Ewe, sonke siyavuma ukuba akunqabile ukudibana nabantu abangengabo bonke abaphuza ngesondo esomeleleyo, kodwa ke, asithi, kodwa ukungafani okungaqhelekanga kuvela. Kwaye ukuba unako ukuhlangabezana ne "ikopi" yaloo mntu, ngokuqinisekileyo, kunye nesininzi, ngokuqhelekileyo ubona ubomi kuyo yonke inkazimulo, ngaphandle kweengcingo nemigaqo yabasetyhini, wacinga malunga nokuba kukho into engaqhelekanga kumntu ongeliyo. Kodwa bambalwa abantu bacinga ngento engacacanga nengendawo yomntu kwisiselo kunye neqondo eliphakamileyo ngenxa yemeko yomntu ngamnye, izizathu zenyama kunye nezizathu zengqondo. Kodwa zeziphi izizathu zolu "mthetho omile", siya kuzama ukufumana ngoku. Ngoko, iimeko eziqhelekileyo ezichaza inkolelo engaqhelekanga yotywala. Ziqhelise kunye nabo kwaye uzenzele izigqibo ezilandelayo malunga nobuchule obunikwe ngumhlobo wakho okanye umfana othandekayo.
Kususela kwisizukulwana kwisizukulwana .
Uloyiko olusisigxina ngenye yezizathu zokuziphatha ezingaqhelekanga kwabangenakuphuza. Ngaloo ndlela: indoda kwintsapho yayisele kakhulu, umzekelo, utata, umalume, uyise okanye umntu ovela kwisiqingatha sesibini. Kwaye njengoko uyazi, akukho mntu ukhuselekile kwizinto eziphilayo. Yingakho umntu enqaba ukusela iziyobisi, kuba uloyiko lokuphinda abuyele kwisinye sezihlobo zakhe. Ingakumbi ivakalelwa ukuba uyise wendoda wayedla kakhulu kwintsapho, apho umama kunye naye ngokwakhe ahlupheka. Nantsi unyana kwaye wambona ngokwaneleyo utywala obusukwe imihla ngemihla, iinyembezi zikamama wakhe, waza waphetha ngokuthi "Andiyi kuba njengaye! ". Ngamanye amazwi, loo mfana wayemthiyile utywala kunye nayo yonke into edibene nayo. Kule meko, nokuba uthetha ngotywala kunokumcaphukisa. Ngoko ubuqili bakhe kukuba uyesaba 'ukuphila ubomi' bukayise. Ngendlela, kwaye ucinga nangokuphelelwa lixesha elibi kweemeko ukuba enye yezihlobo zendoda iya kwilizwe elizayo ngenxa yephutha lotywala. Ngamafutshane, umntu unesizathu sokungaphuzi iziphuzo. Uxinzelelo lweengqondo kwizinga elingenakuqonda - le "i-skeleton kwi-closet", ngenxa yokuba abameli bezesondo ezinamandla baziphatha ngale ndlela.
Iingxaki zempilo .
Esinye isizathu esichaza into engaqhelekanga kwisimo sengqondo somntu kuyo yonke into ehlanganiswe kwiglasi yimeko yempilo yakhe. Hayi, ngokuqinisekileyo sikhubazekile kumntu onjalo, kodwa asiyi kulawula ukuba wayegula kakhulu okanye uyagula kwaye akanako ukusela. Ngoko, ukuba umhlobo wakho akaveli kubaphuzi, akayi kugqithiselwa ukuba unesifo esithile okanye ukuphikisana nokusela utywala. Ngendlela, apha kunokwenzeka ukubandakanya kunye nombono onjalo, "njengento yokuphuza utshwala". Ngelinye igama, ngaphambi kokumangalela umntu ngokuziphatha kwakhe okungaqhelekanga, thabatha umdla kwimpilo yakhe!
Ngoku andisayi kusela !
Yaye uyayithanda njani le ndlela, ukuba umntu wayesebenzisa umthandi onomdla wokusela isilayiya sesibini sesiselo sotywala kwaye, ngaphezu koko, wawela zonke iinkalo kunye nemigangatho. Ngamanye amazwi, akayi kuyika eli gama, wayexhomekeke kutywala ngexesha elidlulileyo. Kwaye kwangoku kwenzeka ummangaliso, waza wabuya wamthabatha. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu ukhonkcowe ekunxileni utywala, wafumana inkqubo yonyango olukhethekileyo kunye nokuvuselelwa, kwaye njalo njalo, ngokohlobo luni lokusela utywala? Umntu nje ukwesaba ukuphuka nokuwa kwakhona "entlango" apho wayehlala khona. Emva kwakho konke, njengokuba uyayazi, umntu onjalo unako ukuthatha i-yangaphambili nangemva kokusela isiselo sebheya.
Ngokholo omnye .
Inkcazo emfutshane nelula yento yokuba indoda ayiphuzanga utshwala kukuba uyakholwa. Ngendlela, ngexesha lethu kukho kubonakala inamba enkulu yamacandelo ahlukeneyo kunye nokuvuma, apho abantu bangena khona nalapho badibana kakubi nenani elikhulu lezilingo zobomi (utywala apha nalo ungena kwaye uthatha enye yezinyathelo ezihamba phambili kuloluhlu "awukwazi"). Ngoko ke ukuba umntu engasayi kusela, unokuba ngummeli wokholo oluthile. Kuya kulungele ukuthetha ukuba ngaphezu kokugatya kwendoda yotywala, kwimeko enjalo, emva kwayo, unokubona ezinye izinto ezingaqhelekanga eziza kucacisa ngokucacileyo kuyo yonke into yesondo esomeleleyo.
Unxila kwisinye .
Enye into ebesilisa abangayiphuziyo, into eyenzayo, kukuba ukuthatha inkunkuma yobutywala, bayatyeka ngokukhawuleza utywala obunxilisayo baze balahlekelwe. Ndixelele ukuba ngaba ngabafazi beparafia kuphela! "Akunjalo!" ", - siya kuphendula, - amadoda nawo anokukwazi ukufumana loo mphumo emva kokuphunyezwa. Ngendlela, inokuthi kubangelwa ukuba ummeli onxilisayo ophuza ngokwesondo, ongekho uxanduva kwizenzo zakhe: unokuvusa uvakalelo, unesihe, unako ukulahlekelwa ngokupheleleyo ubuso bakhe bomntu. Yingakho ndagqiba isigqibo sokuyeka iziphuzo zotywala kunoma yiphina imeko, ukuze ndizingcwine nabanye.
Utywala - le ngumbane !
Kwaye okokugqibela kwezizathu eziqhelekileyo kumadoda anjalo kukuba awanakukwazi ukuma ukunambitha okanye ukuvumba kweziphuzo ngezinga eliphezulu, njengokuba, umzekelo, uninzi lwe-foam ebisi. Nasi isiphetho sokuba umhlobo wakho enze njani ngokumangalisayo. Ngoko musa ukumgweba ngokuthe ngqo!
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ndifuna ukuthetha ukuba ukuziphatha kungabonakali ngabameli abangabinxila besondo esomeleleyo - oku akusikho isibonakaliso sokuba abafani nabanye abantu, kuba kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba ngamnye wethu unemida yakhe yokuba abanye babonakale bemangalisekile. Ngendlela, akusiyo indoda ephuzayo - le nto yohlulayo kwaye ukuba uthe wadibana nolu hlobo, sekunjalo ngendlela eyimangalisa kakhulu. Akunjalo?