Kulo okanye kuloo meko, kukho iindlela ezininzi zokulahla umntu okanye ulwalamano naye.
Ukuba unomtshato obalulekileyo. Kodwa, uthando oluvela entliziyweni yakho luphelile .
Kule meko kunokubakho iindlela ezimbini: mhlawumbi uza kufika kwisigqibo esicacileyo sobudlelwane bakho kwitheyibhile yokuxoxisana ngokubanzi, okanye uya kufuneka uthathe uxanduva lokuzihlukanisa kuphela.
Ukuba ngokukhawuleza kuvela ukuba iqabane lakho aliyiva nantoni na kuwe, inkqubo yokuhlukana iya kuba yintlungu ebenzileyo kubo bobabini. Unokuhlala uhlala kunye nabahlobo kwaye ugcine ubudlelwane obuhle.
Kodwa, ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuthanda kwaye akayithandi ingcamango ofuna ukuyenza, kufuneka uzame. Ngokwemvelo, ngokubakho kuya kuba budenge ukunikela ubungane. Amadoda ngokwemvelo abanikazi, kunzima kwaye kubabuhlungu kubo ukuba babone indlela intombazana abathanda ngayo yokwakha ubudlelwane obutsha. Okubuhlungu ngakumbi, ukuba kule meko, uyakwazi ukuxelela umntu oselula, kwaye ngoku wakho umhlobo, zonke iinkcukacha zamabali akho omthandayo.
Nangona, indoda ingavuma ubudlelwane, kodwa ephantsi, iya kuthwala ingcinga yokuba unokubuya.
Ukuba uzama ukuchazela kumntu ongeva nto kuye ngenxa yokuba udibana kunye nothando lomnye umntu, ngoko kule meko kukho ezinye iingxaki. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunjani, qho qaleni uzame ukuya kwintetho. Akukho nto ingcono kunokuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo nangenyaniso. Mhlawumbi wakho umfana, ongeke uziva nantoni na, uya kuzama ukuqonda kwaye akuvumele uhambe.
Ukuba, wayengacacile kwaye unganyaniseki, kodwa iinzame zakho azizange zenze iziphumo ezifunwayo - umfana akafuni ukuphulaphula, kwaye akazimisele ukukhetha kunye nawe, kubalulekile ukuba uthathe amanyathelo angqongqo. A. okuthi, iphela nje ebomini bakhe. Ukuqokelela izinto uze ufikelele kubazali bakho, utshintshe inombolo yakho yefowuni. Uya kuphazamiseka, uya kuzama ukukufumanisa. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba indlela enjalo inkohlakalo iya kuzuza kuphela wena kunye naye.
Xa uphosa umntu ngenxa yokuba udibene nomnye umntu - umntu owangaphambili uza kukuqwalasela umrhwebi. Yilungele oku.
Ukuba uyingxenye ngenxa yokuba iimvakalelo ziye zaphela, musa ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo malunga nalo mfana. Gcina iimbilini kunye nokuzithemba. Chaza ukuba uhlukile kwaye awunayo ikamva. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kubi - awuhambisani ngokufanelekileyo ngezizathu ezininzi. Ngokwemvelo, kufuneka ulungele ukuchaza ezi zizathu.
Ukuba utyhafile ngumqhubi, kwaye awuyiva nantoni na .
Kule meko, kukulungele ukuthetha nokucacisa loo mntu njengokuba kunjalo. Ngendlela efanayo. Unokuthetha ngento yokuba awukwazi ukuba kunye, kuba uhlukile kakhulu. Ukuba umntu kuyo yonke inkcazo ufumana izizathu ezininzi kwaye unokuqinisekisile okuchaseneyo, ukuba unokukuvuyisa, kodwa awucingi ukuba - unokuba yinto enobungangamsha.
Kule meko, naziphi na iindlela ezilungileyo, nokuba zikhohlakele.
Khumbula ukuba ngokunikela ubungqina kumfana onjalo, awuyi kuzisa into enhle kuye okanye wena. Uya kukhangela iindlela zokukunqoba. Ulwalamano oluvela kwamanye amadoda luya kumbangela intlungu kwaye ayibuhlungu. Wena, ke, uya kuthi, ukuwubeka ngenyameko, uxinzelele ingqwalasela ngokweqile yomhlobo wakho omtsha.