Iinto zokuzilibazisa zezingane kunye nokwenza izinto zokuzilibazisa zenziwa ngokuxhomekeka kwiminyaka kunye neemfuno zomntwana. Abanye abantwana benza izinto zokuzilibazisa, bejonga abazali babo. Kodwa akuzona zonke izinto zokuzilibazisa zabantwana ezichazwe isizukulwana esidala. Omnye akanakukungaziboni i-genetic predisposition, xa umntwana ebonisa italente engenayo uyise okanye unina. Ngokomzekelo, unengqondo yomculo okhulayo, kwaye akukho nanye wabazali bakho oye wazama ukuthatha isixhobo somculo. Inokwenzeka ukuba, umntwana wakho wamkela izakhi zooyise.
Indlela yokujonga ukuthambekela kokudala komntwana?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, izakhono zezingane kunye nobuchule bobuchule buqala ukuvela kubantwana beselula kakhulu, ukususela kwiminyaka emibini ubudala. Abazali babalulekile ngexesha lokuba baqaphele kwaye baxhase umntwana kubaluleke kakhulu kuye. Abantwana abavakalisa iitalente abanqabile. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana uhlala efuna uphendlo lwakhe. Kule meko, izinto zokuzilibazisa zezingane zixhaphake kakhulu. Emva koko uthanda ukudibanisa amathoyizi kwaye ungeze into emitsha kwiinkcukacha eziphumo, kwaye emva kweeyure ezimbalwa sele sele engumculi omkhulu obonakalisa kuyo yonke indawo malunga neetalente zakhe ezisandul 'ukufumanisa. Ngaloo ndlela, abantwana bafuna "I" yabo, bezama ukuqonda oko banomphefumlo wabo, yintoni e kufuphi nabo. Umntwana uyaziqonda ezenzweni zakhe zokuzilibazisa. Enye into yokuba umntwana akanalo nantoni na, akanalo ikhefu. Akukho nto eyenzekayo ngokwayo. Ngoko abazali, ekubeni ngumntwana kwigunya elingenakuphikiswa, baqala ukumxelela ukuba yeyiphi indlela yokuzilibazisa kunye nokuba yiyiphi umdla kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa ezikhulayo. Ngenxa yoko, inkwenkwe yanciphisa intshukumo yakhe kwaye, ekugqibeleni, yalahlekelwa ngumdla kuyo yonke into. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungadluli ngokukhangela i-hobby. Xa uphinde ulayishe umntwana wakho ngamacandelo ahlukeneyo, umzimba wakhe ukhathele kakhulu. Ngenxa yoko, ubuthathaka jikelele kunye nezifo ezahlukahlukeneyo kule ndawo zingabonakala. Qala ngeyodwa into. Yaye ungayinikeli kwiyunithi, ukuba ucinga nje ukumbona umntwana wakho kwiminyaka emibini kwintsebenzo eminye ingoma. Ukuba uzama ukudweba - mthabathe esikolweni sobugcisa; udansa xa eva umculo - ukudanisa kunye njalo. Thatha umntwana wakho ngengqalelo ekhethekileyo, uya kutyhila iitalente zakhe kuwe.
Ungayifumana njani indlela yokuzonwabisa ngokuthanda kwakho?
Namhlanje kukho iindidi ezahlukileyo zazo zonke iindidi zengqungquthela kubantwana beminyaka yonke. Kwizinto zokuzilibazisa kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa, abazali baqala ukuzibuza ukuba umntwana uneminyaka emibini okanye emithathu kuphela ubudala. Enyanisweni, kunzima kubazali ukuba bathathe isigqibo kwaye benze ukhetho olufanelekileyo ngenxa yale nto okanye loo nto yokuzilibazisa kunye nokuzilibazisa, ukuchonga kwimizila engama-100 kuphela yabantwana abaya kuba banomdla kakhulu kulona. Ngokuqhelekileyo senza iimpazamo, sizama ukunyanzelisa abantwana ukuba bazingakwazi ukuzibona zabo ngobuntwaneni babo. Umzekelo, umama wayefuna ukufunda indlela yokudweba, kodwa ngaphandle kwamakhono akhethekileyo, akazange aqonde le phupha. Ngokukhawuleza ufumanisa indlela yokuphuma - ayizange iphumelele kum, iya kuba yintombi yam. Ngoko uqala ngeendlela zonke ukunyanzelisa intombazana imfuneko yokuya esikolweni sobugcisa, endaweni yokuqonda oko umntwana unomdla kuzo, into enomdla ngayo.
Ukugcina impilo yengqondo yomntwana kukho izigaba ezahlukeneyo zemidlalo: i-yoga, ikarati, ibhola lebhola, i-volleyball, i-tennis, i-skating skating nabanye abaninzi. Baya kuncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale efanelekileyo, uya kuphuhlisa umoya wezemidlalo kuye. Isigaba sokubhukuda sigqibelele kubantwana. Kwidama lomntwana linokunikezwa kwiminyaka emithathu. Ukubhukuda kwakha yonke imisipha kwaye yenye yezemidlalo ebalulekileyo kakhulu. Khawuphuhlise impilo emzimbeni, kwaye ube nomfanekiso omhle wezemidlalo ukudansa. Okokukhethayo ngumbuzo obunzima kunzima. Phakamisa izikhetho ezimbalwa ze-crumb, makammise kwindawo enomdla kakhulu kuye. Ngamaqondo afihlakeleyo kunye nobugcisa, amacandelo omzekelo, umculo, ukudweba, i-macram, kunye nabanye baphelele. Baya kunceda umntwana wakho azivakalise.
Iminyaka yabantwana ihamba ngokukhawuleza. Ncedisa i-crib yakho ibenze kunye nenzuzo kunye nomdla.