Amadoda amaninzi emva kokufa komfazi wabo athambekela ngokukhawuleza ukudala intsapho entsha. Kodwa intlungu yokulahleka kunye nentlungu enzima kakhulu ayinakuphila. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba umhlolokazi kwintsapho elitsha ngokungenakuzibandakanya ngokungeniswa ngokukhawuleza. Umfazi omtsha uthethe ngokungafanelekanga nomfazi wakhe wangaphambili.
Ngaphambi kwabesetyhini abafuna ukudala intsapho nomhlolokazi, umbuzo uvela: njani ukwakha ukuthembela kunye noxolo lwentsebenziswano naye? Awukwazi ukuzama ukufanisa umfazi ophelile, kodwa ubonise ngobumnene ubuso bakhe? Omnye kufuneka aqonde ukuba ukutshata kwakhona kunemiphunga ebalulekileyo yengqondo.
Imemori yomntu ihlelwe ngendlela yokuba xa umntu othandekayo ehamba ebomini, yonke into engalunganga ebuhlotsheni bokuqala iphinda ilahleke kuyo. Njengomthetho, abahlolokazi baqiqa iqabane labo elihamba naye, uba ngumntu kubo ngaphandle kweempazamo. Bonke abafazi abalandelayo bafaniswa nomfazi ongathandanga. Kunzima kakhulu ukuhlala kwiimeko ezinjalo, kuba ngamnye wethu uhlukile kwaye uhluke ngokupheleleyo.
I mpazamo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafelokazi benza iphutha elifanayo. Benza umsebenzi wokukhangela umfazi omtsha, ohlobo lwakhe lumele lufane nomhlobo womfazi wokuqala. Ukuqulunqa iimpawu kunye neempawu kwiqabane elitsha. Kunzima kowesifazane ukuba ahlangabezane nokulindela kwakhe onke amaxesha. Oku kunokwenziwa kuphela ngabafazi abanezonyameko nabazithembayo. Baya kukwazi ukuhlalisa ubomi bentsapho kwiimeko ezintsha, phantsi kwemithetho emitsha. Uncedise indoda yakhe inxalenye kunye nomfanekiso wangaphambili wehlabathi, iya kumnika umfanekiso okhethekileyo.
Isicwangciso soBudlelwane
Ibhinqa elitshata umhlolokazi kufuneka likwazi kwaye liqonde ukuba umfazi wayo wangaphambili uya kuhlolwa kuphila kwakhe. Izibophelelo zentsapho ezihambelanayo zingakhiwa kuphela ngomonde nothando. Ukungaphumeleli kunye neentlonelo, ukuhlambalaza ngokusemthethweni kuya kuholele ekuhambeni okufutshane kunye nobuhlungu.
Kufuneka uzame ukuqonda umyeni wakho omtsha, kumncede anciphise intlungu yokulahleka. Umsebenzi wakho ukuguqula iingcamango zakhe kunye nokuqwalasela ukwakhiwa okukhulu kobudlelwane obutsha. Ukuwunqoba eli xesha lokulungelelanisa kufuneka lenziwe kunye, kuba iifayile zakho zihlangene ngoku. Zama ukulandela ezi ngcebiso ezilula:
- Thabatha zonke izinto ezivela kumlingane wangaphambili. Musa ukulahla izinto zakhe, iifoto. Ngoko unako ukwandisa intlungu yomphefumlo womntu ohluphekayo. Zibangele ebhokisini uze ufake kwisitoreji. Ukuba uthe wakubuza malunga nokufumana kwabo, uya kuliva impendulo enobulumko.
- Zama ukumkhumbuza ukulahleka ngezenzo okanye amagama. Kodwa soloko ulungele ukusabela ngokuthelekisa ngokugqithisileyo okanye ukuthetha okungafanelekanga kwidilesi yakho. Ukuqonda imeko yakhe, ushiya imeko ngesithunzi.
- Ukuphuhlisa isicwangciso semisebenzi yesikhathi eside ukuphelisa iimvakalelo. Ukumisa amatye, ukuhamba kunye, iiholide zentsapho ziya kukunceda ukuba usondele. Nawuphi na ithuba, mcebise ukuba umfazi ohambayo akayi kulibala, inkumbulo yakhe iya kuhlala ikhanya. Kodwa ukuhlala kuyinyani, kwaye idlulileyo ayikwazi ukubuyela. Ixesha liya kudlula, kunye nalo liza kushiya kunye nentlungu yokulahleka. Emva koko unokubhiyozela ndawonye ukunqoba ukudangala.
- Thatha amanyathelo kunye nezenzo zakhe kwintsapho yangaphambili ngokuhlonipha nangokuzithoba. Musa ukuphazamisa ukuhamba kwakhe rhoqo emangcwabeni. Ixesha liya kulungisa ngokukhawuleza. Mfundise unobtrusively kwimisebenzi yansuku zonke kwintsapho entsha, ngokuthe ngcembe uya kusetshenziselwa enye indlela yokuphila ebutsha.
- Ungabeki "ukuxilonga" kwaye uphathe izenzo zakhe namazwi njengesifo sengqondo. Umntu ngamnye ngendlela yakhe ufumana intlungu kunye nentlungu yokulahlekelwa ngumntu wakhe. Sidinga ukuhlala kunye ngexesha elithile kwaye ngeli xesha lizama ukufunda indlela yokuphila ngokuzonwabisa ngomnye umntu.