Ngoko, ukuba umntu wambiza ngegama elinye, oko kuthetha ukuthini, kwaye kuyafaneleka njani ukuqonda? Okokuqala, musa ukuwa ngokukhawuleza kwiingcawa kunye neparanoia. Konke okufanayo, ngamnye wethu wenza ukugcinwa. Mhlawumbi wabiza ngegama loodadewabo okanye umngane ongcono. Ngoko ke, ke, akukho nto iyingozi kule nto. Cinga ngako, emva koko, kufana nokuthintana nomntu wonk 'usuku, ubize ngegama, uze uzithethe ngokuzenzekelayo eli gama xa ubhekisela komnye umntu. Sonke sinelungelo lokwenza iimpazamo ezincinci ezinjalo. Akuthethi nantoni na, i-reflex and nothing more. Ukongezelela, ngamanye amaxesha abantu banjengomntu kwaye umntu angakwazi ukudibanisa ngamagama. Ukuba uyazi ukuba ukhumbuza umntu owaziyo, ogama lakhe ekuthiwa nguwe, ngoko akufanele ukwesaba. Kungokuthi ngamanye amaxesha ukuqonda kwethu kunye nokungaqondi kakuhle kudibanisa imifanekiso yezandi. Kodwa, oku akuthethi ukuba umntu unokuxuba abantu bokwenene. Ngoko ke, nangayiphi na imeko, musa ukuqala ukuqhaqhazela abahlaziyi, ukucaphukisa nokugxeka le ndoda kuzo zonke izono zehlabathi. Ukuba uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kukho intombazana eyaziwayo, engenalo naziphi izicwangciso zothando nomfana wakho, kwaye igama lakhe lizwakala, ke umomotheka uze udlala iqhinga.
Ewe, yintoni ongayenza ukuba loo mntu ebize igama elingazange lithwale naluphi na ulwazi malunga nomntu wangempela, kodwa sele lusizi kakhulu? Okokuqala, machaze, kwimeko apho kuthethwa khona. Ukuba oko kwenzeka ngexesha le ncoko eqhelekileyo, ke ungaqala ukulila i-alamu phambi kwexesha. Emva kwakho konke, kunokwenzeka ukuba unakho ukuze, umzekelo, ingoma ethile ingena entloko yakho kwaye ihlambe yonke imini. Ngoko mhlawumbi enegama. Umntu wamva nje igama kwaye, ngaphandle kwesizathu esaziwayo, wayenamathela kwi-subconscious. Kwintetho, umfana angambiza ngaphandle kokungabaza, ngenxa yokuba uqiniseke ngokusisiseko kwi "database" yakhe ngoku. Kodwa ke, ukuze uhlalise ngokupheleleyo, buza kwakhona, ngubani lo nguMasha, uDasha, uSasha, okanye ngubani ekubizele khona. Yaye jonga ukuphendula kwendoda eselula. Ukuba uziphatha ngokuzinzileyo nangokwaneleyo, uya kuphendula ngokukhawuleza, okanye ucinge nje, oko kuthetha ukuba akukho nto ekhohlakeleyo eyenzekayo kwaye eli gama lithetha nto nantoni kuye. Kodwa kwimeko xa umfana eqala ukukhumbula ngokukrakra kwaye "ukungafuni", amehlo akhe asebenza kwaye unxungupheko uzama ukuzithethelela, kuthetha ukuba kukho into ephosakeleyo.
