Ukukhumbula iingqondo zengqondo, phantse bonke abantwana bazalwa bethemba. Ngokweminyaka yobudala bancike ngokupheleleyo kumama. Uyayikhathalela umntwana, uyondla, ahlasele i-shampoos kwaye uyakhusela. Ngoko ke, ekuqaleni, ukuthembela kuvela ngqo kunina, kodwa kuphela kubaba, oogogo nomkhulu. Abazali baxhomekeke ekubeni esi siko sikhula okanye cha.
Izizathu zokulahleka kwethemba
Xa umntwana eqala ukukhula, abantu abadala abanalo ixesha elaneleyo lokuthetha. Kwakhona, ukukhohlisa rhoqo kwiindawo zabazali akubi kakhulu. Musa ukuthembisa ukuba awukwazi ukuzalisekisa. Ukukhohlisa okuqhelekileyo kuya kuqhubela phambili ekulahlekelweni kokuzithemba.
Naluphina uhlobo lwesigwebo somzimba olukhokelela kwimiphumo engathandekiyo. Intetho rhoqo kunye neongongelo zonakalise kakhulu igunya lomntu omdala. Umntwana uya kuqaliswa ukuba ahlukane ngokwabo. Kananjalo, abantwana abahlawuliswa ngokukhawuleza baqala ukuxoka. Ingxoxo epheleleyo kuphela inokugcina umntwana engoyiko.
U-Nestoit ucinga ukuba ngoncedo lweminikelo yezipho ezisigxina, unokuxhasa inkxaso. Oku kuphosakeleyo.
Ukuba umntwana uye walahlekelwa yithemba kwintsapho yakhe, oku kubangela ukuba ahlale yedwa, abe nesizungu kunye nokungaqiniseki. Abantwana abanjalo bakhula ngokungafaniyo ebomini. Abazi ukuba bangabhekana njani neemeko ezinzima. Ngako oko, ukuthembela kunye nobudlelwane obuhle kukubalulekileyo ekuphuculweni komntwana kunye nobomi obonwabileyo.
Indlela yokugcina nokubuyisela ukuthembela komntwana
Zonke iimbopheleleko zokulondolozwa kwethemba zihlala kumahlombe kwabazali. Ngoko ke, banyanzelekile ukuba babonise isinyathelo. Abantu abadala kufuneka baqale ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo neemvakalelo zabo. Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukukhusela kwaye ungabi memezo kumntwana. Ukuba ngaba abazali baye bavumela ukuba bangenangqondo, kufuneka umntu akwazi ukuzibona eziphene zabo. Ngaphambi kokuba umntwana kudingeke ukuba axolise kwaye acele ukuxolelwa. Oku kubaluleke kwaye kunceda ukugcina ithemba. Umntwana uziva ngokugqithiseleyo ubuxoki nokukhohlisa.
Ukuze ulungelelanise okanye abuyisele ukuthembela komntwana, abadala kufuneka baqale ngokwabo, nangona bafuna ukutshintsha. Abazali akufanele banike umzekelo ombi.
Kubalulekile ukubonisa uthando lwakho nomsindo kwixesha elingalindelekanga. Ingaphantsi umntwana elindele, ngakumbi uya kuvuya.
Kubalulekile ukuhlonipha iimvakalelo kunye nembono yomntwana. Akufanele uphinde uxele abantwana. Nokuba negama lomnxeba ngokukrakra lingakhubekisa kwaye limcaphukise. Umdala umntwana uya kuba, uyabuhlungu ngakumbi. Musa ukubeka umntwana wakho kwindawo engafanelekiyo. Ukwahlula ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba enze amanqaku kubantu abadala, ingakumbi kunye noontanga. Kubuhlungu abantwana kakhulu.
