko yangaphakathi ihamba rhoqo. Ukhululekile kwaye uyinyani ukuba indoda sele ivakalelwa kukuba intombazana yakhe iyayiqonda yonke into. Kodwa yintoni enye into xa ecinga ngayo iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku? Ukunyaniseka kwengxoxo yencoko kubeka ingxoxo yenene. Kwinqanaba lokubilisa kwangaphakathi, umntu uzimisele ukuhamba. Kuye, ukukhululwa okude kulindelwe, njengokungathi kwindlu egumbisayo, ekugqibeleni washiya umoya omtsha. Akukho mida yokuvuya kwakhe. Wayecinga ngale nto ngokude, ekulungiswe, ephuphayo, elinde. Kwaye kwenzeka! Wenza isigqibo. Ukhululekile. Unelisekile kwisigqibo. U yavuya. Ndiyintoni na ukuba ndiyicinge ngendoda endihlala naye? Ngaphezulu kokonwaba, umntu uhlala yedwa.

Ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza

Ndadibana nomhlobo, ndaya kusela, ndaqalisa ukukhawuleza. Akasakhumbuli apho kwaye kutheni ahamba, kwaye nangakumbi-ke ngubani na oshiywe ngasemva. Ukwenjenjalo okunjalo kubalulekile kubantu abanokwenzakala, abanomdla, kunye nokungabikho kokuzithiba. I-violin yokuqala kwi-set of such person is played by emotions. Bahlala behamba ngokukhawuleza, bethatha umnini wabo kude neminqweno yakhe. Xa iimvakalelo zitshisa, amathuba okuphakama ukuba umntu uza kubuyela apho ahambe khona. Ukuba kuphela yena kuyo yonke into ayinkani. Ukuba uhlala okanye udibana neqhawe elinjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuba awuboni izibonakaliso zesimo. Nangona kunjalo, iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zendlela yokuziphatha nazo zifumaneka kubuntu ekubonweni kokuqala kungekudala. Oko kukuthi, kwimeko eqhelekileyo bayiziqhelekileyo-abantu abanjengabantu. Kodwa nayiphi na imeko engaqhelekanga ingawabeka ekupheleni kokufa, ungene kwi-stupor. Emva koko indoda ilahlekelwa yintando kunye neendlela zokuhamba. Izizathu ziyi-emotionally emotionally developmental, ukuzithiba okuzinqongophala, ukuphendula okuphazamisayo. Ngesinye isikhathi, yonke into yayisoloko igqitywa ngumama-ugogo-ugogo-nkosikazi, kwaye ngokukhawuleza kwakukho uBorya okanye uPetya, wamlandela ngaphandle komkhwa wokukhokelwa ngonaphakade. Emva kokuba naye ekulandele, kwaye kwakumnandi kunye nokunyanzela. Kodwa le yindlela yakhe yokuphendula, ngoko ungamangalisi.

Ukuzifeza

Ubomi kwi-slate ecocekileyo - akunjalo, ngokwenene? Akazange akwenze oko ixesha elide, akazange axoxe nabo, akazange ahambe apho. Kwaye kwenzeka. Kukho ithuba lokutshintsha ubomi kunye nokwenza, ekugqibeleni, oko kwenzelwe. Unako ngoko (xa yonke into ihleli) ukubiza kunye nokuthetha nawe, ngokungathi akukho nto eyenzekayo. Ubugwenxa abuyi kuziva, kuba ngenye indlela wayengeke akwazi ukuzenzekelayo (kwaye le nto iyona nto ephambili!), Wayengenakho indlela yokuphuma. Kwaye akazange abalekele kuwe, kodwa emisebenzini enokukrakra nokuphila okungenakuchukumisa. Yintoni ehlambalayo? Uyakuthanda. Kwaye uyakuthanda ukuzinza, njengabo bonke abafazi, ngoko ke awuyi kuvuma ukubaleka kwakhe.