Abantu abangenanto yokufihla, abazange bafanelwe. Nangona uqala kwizinto zokusola, umfana uya kuthetha inyaniso aze avala isihloko. Akayi kutyhafaza okanye ukukhohlisa. Mbonise nje indlela enyanisekile kwaye ecocekileyo. Kodwa ukuba, njengoko besithi, insizwa inomntu "uhlambalaza kwisibhamu", ngoko uya kuqala ukuzama ukuzithethelela aze aphume. Abantu abaqamba amanga, rhoqo kunye nazo zonke iinzame zabo bazama ukufihla ubuxoki babo ngokuzinza nokubanda. Kodwa, bambalwa kuphela abanokukwenza oku, ingakumbi ukuba bathathwe ngokumangalisa. Ngoko ke, ukuba igama litsho ngumntu uthetha kakhulu kuye, uya kuqalisa ukubonakalisa kuwe ngamandla akhe onke awaziyo, uya kuzigweba, uthi uyammangalela, nokuba uhlala uthula. Apha ungayivakala ngokwenene i-alamu. Kakade, musa ukukhawuleza ukuba ucinga kuwe. Kodwa, mhlawumbi, wayethanda enye intombazana, kwaye igama lakhe lahlala ekhanda lakhe. Yiloo nto akubiza yona, kwaye ngoku uyaqonda oko wakwenzayo kwaye uzama ukukulungisa. Ukuziphatha kwakhe kunokuthi ukutolika ezimbini. Insizwa inokwenza oko ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuqhubeka kunye nobudlelwane obufihlakeleyo. Okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uyaqonda ukuba wenza into engento yintsiphu, kwaye ngaphandle kwakho akayidingi mntu, uloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngumthandi wakhe, ngoko ke uzama ukukhupha izikhalazo. Ukuba ukhetho lwesibini oluchanekileyo, umfana, ekugqibeleni uyavuma. Kodwa kuphela kwimeko apho uyomthusa ngokuhlukana, ukuba akayi kuthetha inyaniso. Inokwenzeka ukuba, loo mfana uya guquka aze acele uxolo lwakho, olukholisayo. Ekugqibeleni, mhlawumbi oku kunobuthathaka. Enyanisweni, ukukhusela, kufuneka ubonise ukuba akukuvuyisi, kodwa ukuba uyabona ukuba loo mntu uyamkela isigwebo sakhe, musa ukumthuthuzela ixesha elide. Ukujonga umntu kwaye igama lomnye umntu akulona ulwaphulaphulo olubi kakhulu umntu angayenza. Kodwa, ndiphinda, ukuba kwixesha elizayo, akukho nto iyenzeka ngakumbi, emva koko konke, yenza amanyathelo okukhusela afunekayo anokukwenza ucinge ngokuzayo ngaphambi kokubiza igama lakho intombi.
Okubaluleke kunene konke, oku kukuthi umfana ubiza igama lomfokazi, nangona ngethuba lesini, uze uzame ukuzithethelela aze aphume, kodwa akawutholi kwaye uphinda uzame zonke iinzame zakhe nangentshiseko enkulu, apho amazwi akhe abe yinto yonke ngaphantsi nangaphantsi. Kule meko, kunene isizathu sokuba nomona kwaye ucinge ngako. Yintoni eyenzeka emva kwakho. Sekunjalo, akukho ntombazana ifuna ukuhlala ungenalwazi kwaye ukholelwe othandweni, xa sele isiqingatha somzi uyazi ukuba intando yakhe iyayidla kunye nenye intokazi. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba lo mfana ulele ngokucacileyo, zama ukumfumana ukuba athethe inyaniso, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kubuhlungu kangakanani.
Kwimeko enjalo, impendulo yombuzo: Ukuba umntu ubiza ngelinye igama, oko kuthetha ukuthini, kuya kuhluke ngokupheleleyo kwinto ofuna ukuyiva. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kungcono ukwazi i nyaniso kwaye uzinqume ukuba ungenza njani, kunokuba uphile ubomi obugqithisileyo, obuya kubethwa kakhulu, kwaye i-shrapnel iya kubangela intliziyo yakho intlungu. Igama lomntu osemlonyeni emlonyeni wekhwenkwe yakho inokuba yinto engathandabuzekiyo kunye nesizathu sokucinga ngokunyaniseka, ukunyaniseka kunye nethemba lolwalamano. Into ephambili kukuqinisekisa ngokuchanekileyo isizathu kunye nokwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo. Emva koko unokwenza okulungileyo, ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bakho.