Abazali bafanele baxoxe ngokuziphatha kunye nemilinganiselo engalunganga yomntwana kunye nabangaphandle, ngakumbi ebusweni bakhe. Zibeke kwindawo yakhe uze uginye indlela engathandeki ngayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukulahlekelwa yithemba kuyenzeka ngenxa yeemfuno ezingaphezu kwexesha, ezibazali abazenzayo kubantwana babo. Bafuna umntwana ube yimpumelelo ethile esikolweni okanye kwimidlalo. Kodwa bonke abantwana bahluke ngokupheleleyo. Abanye bade bazama kakhulu, abakwazi ukuzisa esinye sintlanu. Kwakhona, icandelo elikhethiweyo lingawuthandi umntwana kwaye uyayivakashela kuphela ngenxa yokuba abazali bafuna. Kule meko, ubudlelwane buya kunzima. Ngoko ke, akufanele ubeke phambi kweemfuno ezingenayo. Kubalulekile ukufumanisa into enomdla kunye nento ofuna ukuyenza ngexesha lakho lokukhulula.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubandakanya umntwana kumncinci omncinane ukuba athathe inxaxheba kwimidlalo yasekhaya nakwiingxoxo. Kubalulekile ukuba aziva ukuba uthembekile. Ungalokothi utyumle abantwana ukuba abaphumelelanga. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukudumisa nokuxhasa umntwana kwimizamo yakhe yonke. Ukutsalana komntwana ukuya kwishishini kuye kumsebenzi, ngexesha elifanayo, ngokusondelene nabazali bakhe. Kwakhona, abantwana abanjalo bahlonipha kakhulu unina noyise. Yonke imisebenzi yabantwana kufuneka ikhuselekile kwaye ingabonakali.
Ixabiso elikhulu ekuphuhliseni okufanelekileyo komntwana ukwaneliseka kwidingo lokubuyiswa kwakhona koontanga. Abazali bamele bamncede ukuba baququzelele kwaye bafundise indlela yokwenza abahlobo. Umntwana kufuneka ahlale eqinisekile ukuba umama nobaba bam unokumkhusela baze bamxelele. Ingane kufuneka ingashiywe yodwa kunye neengxaki zayo. Ngoko ke, abazali abaxakeke kakhulu bafanele bafumane ixesha lokuthetha nomntwana wabo.
Uthando kunye nethemba
Ubaluleka obukhulu ekudaleni ubudlelwane obuthembayo budlalwa yintando kunye nesimo esihle sengqondo kwintsapho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphuhlisa ubuchule babantwana babo ukususela ebuntwaneni. Unokuvelisa umvakalelo wothando kunye noxanduva lomntwana. Ukuze wenze oku, abaninzi abanokholo kwengqondo bancoma ukuba babe nesilwanyana sasekhaya. Esi sigqibo kufuneka sithathwe kunye nosana kwaye sinyamekele isilwanyana ukuze sibeke kuso. Abantu abadala kufuneka bafundise umntwana ukuba amkhathalele ngokufanelekileyo. Kufuneka aqonde ukuba izenzo ezingenakunceda nokungalunganga zingabangela intlungu eninzi kunye nenzakalo embi kumntwana. Umntwana onenkomo yesilwanyana unesiva sobodwa, kuyafuneka kwaye kubalulekile kumntu. Uya kujonga ubudlelwane obuhlukeneyo kwintsapho yakhe.
Inendima ebaluleke kakhulu ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abadala kunye nabantwana idlala yimidlalo edibeneyo. Ziyakuvumela ukuba usondele kumntwana, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uza kuzisa umnwabo. Umntwana ukhula ngexesha le midlalo kwaye ufunda ukuthembela kunina. Ungakwazi ukuqhuba iindlela zakho zokuhamba kunye nemidlalo.
Ulwalamano olufihlakeleyo phakathi kwabazali kunye nabaselula
Uninzi lolutsha luba neengxaki kubazali babo. Kubonakala kubo ukuba inkululeko yabo ihlala ikhutshwe. Bahlala befuna ukubonakalisa abazali babo ukuba abangekho abantwana. Ngoko ke kunzima kakhulu ngeli xesha ukuba ube nobuhlobo obuthembayo kunye nolushushu.
Abazali kufuneka batshintshe kakhulu ukuziphatha kwabo kubantwana babo. Kubalulekile ukwazi iziganeko zophuhliso ebusheni. Musa ukubonakalisa ukungonelelwanga ngezenzo nokuziphatha komntwana. Sekunzima kakhulu. Kule minyaka ubudala ukuba unothando lokuqala oluqinileyo, ngokuthe ngcembe uqala ukusetyenziswa kwendima yomntu omdala.
Ngoko ke, abazali kufuneka banike inkxaso ngenkxaso yengqondo kumntwana wabo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukholelwa nokumthanda. Musa ukugweba kuye kwaye konke akuthintele. Kumele ukuba akhululeke ekukhethweni kwabahlobo, iimfuno, izinto azithandayo nokungakuthandiyo. Musa ukubeka uluvo lwakho. Ulawulo kufuneka lube lukhuni. Kodwa abazali kufuneka bazi ukuba ngubani na umntwana. Kubalulekile ukuphepha ukuphanda imibuzo. Akuvumelekile ukuba ufunde idayari, incwadi kunye nemilayezo.