Indoda enokuzithemba isoloko iyayazi ixabiso layo, kwaye iyakholelwa kuye. Ukuba umntu unomuvo wokuzixabisa, unokuncedisa ukuba angayifumana kuphela umfazi wakhe, kodwa uyomeleze. Eyomelele kangakanani kuye le ntliziyo ibonakala ngendlela umntu olahla ngayo imicimbi yansuku zonke, kunye nobomi bakhe. Ukuba impumelelo kumsebenzi wakhe ayigcinwanga, ukuba akazukufezekisa iinjongo ezibekiweyo - umntu onjalo akanakubizwa ngokuba yi-self-confidence.
Ubunjani obunomgangatho wobunqwenela. Ukuba umntu akanako ukuthenjwa, umntu onjalo angaphila ngokupheleleyo? Unokumthemba njani, ukuba akayikuzithemba? Indlela elula yokufumana ukuba ungamthemba kangakanani - ukubona ukuba ulwalamano lwakhe nabanye abantu. Mhlawumbi, kunye nabo uzama ukuzibonakalisa kwicala elincomekayo kunokuba likhona. Wonke umntu ufuna ukufihla iziphoso zabo phambi komntu ofuna ukuthanda. Kodwa ubuso boqobo buya kubonakala. Kubalulekile ukuba uyigcine ngokucophelela ekunxibelelaneni kunye noogxa okanye abantu abangenangqungquthela.
Akunzima ukuhlukanisa iimpawu ezilungileyo kumadoda. Baquka ukukwazi ukuthatha yonke into ekulawulwayo kwimeko enzima, thatha isigqibo esinzima ngokwabo, ukugqiba loo nto ekugqibeleni, musa ukuphinda uphendule iimpazamo zabo, ungaphuthelwa ngamathuba, ungakhathazeki kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba umntu akwazi ukulinda, akwazi ukuqala, enze nayiphi na imeko, akwazi ukukhetha kwizinto ezifumanekayo. Ukuzithemba, ukugxininisa, ingcamango isebenza nakwiimpawu ezintle zesini esinamandla. Xa umntu engathethi ngamazwi kodwa ngezenzo kuninzi, uthembeke naye, uyazi indlela yokuphumla, ube nomoya ozolile, onobuhle, iimpawu ezinjalo kwiimeko zesimo sowesifazane kuqala. Abafazi bathanda xa abantu bephumelela, bajonga yonke into ngendlela efanelekileyo, bayazi indlela yokuqonda amacebiso (oku kubaluleke kakhulu kumfazi), uyazi ukunyamekela isiqingatha sabo sesibini kunye nabanye xa umntu enombono wakhe. I-Laconism kunye nokuzola kwishishini, amagama, kwiimvakalelo kuchaza indoda elungileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba indoda isebenze ngokukhawuleza, ingabi ukoyika ubunzima kwaye iqhubeke.
Kwiimpawu ezintle zesintu zomntu, omnye unokubandakanya ukuzithiba. Ukuba umntu akakwazi ukulawula, loo mntu akayi kukwazi ukulawula abantu. Kukho amadoda anjalo azimisela amandla, kwaye xa kwenzeka ingxaki, abazange bakwazi ukuzilawula, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Ngokukhawuleza wabonakalisa amahlazo, inzondo, ukugubha, akukho nto ikhuthazayo.
Ingqondo ayiyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu xa kuthelekiswa nobulumko bendoda. Nangona ingqondo kufuneka ibe khona. Amaninzi amaninzi xa umntu onobuqili waba ngokobudenge xa imeko ifuna ulwazi lwabo. Emva koko, ulwazi olungenalo ubulumko alukho into ethile. Ukusombulula ngobulumko ingxaki ibaluleke kakhulu kumntu. Ukunyaniseka kuyona nxalenye ebalulekileyo yindoda elungileyo. Ulwalamano oluhle alukwazi kuba ngaphandle kokholo. Yaye unokulawula njani ubomi ngaphandle kokunyaniseka? Ukunyaniseka okokuqala, kunye nabanye, ngaphandle kwalokhu akakwazi ukukhula nokutshintsha. Kubalulekile ukuba ungabonakali, kodwa ukuzingca ngokwakho akunakunceda kakhulu.