Ukuhlaziywa

Ukubola komntu. Ukukhathala kumsebenzi kunye nendlela yokuphila. Amagxa awela phantsi kobunzima beengxaki zemihla ngemihla kunye namatyala, ukuphazamisa iingcamango zokungagxininiseki kunye nokungabi naluncedo lokuba khona ... Umntu uphuma phantsi ngaphantsi kwalo, njengokungaphantsi kwesiqhekeza, kwaye uqale ubomi obungenasidlo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngenxa yezi zizathu, amadoda angenamakhaya okanye atywala. Kodwa akunjalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuphazamiseka okwenziwe ngokubanzi namhlanje kuyinto yinto efanayo.

Inkathazo yobudala

Amadoda aneminyaka engama-40 abukeka eqinileyo kwaye enomntu. Kodwa azinakulinganiswa ngakumbi kunabantwana. Ngaphakathi - ukuxubusha kunye nokuhlaziywa kwamanani. Ngaphandle, iinwele ezimnyama kunye nemibimbi. Kwintlalo-ukubonakala okubonakalayo kwimiba yezemfundo kunye nomhlalaphantsi ozayo. Okokuthi, inkathazo ichaphazela zonke iinkalo zomntu-ezomzimba, wengqondo, yentlalo. Umntu omdala kunye nohlwempuzekileyo ngumntu, uncinci uneengongoma zenkxaso ngexesha lentlekele kwaye eyingozi ngakumbi kulo mzuzwana. Kwaye, ngokuchaseneyo, ngokugqithiseleyo isangqa soqhagamshelwano kunye neminqweno kumntu, mhlawumbi uya kufumana into ekuthembela ngayo xa ezinye iinkalo zobomi zibuzwa. Kwindoda eninzi, ingxaki ixhomekeke kwintlekele. Ushiya nje kuba engayazi ukuba yenzeni ntoni ngokulandelayo. Kudinga ukutshintsha into ngokukhawuleza ukwenzela ukuba ungadli. U kuhamba njani? Kakade, ngokuthula! Ubomi buya kwehla - musa ukuhudula kunye nentando yakho (akukhathazeki nokuba ngaba ngowomfazi ohlala naye iminyaka engama-20, okanye malunga nentombazana adibana nayo iiveki ezimbalwa ezedlulileyo). Kukho amathuba okubuyisela ukuba awuyi kumnqanda ithuba elinjalo.

Buyise

Ukungaphambuki kokuphindiselela kubonakala kumadoda ahlukeneyo amazinga e-podkabluchnosti. Ukuxinezeleka ngumthandi okhanyayo, ophumelelayo okanye onetalente, okanye ixesha elide kuxhomekeka kuyo (i-propiska, imali, ukudibanisa), indoda inokunyamezela kakhulu. Kwaye ngoku kuza ixesha apho unethuba lokuphuma kwinkathalo. Isixa sokunganeliseki okuqokelelwe kuyo siya kumgangatho wezenzo. Esihlalweni samanzi amaninzi e-toxins aqokelele, afuna ukuwagxotha kumntu onobukrakra kwaye ngokukhawuleza, oko kubangela ukuba intlungu yabo yangaphambili ibuhlungu. Okucaphukisayo kukuba wayengubufakazi bakhe bokungabikho komntu. Olu hlobo lomntu luyingqinqa, luzele ngokupheleleyo kwizakhiwo eziphambili, umona onomona nokunyelisa. Awubonanga njani oku ngaphambili?

Omnye umfazi

Ukushiya omnye kukuvuyisa okukhulu, okungafuni ukukhusela nantoni na. Naliphi na ukuthetha ngale nto ayibiyo kwaye yingozi nangobungakanani ahlala kulo ngoku. Ukuzingca? Kakade! I-Consolation ingaba kunye naye, enye, uya kusebenza ekupheleni kwendlela efanayo. Kodwa akuyi kuba nantoni na enokuyenza nawe.

