Abantu badibana, abantu bayathandana, batshata ... Baye bafumanisa ukuba bakhulile kwiintsapho ezahlukileyo, kwaye yingako badibanisa ngokuthe ngqo iingxaki kunye nomsebenzi wemihla ngemihla, kwaye abazange bahambisane nombono jikelele wehlabathi. Yintoni enokuyenza xa unina avumela (ngombono wakho) iimpazamo ekukhuliseni? Ngaba oku kulungiswe ngandlela-thile? Kwaye ngokubanzi - yintoni emele ibe yindoda efanelekileyo?
Ngoko, ingabe umyeni wakho ucinga ukuba ukucoca, ukupheka nokuhlamba kuphela kuphela kwesibhinqa? Akaze ahlambulule izitya, uhlala eshiya iipilati ezingenanto kwifriji, ukuba uhlamba, ulungiselela umkhukula kwindawo yokuhlambela, kwaye akacingi ukuba izitrato nezindlu zingahluka? Isizathu asikho embi. Ndikholelwe, umyeni wakho akazami ukwenza yonke into ukukukhathaza. Kuphela nje ukuba unina wakhuphula ... Kakade, uyayamkela, kodwa kuyafaneleka ukuba uhlupheke, ukuba unako ukuzama, ukuba awuyi kuphinda ufundise umsizi, mhlawumbi uxoxe naye?
IZINDLELA ZOBOMI
"Xa sitshatile kwaye sathuthela kwelinye igumbi, ndisezulwini le sixhenxe ngonwabile," kusho uAlena, 27. "Noko ke, ngokukhawuleza xa kuphele ixesha lokutshatyalaliswa kwentsapho kwaye safumana ubomi, ndaqonda ukuba sakhuliswe kwiintsapho ezahlukeneyo. Umama uyintombazana efanelekileyo kwaye wandifundise ukuba ndihlale ngicocekile kuyo yonke into, kwaye umyeni wam akasetyenziswanga ukuthatha izicathulo zakhe xa engena kwindlu. Ekubeni i-hysteria ayinakunceda (ndalungiselela amaxesha amaninzi), ndagqiba ekubeni ndihambe ngenye indlela. Ndibeka i-slippers kunye nesendlovu sendlu kumyeni wam kunene kwindlovu (ukuze babe yinto yokuqala ayibona xa engena endlwini), ubeke udoti ungasondela kwideski yakhe, kwaye ecaleni kwebhedi ibophe isikhwama sock ... Kwaye le sebenza. Umyeni wayeka ukuphonsa izinto kunye namaphepha kwaye waqala ukutshintsha iimpahla xa efika ekhaya. "
"U-Alena uye wenza ngendlela efanelekileyo," watsho isazi sengqondo senzondo u-Eduard Lieberman. - Kungenakwenzeka ukuba utshintshe imikhwa yomnye umntu. Yaye ngubani owathi ulungile? Kutheni uhlala njengoko utsho, kunjalo? Lo mbuzo ngokuqinisekileyo uza kuza engqondweni yakho. Yingakho umsebenzi wakho awuyikukulungisa, kodwa uzame ukwenza oko ukuze yena ngokwakhe afune ukutshintsha, ukuba ube ngumyeni ofanelekileyo kuwe. Kukulungele ukuqala ngengxoxo. Thetha malunga nento eningayithandiyo yomnye nomnye. Thetha wena kwaye uliphulaphule. Umsebenzi wakho awuyikuphikisana, kodwa ukucacisa ubudlelwane obangela imbangela (amadoda ayawaxabisa kakhulu). Ngoko, esikhundleni sokubeka icatshulwa ekupheleni kwegama elithi "Andiyithandi ukuba ulala phantsi kwijee ebhedeni lethu," qhubeka ngoku ngamazwi athi "kuba yindlela esithwala ngayo iiphilisi kwizithuthi zikawonke-wonke kunye neofisi ngqo kwibhedi lethu." Amadoda ayesaba izifo, ngoko ke kukulungele ukubhenca kwimbono yoogqirha. Nangona kunjalo, incoko enye ayanele. Nangona iqabane lakho lihambelana neengcamango zakho, akunakwenzeka ukuba walungisa ngokukhawuleza (ukuba nje wayetyenziselwa ukwenza okuningi kumatshini). Kwaye ke umsebenzi wakho olandelayo kukukwenza ubomi bakhe bube lula kwaye, njengokuba u-Alain akwenzile, ngokwenene akasishiyi ithuba lokuba enze ngendlela eyahlukileyo. "
MAFUNI UKUPHATHA AMAKHARITYHULA
Eli binzana lidla ngokubhaliweyo ngabesilisa ababesakuba nabo ngaphambili kwikholam "isizathu sokuqhawula umtshato." Kubuhlungu, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo la mazwi ayafihla isimo sengqondo esahlukileyo kwilizwe, elibekwa kuqala ngumama noyise. Jonga ubuhlobo kwintsapho yomlingane wakho, misela indlela umama awamkhupha ngayo, kwaye wenze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
Unyana kaMamenkin
Oku kudla ngokuba ligama lamadoda akhulile phantsi kwedyokhwe yobuntshatshazi bomama. Ekuqaleni kokuthandana nomntu onjalo uyathandwa kakhulu ngabasetyhini. Umama wamfundisa ukuba abe nehlonipho kunye neentlonipho, rhoqo ukunika ingubo, ubambe umnyango uze uvumele le ntokazi iqhubeke. Kodwa kungekudala okanye kamva uya kubona ukuba okhethiweyo wakho akakwazi ukwenza nayiphi na izigqibo.
