Ulwalamano olufanelekileyo kwintsapho. Indlela yokuziphatha

Intsapho yinto ebalulekileyo kakhulu esinokuyenza. Ugogo wam wathi nayo yonke ibhinqa idinga indoda, kwaye ngokufanayo. Sonke sivame ukuva imibandela enjengale "imitshato eyenziwe ezulwini," ngoko kutheni baninzi abaqhawule umtshato, kutheni abantwana bekhulile kwiintsapho ezingabodwa? Impendulo iyabonakala: asikwazi ukuqonda. "Kutheni ungenalo umtshato omncinci ngaphambili?" Ucela.
Ewe, bonke ngenxa yokuba abafazi bavale amehlo abo kakhulu kwaye bazalisekisa oko amadoda ayifunayo kubo. Amaxesha ashintshile, kwaye enye entsha - "ukulingana" - ithathe indawo yezobudlelwane obudala. Kwaye sonke, sakhula kwiindaba kunye namava kubazali bethu, ayikwazi ukuvumelanisa neemeko ezintsha zobomi. Unokwazi ukufunda iincwadi zengqondo zeentsapho zexesha elide kumakhulu amabini, unokuphulaphula intombi kunye nombono wakhe wehlabathi okanye kwakhona unina, kwaye kungcono ukuzama ukuyiqonda, okokuqala kuqala kuwe, kwaye ke kumntu ohamba nawe ebomini.

Sifunda igrama esikolweni, kodwa akukho mntu usifundisa indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane bomntu kunye nendoda ethandekayo. Kubalulekile ukuba ungalokothi ulibale ukunyamekela kuye, ukuba unomdla kulokho akuthandayo. Uza kuthi: "Kutheni ndifanele ndibe nesithakazelo, sele ndiyazi yonke into, ndifunde yonke into ebudeni beminyaka yobomi bam kunye?" Uya kuba nephutha, kuba abantu, njengabantu bonke, bahlakulela kunye neendlela zabo zobomi iziphumo zabo zitshintsha. Umhlobo wakho uya kuvuya ukuqonda ukuba iingcamango zakhe neemfuno zakhe azikhathaleli. Ngokubuyisela, uya kufumana ukunyaniseka nokuthatha inxaxheba kumntu wakho. Uya kuqala ukuthabatha inxaxheba ebomini bakho, ngaloo ndlela uya kuqinisa ukudibanisa nokuxhomekeka kobudlelwane bakho. Musa nje ukulinda i-candy candy ngokubuyisela. Iminqweno yakho kufuneka ibe yinyani okanye ubuncinane ibonakale.

Ubomi bethu buquka izinto ezininzi ezincinci. Zifakwe kwimemori kwaye ngexesha xa uziva unesizungu, zihamba zihamba, zisinika uhlobo lokuhlaziya. Siqala ukuxoxa ngale ndlela kunye namadoda ethu kwaye kwakhona izixhobo ezingabonakali zothando ziba mfutshane kwaye sisondela. Awunakuze uxelele isiqingatha sakho malunga nokuba kubi kangakanani. Ezi zihloko zimele ziphelelwe ngumtshato ngaphambi komtshato okanye ngaphambi komtshato. Ngubani ofuna ukufudumala, ukunyamekela nokuthandana xa ehlanganiselwe emzimbeni ngamagama athi: "Oku akuzange kwenzeke kwaye kutheni uye waya khona." Kumele unike indoda leyo ukuba ikhaya lakhe yinqaba apho iya kuhlala iqondwa kwaye ixhaswe. Ubulungisa buphendulwa ngobubele. Kubalulekile ukuthetha omnye nomnye. Kufuneka sixoxe ngazo zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu.

Kubalulekile ukubeka imibutho esondeleyo edinga utshintsho. Ukuvuleka kwabesetyhini kwimicimbi esondeleyo kuphakamisa ukubonga. Emva kwakho konke, ngokuhamba kwexesha, ilangabi lenkanuko liye laphela kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuxhaswa kuwe nakwindoda yakho. Ngokufanayo, ukuthembela nokuqonda kukunceda ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho, kwaye, kwaye uthuthuke ngakumbi. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uqala ukulahlekelwa uxhumano lwakho, kubalulekile ukutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kwinto oyenzayo kunye nento ejikelezileyo ngokubanzi, ukuziva unamandla kwaye kunjalo, ukunikezela umntu wakho kwinto eyenzekayo. Uyakuziva uxhaswa, kuba ungoyena mntu uyintanda kunye naye osondeleyo kuye. Ukuba ucaphukisa ezinye zezenzo zakho zomlingane, akudingeki ukuba umemeza, uqinisekise okanye ubethe izitya. Kwanele ukubonisa ukungabi nomsindo kwifom elula. Ukuba awufumani impendulo eyaneleyo, ukulungiswa okanye ifom yesigqibo, kufuneka uphukiswe nje! Indoda enothando, okanye ubuncinane ubuxabisa ubudlelwane bakho obufudumele, ukuze ungaphazamisi imali ehlala kwintsapho, iya kuba yonakalise. Intsapho yakhiwe ngokuvumelana. Ngaphandle koko, kungekudala uza kushiywa wedwa kwaye kuya kuba nexesha elininzi lokucinga malunga nento oyenzile. Utsapho lizwe elincinci apho kukho imigaqo kunye nalapho abangaphandle bengavunyelwa khona. Ninyamekele omnye nomnye kwaye ujabule!