"Ngaba kukho uthando?" Ziziphi iimpawu zayo? Andikholelwa kuyo ... "- lo mbuzo wabuzwa ngumfana oneminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu ubudala. Ndacinga ... Enyanisweni, ingxoxo ngesihloko - ingaba kukho uthando oluqhelekileyo luqala ukusichaphazela ebusheni. Kwakule mizuzu ukuba siqale sihlangabezane neentlobo zokuqala zothando, ukuphoxeka kunye nezikhalazo. Yintoni eyenzekayo ngokwenene kuthi: ukuvuselelwa kwe-hormonal yezinto eziphilayo okanye owaziwa kuqala kwisikolo sobomi?
Kule minyaka, ukufumana amava kwintsebenziswano kunye nesini esahlukileyo, sibonakala ngokuhlukileyo kokubili ukuthanda, kunye nayo yonke imiphumo esilandelayo. Into eyona nto kukuba ukudumala kokuqala kobuncinci akukho mpe mbelelo kwintombazana yentombazana kunye nemibono yakhe ebomini kunye nakumadoda ngokukodwa. Kuya kuba mnandi ukuba nomcebisi ohlakaniphileyo kufuphi naye, bhetele, ngokwenene, unina okanye omnye umntu onokwethenjelwa.
Ngenxa yobungozi bomphefumlo omncinci kunye nokungasilungelelananga kwengqondo engumntwana ukuqonda izinto ezidakisayo zokuphila, kubalulekile kwaye kuya kuba kuhle ukuba ungagxininisi ngesondo sokuqala. Intombazana kufuneka ibe, okokuqala, ilungele into yokuba uthando lunokuba yinto ebomini, ukuze kungathandwa. Isondo sokuqala akufanele sibe "ukuhlawula" ngenxa yothando okanye ngesimo somntu. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokuphela kuphela xa kukukholisa umfazi ngokwakhe, ngaphandle kokufuna into ethile ngokubuyisela.
Ngoko yintoni uthando? Sivame ukuthanda, ukufuna ukuphindaphinda. Inqaku elithile lokuzingca lisebenza: "Wena kum mna-mna kuwe" ... Uthando olungenabugovu alufunanga nantoni na, kodwa uthando olunjalo alufanekanga kwaye aluzuzisi umntu onothando. Ngokuqhelekileyo uthando lokuthandana ludidekile nothando lokwenene. I-Infatuation yintswelo engapheliyo, mhlawumbi inempembelelo yeehomoni zomntu ofanayo: sitshisa, sitshisa, silahlekelwa yintloko yethu, kwaye emva kwexeshana asikwazi ukuqonda into esiyifumene kwisifundo sokubonga kwethu.
Xa uthanda, uya kukhuthazela, ulinde ngokuzithelekileyo, ngaphandle kwembuzo kunye nentliziyo yolonwabo. Njengoko intombazana enye yathi: "Uthando xa umama ebona indlela ubaba ehleli ngayo ngasese, kwaye akayikuyikhumbula." Oku kuphawuleza kwakhona kuqinisekisa kwakhona ukuba uthando luninzi, kukho imbonakalo emininzi yothando, kwaye umntu ngamnye unako ukubonisa ukuqulunqwa kwaloo mvakalelo.
Njengoko akukho babini abantu abafana, ngoko akukho zibonakaliso ezimbini ezifanayo zothando. Umntu ngamnye uthanda ngezindlela ezahlukeneyo, njengoko anikwe. Ngako oko, uthando lomfazi ofanayo kunye namadoda ahlukeneyo luyahlukahluka: unomdla ongenamdla, ongenabugovu kunye novuyo ngexesha elinye, kunye nolunye uxolo-oluzolileyo, oluzolile noluthembekileyo. Kodwa oku akutsho ukuba owokuqala okanye wesibini wamthanda kakhulu okanye ngaphantsi, okanye wenza oko ...
