Umzali kubantwana

Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali benza iimpazamo ekukhuliseni ukuzimela kwabantwana. Nangona kunjalo, akumangalisi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali banakekela abantwana babo kakhulu, bexhalaba ngokufumana ubumnandi buntwaneni. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kulungile, abantwana kuphela abanokuhlakulela ukuzingca, kunye nokukhula, baya kuqhubeka befuna kubazali babo ukuba bafezekise zonke izinto zabo. Yingakho kufuneka ufumane umda wegolide kwaye ufundise abantwana ukuzimela. Ngaphandle koko, ekugqibeleni, kuya kufuneka uhlawule ngenxa yokuba bavumele umntwana kakhulu.

Izakhono zokuqala

Ngoko, yintoni efunekayo eyenziwa ukufundisa ukuzimela kwabantwana? Ewe, kuyimfuneko ukuqala imfundo esemncinci. Ukuqala oko kuyimfuneko ukuba umkhwenkwe umntwana ukuba azimele kwizinto eziphambili: ukuhlamba, ukuxubha amazinyo, udle. Ukuba umntwana usuka ekuqaleni kobomi bakhe besafunda ukwenza ezi zinto zilula, kamva akayi kuba nomnqweno wokucela unina ukuba amondle okanye ahlambe.

Ukufunda ukunceda

Abantwana bancinane kakhulu, eneminyaka engama-4 ubudala, umnqweno wokunceda abantu abadala, benze oko bakwenzayo. Abazali abaninzi abanikeli abantwana, umzekelo, ukuhlamba izitya okanye ukucoceka, ngokubhekisela kwinto yokuba baya kuyenza kakuhle. Ukukhuliswa okunjalo kubangalunganga. Ekubeni umntwana usenokuba ngandlela-thile uya kufuneka afunde ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya kwaye ekuqaleni akuyi kusebenza. Kodwa ukuba akaqhelekanga ukuzimela, ngoko-kudala kuya kuba nzima kunokuba umphoqe ukuba enze into ethile, kuba uya kufundiswa ukuba abazali bakhe kufuneka benze yonke imisebenzi. Yingakho ukukhuliswa kakuhle kukubandakanya ukwenza imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo yasekhaya, kodwa ke, phantsi kolawulo lwabazali, ukuphepha ukulimala okuhlukahlukeneyo.

Xanduva

Ukuphuhliswa kokuzimela kubantwana kubalulekile ukudala iimeko apho umntwana eziva ejongene nento ayithandayo. Yingakho ukuba umntwana ecela isilwanyana, akufanele uyenqabe. Kodwa kuyimfuneko ukubeka imimiselo ecacileyo ngokukhawuleza, uchaze ukuba kufuneka anakekele isilwanyana ngokwakhe. Abazali abaninzi bathi, kodwa ekugqibeleni baqala ukwenza konke ngokwabo. Le mpazamo enkulu. Ngaloo ndlela, abantwana bafundela ukuba umama noba banokuthi bathethe into enye, kodwa baya kuqhubeka bexanduva lwabo. Ngoko ke, nangona umntwana evila, musa ukuyeka kwaye uqale ukwenza into ethile. Enyanisweni, ukuba isilwanyana asihlali sisondlo okanye impilo yomntwana ihlupheka, musa ukuma. Kodwa nakweyiphi na imeko, imbuzi ngokwayo kufuneka ifunde ukubukela isilwanyana. Ngendlela, abazali abaninzi bayamemeza kubantwana, ukuxhaphaza nokunyanzelisa. Ngoko akunakwenzeka ukwenza. Kufuneka sikhulume naye kwaye sichaze ukuba umntwana ungumnikazi weli silwanyana kwaye uxanduva lwakhe. Kwaye ukuba unembopheleleko kumntu, kufuneka ubeke iliso kuye, kuba ukuba awuyiyo, isilwanyana siyakulimaza kwaye sibi.

Ukuphuhliswa kokuzimela komfundi

Xa umntwana eqala ukuya esikolweni, kuyimfuneko ukuhlakulela ukuzithemba kokubili ngokwemigangatho yokufunda kunye nentshukumo yoluntu. Abazali abaninzi abayithandi ukuhlala nabantwana ixesha elide lokufunda kunye nokwenza imisebenzi yabo. Ewe, maxa wambi kunzima kumntu omdala ukulwa nomntwana omncinci obongeza ezimbini kunye ezintathu. Kodwa ukuba awunjalo, unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho uza kuza kuwe ubomi, nangona xa kuthethwa ngomyalelo womntu ogulayo okanye umfanekiso wesakhiwo esitsha.

Kwaye into yokugqibela ekumiswe kuyo isisombululo esizimeleyo seengxaki kunye neengxabano kunye noontanga. Abantwana banomkhuba wokuhlala bebalekela abazali babo ukukhusela. Kule meko, oomama kunye nabagadi bafanele baqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba bangenelela okanye bangenzi. Ukuba ubona ukuba ingxabano ixazululwa ngaphandle kokuba uthathe inxaxheba, cacisa umntwana ukuba kufuneka uzikhusele kwaye ulondoloze umbono wakho phambi kwabanye abantwana, kuba lo luhlobo lokuziphatha olwandisa igunya. Kodwa, ewe, kwimeko xa umntwana ehlonywa ngokungathandabuzeki kwaye akakwazi ukulwa nesihlwele sonke, abazali kufuneka bangenelele ukwenzela ukuba i-psyche kunye nempilo yengane ayithinteki.