Lo mbuzo uceliwe uninzi ngeli nqanaba elidlulileyo kwaye akukhawulezi. Ngaphambili, loo mibuzo ayizange iphakame, yonke into yayinqunywe kwaye yagqiba isigqibo. Ubomi kwihlabathi lanamhlanje luyinto eyahlukileyo apho wonke umntu unxanela ukuzimela, ufuna ukuphuma kwisihlwele, abonise ukuba nguye. Awukwazi ukulahleka kweli hlabathi. Makhe siqwalasele ezinye iingcebiso.
Ngaphambi komtshato, kuyinqweneleka ukulungisa iingxaki zemihla ngemihla. Ngokutsho kweengxowa-zentlalo, ubomi bentsapho bunika ikhefu ngokusekelwe kwiingxaki zemihla ngemihla. Ngoko ke, kukuchanekileyo ukugqiba ukuba ngubani ojongene nentsapho. Umzekelo, uyavuma ukuba isiqalo esilungileyo siya kuba ukuba umfazi uthatha uxanduva lwekhaya, ukucoceka encinci kwansuku zonke, ukupheka. Kwindoda, kulungele ngakumbi ukuthatha ukucocwa ngokubanzi, ukuhlamba iisokisi zakho, ukuhlamba (ubuncinane ngamanye amaxesha) izitya, usebenze ekhaya. Xa umntu eyazi into enoxanduva kunye noko akumele akwenze, uqeqesho. Abaninzi abafazi abatshatileyo bakhononda ngabayeni babo ukuba akenzi nto ekhaya.Kulungile, kwaye kutheni uya kwenza oko ukuba awuzange uyifunde kuye iminyaka engamashumi amathathu.Kodwa ungahambi kakhulu kunye nemithetho kunye nokuphunyezwa ngokukodwa kwayo yonke imithetho kunye namalungiselelo. Iyure ayinjalo nokuba yonke into ingaba nzima kwaye umyeni okanye umfazi wenqabe ukubuyela kwi-robot.
Ukuba ukuqala kobomi bentsapho kuvela kuphela kwiimvakalelo zothando, ngoko mhlawumbi umkhombe wakho wosapho uya kuphazamiseka kwixesha elizayo, ekubeni uthando aluyinto engaqhelekanga, lunokuza kwaye lubuye lubuye. Ukuba uqala ukutshata, ngokukhawuleza xa unomvakalelo omtsha kwaye uwaphule, ngokukhawuleza xa uhlaziya, ngokuthe ngcembe uya kuba yedwa uqobo. Ukuthanda imiva kusasa umvuzo wokunceda kwimicimbi kusihlwa.
Isihloko esicacileyo kufuneka sithintwe kwihambo edibeneyo yeeholide kunye neentlanganiso kunye nabahlobo. Akulungele ukuba abantu batshintshe ngokukhawuleza kwaye banikezele ubomi babo obudala: ukusela kunye nabahlobo kunye nangaphandle, belala egalaji ngeveki-veki, bechitha ixesha lokuvakashela ivenkile njengaleyo. Kancinci, umnqweno kunye nokukwazi ukuchitha ixesha njengoko ndifuna, kuya kubakho. Ngethuba lexesha, abantu, njengoko bathi, "baqhelane", ngoko ukungavumelani malunga nexesha lokungcebeleka kwentsapho liya kudla.
Isiqalo esilungileyo asithethi "ukubonwa" kwendoda okanye umfazi, kodwa kukuphi ukunyamekela kwakhe okanye ngaye? "Sawubona" - siyiqonda njengento yokuphindaphinda efanayo kunye nenjongo ukuba umntu enze isenzo esiyidingayo. Kodwa akusoloko ikhokelela kwisiphumo esifunileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kulungiswa kakubi iqabane lakho malunga nawe. Amava ezizukulwana abonisa ukuba amadoda nabafazi abaye baphumelela ukuchaphazela esinye isiqingatha ngexesha lokuphila kwabo bafuna iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokubakhuthaza ukuba baqhelane nabantwana babo, ngokuqhelekileyo kulo mzekelo umvuzo usebenza kangcono kunesihlwayo. Le nyaniso inokuphindaphindiwe kwakhona, kodwa akubona zonke izibini ezikulungele ukuqonda oko kwenzekayo kwintsapho yabo. Kufuneka kunikwe ixesha elingakumbi ukuxoxa ngengxaki. Musa ukudibanisa nesisombululo seengxaki zabantwini-sithathu, kwanezihlobo ezinjengezi: umama, utata, umkhwekazi, umkhwekazi, njl. .. Ukudibanisa aba bantu kunokulimaza isimo sakho sengqondo.
Ungaqalisa njani ubomi bentsapho? Lo mbuzo uza kucelwa ezininzi izibini, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kukwazi ukuphendula kuphela emva kwexesha elide, kwaye akusiyo yonke into, kodwa yilabo kuphela abanokukhokela inqanawa yentsapho emanzini athathaka obomi bentsapho.