Indoda efanelekileyo - inyaniso okanye inkolelo? Ubonakala njani? "Indoda efanelekileyo ngamehlo yowesifazane" ingumxholo wendaba yethu yanamhlanje.
Ukususela ebuntwaneni ebusweni babo bonke intombazana inomfanekiso ofanelekileyo wendoda ephuphayo - inkosana. Usuke unikwe zonke iimpawu ezifunekayo kuphela umntu onokuzifumana onokuzifumana. Kwaye siqala ukumkhangela phakathi kwabahlobo bethu, abahlobo, abaqhelana nabo nabangamaziyo. Siqhubeka sifuna le ngqiqo ngokwenza iimpazamo, sizikhohlisa okanye nokuba sele senze ukhetho lomlingane ebomini.
Kodwa ngubani na, lo mfokazi ongaqondakaliyo? Kwaye kutheni umgca uphila kwaye uphumelele ukuba, nangona udibana naye, ufumane intliziyo yinto efanelekileyo, kusenakwenzeka? Awukwazi ukulawula, njengesihlabathi esilungisa ngeminwe yakho, umlambo oguqula rhoqo ikhosi yayo, njengexesha elisoze liphinde lenzeke kwakhona. Ngaphandle kokuhlala ixesha elide kwaye enganikeli izithembiso, uya kumhlobo wakhe, umphathi, akunandaba, into ephambili - omnye umfazi. Kwaye emva kwesikhashana umjikelezo uphinda kwaye omnye uvele ekhala emlanjeni, elahlekelwe ngumntu onobuhle ... Kodwa yintoni isizathu? Kwaye ke siqala ukuzigweba, sizihlambele ngokuba asizange senze konke okusemandleni ethu, njl. Kodwa kungenjalo ngathi, kodwa malunga nayo?
Yintoni esiyayaziyo malunga nendoda efanelekileyo? Iyini na? Akukho mpendulo enye kulo mbuzo.
Kodwa ukuba sizibeka injongo yokumgcina emacaleni akhe, kufuneka sibe silungele ukulwa nobomi bakhe ngobunobungozi obubonakalayo nangobunzima. Siya kufuneka sifunde indlela yokulindela kunye nokulumkisa ingozi: apho umzingeli owaziwayo wachitha iimbobe, apho umntu oqhankqalaza wenyuka elele khona, kwaye umntu wethu oqaqambileyo uyabaleka njengeentaka ezingenalwazi kwilanga elivuthayo. Kwimiphepha yethu iya kugcinwa iinjongo zokugcina ingcamango yendawo efunyenweyo. Emva koko, kufuneka ahlale egqoke ngeenaliti aze atyiswe kwaye atyiswe. Kwaye ekubeni echitha ixesha lakhe ekwenzeni izenzo ezilungileyo, akanalo ixesha elaneleyo lokukhathalela emhlabeni. Kwaye i-akhawunti ayithethi ukuba usenabantwana, ekufuneka ubenakekele nabo ngokungathandekiyo. Kwaye kuthekani ngomfazi ofanelekileyo? Yintoni okufanele ibonakale? Kufuneka uthathe ixesha elingakanani ukulawula yonke into kwaye ugcine umlinganiselo wengqondo yengqondo? Ingqungquthela enesibindi ayiqhekeki, kodwa ukuba uyaqaphela - ilungileyo iya kususa kuwe.
Le ngqungquthela enzima. Okanye mhlawumbi le nyaniso? Sininzi kangakanani abantu abayibona le ndoda efanelekileyo kakhulu? Ayikho kwimifanekiso yeTV, kungekhona kwiimveli zothando, kodwa okwangoku. Lowo uhlala kwizinto ezikhoyo zehlabathi lethu, kungekhona kwingcamango yabalobi nabaqondisi. Ngaba singaziqhayisa ngabantu abanjalo?
Umbuzo uvela: yintoni intombazana enokuyenza, indlela yokuphila engazange ihlangabezane nomntu ofanelekileyo? Ukunikezela ubomi bakho bonke ukucinga kunye nokuhlala unesizungu, uxabise iphupha lakho? Ngaba ingazithumela iintengiso, zidibanise abahlobo kwaye ziququzelele uphando olo lungile?
Kukho enye inketho engachazwanga. Indoda efanelekileyo isenokudala. Yenza yonke imizamo uze ufundise ukuba agqoke kakuhle, ukhangele kakuhle, akuphulaphule iiyure, ube nomdla embhedeni, uyeke ukuziphatha okubi kwaye ufumane uncedo ... Olu luhlu lunokuqhubeka ngonaphakade. Kodwa kukho enye kodwa. Ungayifumana njani intliziyo yakho ukuba usitshele ukuba le ndoda iyona nto ingenakulibaleka? Kuya kuba yincwadi yokufunda, apho siyikhumbula ngekhanda nganye ngentliziyo, kuba bona ngokwabo babhala.
Yingakho kufuneka sihlupheke, sitshise kwaye silinde, silinde, silinde ...
Kodwa kutheni ke, xa amaninzi amabhinqa adibana nendoda engaphelelekanga, ngeempazamo ezininzi, ukutshatyalaliswa kwezilwanyana ezinamathela kuye, ukutshata kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi zivuyayo emtshatweni?
Impendulo yinto elula. Kwanele ukujonga ngaphaya, ukujonga ngokwenene umhlaba apho kude nabantu abahle, bobabini nabasetyhini, bahlala. Oku kukuhle kwendalo yonke. Esikhundleni sokufuna nokuchonga iintsilelo, sifanele siwuqwalasele isithunzi somntu, umhlaba wakhe ongaphakathi, onokubuyisela amaxesha angamakhulu asikho nje kuphela ukukhathazeka kwamadoda, kodwa kunye nokwethu, ukuzalisa ubomi bethu ngeentsingiselo ezintsha, iingcamango nezindinganiso. Kodwa sixakeke kakhulu ekuphakanyiseni izinga lethu lokuzikhethela kwaye sichaza iqondo labo kwabanye esisebenzisa lonke ixesha lethu lokukhululeka kunye namandla kule nkqubo eqhubekayo, endaweni yokunika umntu ongeyena mhle ithuba lokuzibonakalisa nokuzivakalisa ngokwenene.
Zonke iinjongo ngokukhawuleza ziza kutshintshwa, ngoko kutheni ungahlaziyi isimo sengqondo sabo kwinto ethi "ilungile". Yileyo ndlela indoda efanelekileyo ibheka ngayo kwindodakazi.