INDLELA YOKUBA YINI?
✓ Okokuqala kufuneka ubeke umama wakho endaweni yomama, mhlawumbi uya kudideka aze abuyele kuye.
✓ Yenza yonke imisebenzi yasendlwini kunye ukuze angabi nantoni.
✓ Mkhuthaza kwaye umdumise ngokubonisa indlela.
Umgxeka ongunaphakade
Wayehlala ehlolwe aze alawulwe njengomntwana. Wayethetha ukwenza yonke into ephezulu ezintlanu kwaye uyayifuna kwabanye. Uya kuphawula zonke iimpazamo zakho kwaye ahlale egxeka umzobo, iimpahla kunye nokuziphatha. Uya kuqala uqaphele ukuba wenze into engalunganga, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kubeka ingqwalasela kule "ngxaki" eyingozi. INDLELA YOKUBA YINI?
✓ Zama ukungaqwalasela ukugxeka kwakhe. Yithi nje: "Ewe, othandekayo", "Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndithandekayo," "Ulungile, zintanda," kwaye uqhubeke uphila ngendlela yakho.
✓ Umthunywa kuye imisebenzi ethile yasemakhaya: "Ndiza kuhlamba izitya, kwaye uyacima, nceda, ihostela. Kuwe kuya kuba ngcono. Ucocekile! Wena ungumyeni ogqibeleleyo! "
Nytik
Ubomi bakhe bonke buqulethe ulwahlulo lwezinto ezingaphumeleliyo, ukulahleka kunye nokudumala. Xa ebhekene nobunzima, akazami ukuzisombulula, kodwa ngokukhawuleza uyaphukisa kwihlabathi lonke kwaye ufuna unetyala. Into into yokuba le nkwenkwe, ejwayele ukufumana i-troika, yaziyeka phantsi kwakhe ukusilela kwaye yakhulela kwindoda engaqinisekanga, engeyiyo. Wayesetyenziselwa ukucinga ukuba kufuneka abe ngumsebenzi wokuhluleka.
INDLELA YOKUBA YINI?
✓ Ukwamkela nayiphi na impumelelo yakhe kunye nezenzo zakhe.
✓ Beka izixhobo ezandleni zakhe ngamazwi: "Ndiyakholwa uya kuphumelela!"
✓ Mdumise kunye nangaphandle.
UNarcissus
Wakhula ejikelezwe ngu-nurse-mamas, ngoko ke wayedla ukufumana yonke into ayifunayo kanye kanye. Uthetha kuphela ngaye, impumelelo yakhe, izicwangciso kunye neengxaki.
INDLELA YOKUBA YINI?
✓ I-Egoists iyahlonela uhlobo lwayo, ngoko ke uhlawule ngakumbi, uphendule yonke into enqwenela ngayo ngala mazwi: "Ndifuna ... Ndiyathanda ..." Ungazilibali wena kunye neminqweno yakho.
✓ Hlukanisa yonke into kwisiqingatha, ungayikhetha ngendlela ekhethekileyo.
I-NOT
* UNGAKHOLELE ngokusobala unina ngazo zonke izono. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ulwalamano lwabo lukhula njani, uya kuhamba naye. "Unyoko ngumfazi omhle, kodwa masingahambi ngeemfestile zesitalato ekhaya: akungcolile, kwaye andinakuhlamba i-floors yonke imihla!" Khumbula: ikhadi lakho lexilongo alilitshutshisi, kodwa likhuthaza!
* Musa ukukhumbuza rhoqo umyeni wakho malunga nendlela yokuba ngumyeni ofanelekileyo. Kwaye ukuba uthe wenza yonke into engalunganga. Sebenzisa ubuqhetseba: yenza uluhlu lweemvume olungele ukuya kuzo, kwaye uluhlu lwamacala avuma ukuba akwenze. Hlanganisa le "xwebhu" kwindawo evelele kwaye, ukuba oko, bhekisela kuyo.
Musa ukugoba intonga. Ewe, akayikususa iiplate emva kwakhe, uhlala efihla iisokisi zakhe phantsi kombhede aze aphule impumlo yakhe ngokukhawuleza. Ngoko yintoni? Ngaba okhethiweyo wakho awunayo impawu ezigqwesileyo ezigqithiseleyo zonke izinto eziyingozi? Ngokuqhelekileyo khumbula ukufaneleka komyeni wakhe.
KUNYE OKUNYE KUNYE?
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