Indoda kufuneka ikwazi ukuthetha nokuvakalisa iingcamango zakhe, ukuthetha nabantu kunye nokuphulaphula oko bathethayo, ukuqonda intsingiselo yinyani, oko abanye bazama ukukudlulisela kuye.
Impawu ezilungileyo kakhulu zamadoda ziquka ukukwazi ukubonisa iiminqweno, ukwenzela ukuba ibhinqa likwazi ukuqiqa ukuba kutheni liyimfuneko. Kodwa umfazi, ngokwemvelo, udinga ukuzithemba nokuqonda kwendoda yakhe, ukuze anelise iminqweno yakhe kunye neenkwenkwezi, ngoko ukuqonda ngokuvisisana nolwalamano kuya kufezwa.
Ukuze ube nomfazi onolonwabo, indoda imele ithande kuphela, kuba ibhinqa lifuna uthando kakhulu, liyakuthandwa, ngoko kufuneka ikwazi ukwanelisa le mfuno ephambili.
Ukuba umntu akazivandlali njengento yothando, kuya kuba nzima ukumthanda. Andifanele ndizigxeka, kuba uthando aluwamukeli. Yaye unokubiza njani indoda indoda ngaphandle kokuba nemfesane? Ukukwazi ukuziva nokunyamekela kufuneka kube khona kumntu. Loo mntu uya kukuxhasa kunoma yintoni imeko enzima kunye nokwehluleka. Uya kuzama ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukwenza ukuba bobabini ukhululekile kwaye ujabulise. Ukuba umntu akakwazi ukwabelana ngeengxaki zakho, ngoko uya ku soyika ukuthatha isinyathelo esingalunganga. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele amadoda angenako ukuxolela nokulibala.
Ukuzihlaziya ngenye yeempawu ezibalulekileyo zomntu. Ukuba umntu akayazi ukuhleka ngokwakhe - uphawu oluqinisekileyo lokuba akazithembi kuye ngokwakhe, okanye ukuzithemba kwakhe kukuqhwala. Ukukwazi ukuhleka ngumqondiso wesimo esomeleleyo, ukuba kufuphi nawe ngumntu onokusihleka kuyo nayiphi na imeko, unokuqiniseka ukuba uyathemba, unako abantu abanothando nabanovelwano. Ukufunda ngento umntu ahleka ngayo, umntu uyazi indlela yakhe yokuxabisa impilo. Uludwe lweempawu ezintle ziyakwazi ukuqhubeka ixesha elide, kubalulekile ukuba umntu oyinyaniso kukuba kunzima kangakanani, kulula kangaka. Amadoda amaninzi aneempawu ezinjalo azalwa, amanye afika namava kunye nobudala, kodwa ngokufumaneka kwabo omnye unokukwazi ukufumana eyona nto ifanelekileyo.
Kwaye akunzima ukufumana iimpawu ezinjalo, kufuneka nje uzihloniphe wena nabanye, unike ngakumbi, ungathathi, ungesabi ukuvula iingalo zakho, ukukhululeka kokuvavanywa, ukwesaba nokubandlulula. Thembeka kwaye uveze iimvakalelo zakho, phila ngentshiseko, zithembele wena nabanye, vula ukuthanda kunye nobudlelwane. Amadoda ahluke. Asisoloko siyazi into abaye bayicabangayo, abanakho ukukhumbula imihla ebalulekileyo kwaye abazi ukukhala, abanamandla, abaqili, abaxolela ubuthathaka bethu, basikhusele kwaye basikhusele. Oku kunjalo ngokwenene.