Abaninzi abesifazana ubuncinane bodwa bakhathazeke ngale mbuzo: "Ubukhwele bubonakala njani kumadoda?" Kucacile nakwabasetyhini apha, unokumbuza ukuba ngubani na apho wayekho, kutheni abuyele emva kwexesha eliqhelekileyo, uyabhenca ukubona ukuba indoda iyavumba njengowesifazane imimoya, njl. Kodwa kumadoda, ngokumangalisayo, umona ubonakalisa ngendlela efanayo. Uyakwazi ukubuza, kunye nobani kwaye ukhona, kwaye ukuba ubona ukuba uyathetha nomhlobo wakho, ngoko uya kubuza ukuba umazi kangakanani.
Ukubonakaliswa komona kubantu
Ukuba umthandi wakho wanquma ukuya kwindawo yokudlala emva kokuba efumene ukuba uya khona kunye nomnxulumani wakho; ukuba indoda yakho ikunikezela emva kokuba umxelele ukuba umhlobo uya kukuqhubela - ezi ziimpawu zokuqala ukuba unomona.
Umona wesilisa ubonakalisa ngendlela ekhethekileyo
Oku kusebenza kula madoda akhetha ukungaziphathe ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa ukufuna izixhobo, aba bantu bahlala bebubele. Ngesidlo sakusihlwa, uthetha ngokukhawuleza ngomhlobo wakho aze abuze: "Kuze kube nini nazi na?" La madoda anamahloni ukubonisa ukuba banomona, kodwa ukuba uthetha ngamanye amaxesha ngamaxesha, oku kuwuphawu lokhwele.
Esinye isibonakaliso somona ngumntu wakho usabela ngayo kumhlobo wakho. Kwizitrato udibana nomhlobo wakho omdala, ongabonanga iminyaka emininzi. Uyangqongqoze, wawanga kunye kwaye xa uqala ukuthetha, umthandi wakho ulapho. Uqala ukuqhelana naye, uzama ukutsala ingqalelo okanye ukuthetha ngaphandle kokuyeka, kuphela ukuze umhlobo wakho kwaye ungathethi kunye kuphela.
Kwimiphakathi yanamhlanje, umtshato awufanelekanga ukuba ungavumeli ukufikelela kubonxibelelwano nabantu. Nangona isizathu sokuba nomona ubukrexeze, umntu unokuba nomona othandekayo wakhe ngenxa yokuzilibazisa, ikhomputha, umsebenzi kunye njalo.
Ukuba nomona kuyinkxwaleko enzima, lo mnqweno wokuba nefa kunye nokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumthandayo, kuhamba ngokungaqiniseki ngokunyaniseka nangokuthandana, ukungathembeki okukrakra kuhamba kunye nomsindo kunye nokuthotywa. Yonke into enomona yokugcina eceleni kwakho nayiphi na indleko yomnye umntu, ingqiqo yobunini, ukungathembeki kweqabane, ukuzithemba, ukuzithoba.
Imiphumo yobukhwele obugqithisileyo
- Ikhwele likhokelela ekudakaleni kobudlelwane phakathi kwamaqabane. Iinyembezi, ama-scandals, ukuthungca, ukuxabana, ukuhlambalaza kunye nokusola kwenza ubomi bube nzima.
- Ukusola ngokusoloko kunye nokuhlambalazwa ngokunyaniseka kunokukhokelela ekutshintsheni kwangempela. Ukungcatshiswa okunjalo kuthiwa "ukukhawuleza".
- Ikhwele lifikelela ngamandla anjalo kangangokuba luba lukhuni. Ubukhwele besikhwele bubonakalisa kwizinto ezifunwa ngabaphikisana okanye kwizenzo ezinobudlova kumlingane.
- Imbonakalo yangaphandle yomona inefuthe elibi kwimpilo yabantwana. Yaye nabazali ngomgudu wokunyanga umntwana baphoqeleke ukuba babekelelane ixesha.
- Umona onamandla unempembelelo embi kwimpilo yabo. Abantu abanobukhwele bafumana ukungabikho, iintlungu zabo zibangele ukuphazamiseka kwemiqobo okanye ukuxinezeleka, baneengxaki ngamathumbu, abanesihlungu esiswini.
- Ngenxa yamava, umsebenzi weengingqi zengqondo ejongene nokuxiliswa kwe-metabolism uphazamiseka, okukhokelela ekuzuzeni ubunzima. I-immune system ihlupheka kwaye i-eczema iqala.
Zama ukulwa nomona ngezo zinto
Fumana isizathu sokuba iqabane lakho lithandabuze ukunyaniseka kwakho, kwaye lo mkhwele uye waba ngumkhwa. Yenza umyeni wakho kubahlobo bakhe bobulili obuhlukile, ubenze ngabahlobo naye, uya kuqonda ukuba akukho nto ingasongela ulonwabo. Kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuzithemba, ukunyaniseka nokuzinza kobudlelwane bakho. Musa ukunika izizathu zesikhwele, ungaqumbisi umona. Ukunyanzelisa ngenye indlela ukuba ube nomona kwiqabane lakho, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba iimvakalelo zabanye abantu kunye nawe ziyakwazi. Bayafuna ixesha lokuqhaqhafaza nokuguqula. Dlala ngekhwele, ungadlala. Into ephambili kweli shishini akuyi kuhamba kakhulu. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuba umntu ufuna ukunika iimvakalelo zakhe, ukunyamekela nokunyamekela. Ungatsho ukuba ityuwa yothando ngumona. Yaye xa iingxaki ziqala, kukho ityuwa eninzi, kwaye uthando luya kuba lula.