Abantwana bexesha elizayo ngenye indlela engaqondakaliyo banceda utshintsho oluninzi ebomini babo kubazali. Ukuba uyayinyamekela imiqondiso, uya kuthi ufumane ukuba uninzi kangakanani uhanjelwe ngcamango malunga nento ofuna ukuyenza ebomini, yiziphi utshintsho onokuzenza emsebenzini, kwimeko, kwintsebenziswano kunye nezihlobo, oko uzibona wena kwixesha elizayo.
Enyanisweni, kwamanye oomama abatsha imeko leyo isondele kakhulu kwimeko: umsebenzi ozithandayo, umsebenzi obalaseleyo, usapho olomeleleyo. Kodwa kukho eminye imizekelo eyahlukeneyo eyahlukileyo xa umama enyanzelekile ukuba athathe ishishini elingathandekiyo ukubonelela intsapho, ukunyamezela ubudlelwane obungamthobeli, njalonjalo. Iinguqu ezinzulu ezithwala ukukhulelwa kunye nokuzalwa okuzayo komntu omtsha, baninzi banika amandla ukuvavanya ngokunyanisekileyo umzuzu okwangoku kwaye uzama ukupenda "umfanekiso ococekileyo" wobomi, oya kuba unqwenela ukuhlala kuwo. Umntwana uvumela ukuqonda ukuba ubomi buhle, kwaye imbonakalo iya kutshintsha yonke into ejikelezile.Le ngcamango ihlala ikunceda oomama abazayo ukuba baqonde umgangatho wobomi, ukuba bahlale bezolile kwaye balinganise. Ngenxa yoko oku kuxhomekeke kwimpilo yentsana ezayo.Iyiyona indlela ende ukuya ebomini obonwabisayo bomama.
Kwenzekile ukuba xa uxoxisana nabasetyhini abaninzi (oomama abancinci) abatshintshe ubomi babo, xa bekhulelwe okanye ngokuzalwa komntwana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kufuna inkalipho ethile, kuba isoloko isongela ukutshintsha ubukho obukhona, ingakumbi ukuba lukhuselekile okanye lukhuselekile. Kodwa umphumo ufanelekile, njengoko imizekelo ibonisa.
Uninzi lwaba "oomama abahlaziyekileyo" lunokufumaneka kubathengisi bebele: eqinisweni, kulo msebenzi, obaluleke kakhulu akuyona into ecacileyo njengamava akho aphumelelayo ekunceliseni abantwana abancinci (ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka kuxhaswe ngamaziko okuqeqesha kunye nezatifikethi ezona zinzulu kakhulu bacebisi). Phakathi kwabacebisi bam ndiyazi, kukho umntu owayengumaphephandaba, umculi kunye nomlobi. Abaninzi badibanisa nokubonisana ngokubhaliweyo ngamanqaku abhaliweyo kwesi sihloko, nto leyo ezisa kubomi babo kunye nento yokwakha. Inzala ekukhuliseni nasekukhuliseni abantwana ikhuthaza abafazi ukuba bahlele iziganeko ezinjalo.
Ixesha liphela nje kokubabini.
Ayikho imfihlo yokuba oomama abaninzi abancinci ukubonakala komntwana kuba ngumvavanyo loqobo. Akuncinci ngenxa yokulindela okungenakulungelelaniswa, ekuthembeni okungazalwanga. Ungathembeli kwimiba ebalulekileyo. Iinyanga ezilithoba zokulinda zinikezelwa, kubandakanywa ukuze ulungiselele intsapho yakho encinci ixesha, ukuba kubonakale ilungu elitsha elitshintshile kakhulu, ukuba kungenjalo, ngendlela eqhelekileyo.
Ngoku unayo ixesha elaneleyo lokuxoxa ngeembono zakho ngobomi bentsapho ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka, ukubeka phambili, umxelele ngeminqweno kunye neemfuno zakho (amadoda awanayo i-telepath, ungalindeli ukuba baqonde imilingo yonke into eyenzekayo kuwe), zama ukuqonda iimvakalelo zakhe nokulindela. Ukufunda ngakumbi malunga nomnye ngoku, kungabonakali kakhulu ukuvela kweengxaki "ezingalindelekanga," eziya kuthi zivele zivela kwiintsapho ezininzi ngokuzalwa komntwana kwaye uzama ukulungiselela iholide epheleleyo - isipho sakho sothando kumyeni wakho .Lesi sihlandlo senu kuphela, uzele uthando kunye nokulindela, kuya kukunika amandla emva kwexesha, xa ubomi buya kubonakala bukhulu kakhulu, buxhamle, buninzi neengxaki ezintsha.