Ngokudala sifunda ukuthanda. Kwaye ukuba xa sasineminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu sasiqhawula izikhwebu zethu size silile emlanjeni ovela kwezinye iintlobo zokuhluleka kothando, emva kwemashumi angamashumi amabini anesihlanu, kungekhona onke amabhinqa aya kuphazamiseka ngale ndlela. Eyenziwe njengomntu, eyazi ukuba uyabaluleka, ibhinqa lifunda ukuba "lizilwanyana" ekuzingeleni amadoda. Ukuba kwenzeke ngenye indlela, kwaye ugijima kwifowuni yokuqala yendoda, ngoko, ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuphelelwa ngumdla ngokukhawuleza.
Ewe, kukho uthando ekuqaleni, ndikholelwa kuyo, kodwa akubona wonke umntu unalo ithuba lokufumana olo thando. Ivakalelo lokwenene livame ukuzalwa kungekhona kwimimiselo yokuqala yintlanganiso, kodwa kamva kamva, ngamanye amaxesha nangemva konyaka. Ngoko ke, umntu kufuneka akwazi okanye afunde indlela yokudala ubudlelwane obunjalo obuya kubomelelela kwaye lube namandla ngakumbi ngosuku ngalunye oludlula. Ngokwemvelo, ngenxa yesimo sengqondo ofuna unamava athile okanye i talente ezalwa.
Kwaye ngoku qwalasela iinkalo zeengcamango zomxholo othi "uthando". Kuyaziwa ukuba uthando alufani, ngesiseko salokhu, ukwahlula iintlobo ezininzi zothando.
Iintlobo zothando
- U-Eros - umonde-uthando, obangelwa, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ngokukhangwa ngesondo. Unomdla, unomzimba kunye nomoya, uninzi ngokwakho kunomnye, uthando ngokwalo luqaqambile kwaye lunomdla. Olu hlobo luthando aluhlali luvuyo, kuba ngoxinzelelo lweentliziyo, abathandi bahlala belahlekelwa iintloko zabo, kwaye kuza umzuzwana "wokukhathazeka".
- UFilia - ubuhlobo bobuhlobo, uthando-olufanisa ukhetho oluqaphelayo, olucingayo. Oku kuvakalelwa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kulolu thando, unako ukubonelela nokubala okunye, njengoko umntu ecinga aze ahlalutye ubuhlobo bakhe. Kwiimfundiso zikaPlato, olu hlobo luthando luphakanyisiwe ukuya kwizinga eliphezulu.
- U-Agape uluthando olungokomoya nolushushu. Uthando lombingelelo, uthando ngenxa yesinye, njengombingelelo ngokwakho. Inkolo yehlabathi ibona lo thando njengento ephakamileyo yomntu. Akuyena wonke umntu onokuthandana nothando olunjalo, uthando ngaphandle kokufuna enye into ngokubuyisela. Enyanisweni, lo luyintando yokwenene. Kubuhlungu ukuba lolu hlobo luthando ludla ngokufanayo.
- I-Storge - uthando lwentsapho, uthando-ukunakekelwa, uthando-inceba. Uthando olunjalo lufanele lubekho kwintsapho efanelekileyo, apho ukuqonda, ukuhlonelana komnye kubusa. Ngokuqhelekileyo kulolu hlobo luthando luye lwaphuma kule fomu apha ngasentla.
- I-Mania yintando-ukunyaniseka, okubangela ukufudumala komkhuhlane, ukudideka kunye nentlungu emphefumlweni, ukulahleka kokulala nokutya. Kuzwakala kuyingozi kakhulu, nangona amantombazana amantombazana asetsheni "athathaka" ngale ndlela yothando.
Inyaniso kukuba: uthando lubonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kunye nemibala. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthando lubukeka njani, bekuhlala lukhona, luya kuba njalo luya kuba njalo. Nento othanda ngayo ukubonakaliswa kwayo - i-eros, inxulumano, i-agape, i-storge okanye imania, ukukhetha nokuziva kuphela kuwe. Ngaba uye wazama ukuthetha malunga nokuba kukho uthando nomhlobo okanye othandekayo kunye nomthandayo? Kuya kuba mnandi ukwazi ulwazi lwakhe. Nangona, inyaniso iyatshelwa, kungekhona wonke umntu onokukuxelela inyaniso yabo yobomi ...