Ngexesha apho umntu ekhupha ukwesaba kobumnyama obuncinane, isigaba esitsha ekubunjweni kobuntu sisetyenziswe ebomini bakhe, kwaye emva nje kwexesha elithile liye lacaca ukuba zeziphi iingxaki kunye nokwesaba kusemva, kwaye kudlulayo kukudala. Ngamanye amaxesha uloyiko luyafumaneka. Ngokomzekelo, uthando lokuqala, njengomthetho, lwenzeka kumntu wonke, kodwa lukude konke, ludlula ngaphandle komkhondo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukungangqinelani okubi kukubangela ukuba umntu abe noloyiko lokuba unomsebenzi okhuselekileyo, kodwa unempembelelo enkulu ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane obumanyeneyo kwaye iba yintoni isizathu sokuba umntu abe noloyiko lokudibana nomfazi omtsha.
Kutheni abantu besaba intlanganiso: izinto eziqhelekileyo
Ngaphambi kwintlanganiso, indoda ingakhathazeki ngaphantsi komfazi. Kwaye akanakho ithemba lokuba lixesha eliqaqambileyo konke, unenkxalabo malunga noko kwenzekayo apha nangoko.
Ingakanani umntu oyikayo umfazi, kuxhomekeke ekubeni unako ukumbeka kuye. Kuloyiko kunye namava angenakupheliswa, kakhulu ukuthintela indoda ukuba ingathembeki ngomhla, yingakho kukho ukwesaba iintlanganiso. Ngokuqhelekileyo loloyiko lubangelwa yimirhuba endala ebudlelwaneni bokuthandana, ukwesaba ukukhubeka kwakhona nokwenza impazamo okanye ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho neemvakalelo zakho.
Ziziphi izinto abantu abamoyiko okanye ukwesaba ngabantu
Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda akwazi ukuphepha ukudibana neentlobano zesini esahlukileyo ngenxa yesoyika. Sonke siyazi ukuba amadoda anabantu abathanda inkululeko, ngoko ukungaqapheli le nyaniso kufana nokuqonda ngokupheleleyo ukuba awunayo ingqondo yengqondo engowesilisa. Indoda iyesaba kukuba kwenye yeentlanganiso le ntombi iya kumxelela ngokumalunga namalungelo akhe kwinkululeko. Lo mntu uyika ngaphezu komlilo. Kwimeko enjalo, sinokulujonga ngokukhuselekileyo uhlobo olunjalo lwabantu abesaba ukuqala ubudlelwane obunzulu ngokuchanekileyo kwezi zizathu ezifanayo. Ngamanye amaxesha indoda ibheka inzame yomfazi ukuyibona, njengokuthanda kwakhe ukuba ngumfazi. Oku kwenza umntu afihle ngokukhawuleza kwaye kwaye nayiphi na into ehlabathini ayayi kudibana nomfazi. Ukuba ithe intloko yafika kwingcamango yokudala intsapho, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuba ngumqali wokuqala weintlanganiso kunye nolwalamano olulandelayo.
Amadoda ayesaba ukuhlaselwa kwinqanaba labesifazane. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba abameli besondo esomeleleyo abanalo ixesha kunye nomoya wokubona ibhinqa. Le nkosikazi iqala ukuhlambalaza indoda ngegama lesicwangciso: "kufuneka", "kufuneka" kunye nokunye, okuziphetheyo ngokwayo. Iqala ukuloyikisa umntu kwaye uzama ngazo zonke iindlela ezikhoyo ukuze ahlawule intlanganiso "kwibhokisi elikude", okanye ukushiya ngokupheleleyo.
Umoyiko wokuzibonakalisa ungalunganga kumfazi. Oku kubandakanya ukwesaba umntu phambi kwendlela esondeleyo kunye noxanduva lwezobudlelwane - ukutshatyalaliswa. Indoda ingenakufuna okanye iyakwazi ukunakekela intombazana, ngoko ke ilungele ukuphepha iintlanganiso kunye naye, kuphela ukuyilahla. Ngendlela, ukuthobeka kwendoda kunye nokungagqibekanga kuyasebenza kule nkcazo.
Uloyiko lolwalamano. Ukwesaba ngesondo - le nto ingqinisiso enamandla, xa abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo banqanda ukuthintana okufutshane kunye nelo nkosikazi. Apha, njengomthetho, indoda ingesabi nje ukuba iyatshatyalaliswa, usenokungathandabuzeki ngokukrakra kwakhe. Oku akukho konke okuhambelana neengxaki zesini, kukho ihlazo okanye uloyiko lokugula ngesondo.
Uloyiko lwezobunzima. Amalungu amaninzi obundlobongela obuqinileyo ngesinye isizathu okanye omnye (umntu ngamnye, njengomthetho, unokuthi abe nesizathu sale nto) bahlaselwa kakubi kakhulu phambi kobhinqa. Inkathazo eqhelekileyo kukuba umntu uyakoyika ukuba akayi kukwazi ukukholisa ibhinqa okanye ukuba oko sele kwenzekile. Ngako oko, uqala ukubona ingqiqo kwiintlanganiso, ngokuchasene naye, ezidimaza kuyo.
Amadoda ayesaba utshintsho ebomini. Ukungazi kakuhle kuya soyika kwaye kunokuphazamisa ubomi bokuphila komntu emva kwentlanganiso.