Altruism

Ngamanye amaxesha amadoda ahloniphekileyo (njengoko acinga) ayalala, ukuze angabangela inkathazo kubafazi. Umzekelo, ufunda ukuba uyagula. Okanye ilahlekile. Enye inketho yolu lwaphulo-mthetho apho inkosana yakho idibene khona kwaye iyaqala ukusongela izalamane zakhe. Kwakhona, amadoda amakhulu athile abashadile abaneentsizana, izilumko zincinci ziyeza. Abanye bakhawuleza bafumanisa ukuba bayonakalisa ubomi babo obuncinane baze bapheleke ngokukhawuleza ngaphandle kokulandelelana, ngethemba lokuba ubabalo oluvuthayo luya kulibala ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokuchanekileyo xa luchukumiseka kakhulu.

Yintoni elandelayo?

Uphuhliso oluqhubekayo lweziganeko kwiintlobo ezininzi kuxhomekeke kwisimo sakho. Ukuba umphefumlo udinga inyathelo elisebenzayo - khangela, khangela, zama ukuthetha. Kodwa ukususela ekuqaleni, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba awukwenzi oku ukwenzela ukuyibuyisela, kodwa ukuze ufumane ukuba yonke into ihlelekile. Enye impolelo ayikho into ekhohlisayo kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, iya kukubangela iintlungu ezininzi. Ukuba ufumanisa kwaye kuvela ukuba ilahleko yakho iphila kwaye, ungazami ukuyibuyisela. Ukuhlambalaza, uxinzelelo kwizesazela, ukuxhatshazwa, iinyembezi (ngokulandelelana, kunye nokubonakaliswa kobugwenxa) ngoku ayiyi kunceda. Musa ukubeka ngokukhawuleza kunye namanqaku okugqibela kweli bali. Ilungelo lokuba ukunyamalalala liya kubuya ngokukhawuleza. Ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, ukukhethwa kokubuyisela kunokwenzeka - kuxhomekeke kwimpawu zobuntu, kwakunye nokuphuhliswa kweemeko ezifanayo. Kwaye kulo mzuzwana kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungenzi izenzo kwaye ungathethi amagama ayeza kunqumla kuye indlela yokubuya. Ukuba, ngokwenene, ufuna ukuba abuyele. Ukuqonda isizathu sento eyenzekayo kubalulekile ubuncinane ukwenzela ukuba ungagqithanga kwixesha elinye. Emva kokuqonda indlela yokuziphatha kunye nefuthe elikhethekileyo kumlinge oye waphuma, uya kukwazi ukubona into engalunganga ngexesha elizayo. Into eyona nto kukufunda ukuba oku akusikho, kodwa ingxaki yayo. Kuxabisa ukucinga ngokucamngca ngawe, ukuba abakhethiweyo bakho, bathule, baphelelwe ngabunye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba izinto zikhula njani, ukuzithiba kwakho nokuzithemba kuya kuhlolwe ngababaleki okanye ngabanye. Kwaye, ngokubalulekileyo, musa ukulahlekelwa yintlonelo. Ukulahlekelwa ngumthandayo akufani nokulahlekelwa yedwa. Oku kubalulekile ukukhumbula nakwixesha elinzima kakhulu. Zixelele: kukuhle kangakanani, lihle kangakanani ithuba lokuqalisa yonke into ukususela ekuqaleni, kungeyena wonke umntu onenhlanhla! Enye into ebalulekileyo kukuxolela. Unokuxolela - unokuthi uhlehlise kwaye uqhubeke. Uncedo lunokuba yizikhumbuzo ezintle zeziganeko ezidlulileyo. Jonga nge-albhamu yezithombe, cinga ukuba lukhulu kangakanani lo mntu akunike lona, ​​ukuba ufundise kangakanani. Ziziphi iintsuku ezilungileyo okanye iminyaka owachitha kunye kunye. Khumbula okulungileyo. Ndiyabulela ngenxa yalo. Mye makahambe. Vumela ibali liphele. Oku kwenzeka ngaphandle kokuba uthathe inxaxheba, kwaye konke ongakwenzayo kwamkela kwaye uhlala.