Ngaba uyayazi ukuba ungeva xa ungeze udibane nomfana osele, ulungele ukumnika yonke into ngokukhawuleza? Ukuba kunjalo, qaphela! Mhlawumbi uqhutywe kwinqanaba elenza ngobuchule njengomntu ophethe i-naivete, obala ubuchule bakhe bokukhwabanisa amantombazana. Ukususela kumaxesha amandulo, ukukhohliswa kwamantombazana nabasetyhini, iCasanova, yaziwa. Okwangoku, le ngqungquthela ye "pickup" okanye, ngesiRashiya, ubugcisa bokukhwabanisa, bubanzi kakhulu kwiindidi zabantu abatsha kangangokuthi ngamanye amaxesha ucinga ngokuzikhethela, kwaye ngubani na ongaphambi kwam? Umntu othandwayo, okanye ufezekisa ngokuphumelelayo indima yakhe njengomculi othabathayo?
Impawu eziqhelekileyo zokukhethwa :
- Unokubonakala okungenakuqondakala, oko kukuthi, ukusika, ukuguguza, ukuhlanjululwa njalo njalo;
- Iindawo ezihlala zihlala kwindawo ezininzi, ezithandana nokudlala ngothando, ii-clubs ze-etonochnye, ii-bars, ii-restaurants, ii-discos, i-billiard, emsebenzini kunye nakuzo zonke indawo;
- Bahamba ngendlela engavumelaniyo nobudlelwane, oko kukuthi, baqala ukuqhelana nabo, baqhelanise, bafumane kwakhona;
- Baye bahluke kakhulu, banengqondo ehlekileyo yokuhleka, abazange bahlale bathule, bayazi inani elikhulu lamabali aphelile ngokuhlala elala ngesondo;
- Zama ukuhlala unxulumana nentombazana;
- Ungalokothi uhlawule ukuhlaziya;
- Emva komdla omncinci kumntu wabo bazama ukuthatha ixhoba elilandelayo ngokukhawuleza kwiindawo zomsindo baze bazise icala, ukulala ngesantombazana.
Izindlela zokukhohlisa abaculi bokuthabatha
Ukufumana umphumo wokugqibela ngokugqitywa kokuphela, iifoto zisebenzisa iindlela eziliqela zokukhohlisa. Makhe sixoxe ngazo kwaye sikhumbule, ukuze singawa phantsi kweengcambu zale "ngongqingili zesondo." Ezi zilandelayo iindlela eziqhelekileyo:
- ukuthintana okufutshane kunye nentombazana, oko kukuthi, ukujonga isantya sokusabela kwexhoba elizayo kwaye kuthiwa ngumdla omkhulu kumntu;
- xa bethetha, bahlala bevakalisa intombazana yabo, bayayigxininisa impawu yakhe ekhethekileyo kunye nokwenza iincomeko ngendlela engabonakaliyo yokwesaba umntu ohluphekileyo;
- kudala umqondo womntu olula kunye onyanisekileyo, kwaye ke uquka izixhobo ze-Eriksonian hypnosis, ngoncedo apho iwashi lokubala liyakwazi ukuthandana nentombazana;
- ngexesha leengxoxo ziziphatha ngokuzibamba kwaye zizama rhoqo ukuguqula iseshoni yengxoxo ngokumalunga nokufumana iinkcukacha malunga nentombazana ngokwayo, kwaye ingabalulekanga. Ukufumana le ngcaciso, bayakha amaqhinga "endlela" kule ntombazana;
- ngelixa incoko ishintsha iindlela zokuziphatha, okokuqala, "ukuhlaselwa" kwentombazana enemibuzo enzima, ize ibeke intetho kwintombazana yona, esele izama ukuzikholisa kwaye iqhube isazi;
- soloko ifezekisa injongo yayo, idala imeko apho intombazana ibonakala iphosa khona. Le ndlela ibizwa ngokuba "kungabangela intlungu kwizesini zesini."
Konke kwakuya kuyenzeka ukuba le ntombazana yayibona le "ulwalamano" njengokukhanya okukhanya. Nento enokuyenza kwabo bantliziyo yabo iphukile kwaye ichithwe? Akunakuze ufikelele kwiindlela ezinjalo ezikhohlisayo kwixesha elizayo?
Ungayi kuba njani uxhoba lokubala okubanda kwe-pick-up?
Ukuqala, ukwenzela ukuba ungahambi kwi-rake efanayo, kuyimfuneko ukuzigqiba isigqibo, kodwa yintoni na oyifunayo ukususela ekuthandeni ngakumbi nalo mfana? Awuyi kuba yintlanzi yombalo wokubanda?
Ukuba unyuselwa kwisikhokelo esinyanzekileyo kwaye ungamkeli ngesondo ngobunye ubusuku, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukuba ukhangele kwaye uqaphele. Okokuthi, musa ukuzivumela ukuba uvule "ngokuzenzeka" ngokusobala, ixesha elide ukujonga umntu kwiso ngosuku lokuqala kwaye uzama ukuhlawula ikhofi kwi-cafe kuwe, kungekhona kuwe. Kwakhona kuyinto engafanelekanga ukubeka imibuzo kwi-shelf, apho uya kuba nexesha lokukubuza ngaphambi kokuwa kwayo kwintlekele, oko kukuthi, ngaphambi kokudalulwa kwakhe njengento ekhohlisayo ngezandla zakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukukhwabanisa, ukulandelela ukusebenzisa i-barrier yesikhashana (umgaqo ongapheliyo), imizuzu elishumi. Ukuba ungeke ukwazi ukunyamezela iingqungquthela zale ndoda ekhohlisayo, ngoko unokuvuyiswa! Usuke ushiya ikhefu! Unakho ukuziqhayisa!
Ungaze uphendule imibuzo yokuthabatha ngokukhetha ngokunyanisekileyo, ukuze kamva, kunye nokuqhubekeka kokunxibelelana, akakwazi ukuzakhela iindlela zokuzibandakanya kwaye ungavumeli ulwalamano, ngaphandle koko, lo luphelo olunengqiqo yemizamo yakhe kunye neenyembezi zakho. Nge-nastornuvstvovaniyu eninzi ngesondo ngokukhawuleza, unganqikazi, xelela umfana yonke into ocinga ngayo ngaye kwaye ummbambe kwiloli. Isenzo esinjalo siya kususa ngokupheleleyo kulo mntu ongeyonto engesilingo sokwehlisa lo busuku, kodwa kuya kukukwenza ucinge ngokulungiswa kwendlela oziphatha ngayo kwaye mhlawumbi wenze ingcamango yokuba ngumlenze ococekileyo.
Ukuba entlanganisweni yentsha, utsho ngokungapheliyo, akayi kukuphazamisa, kwaye uyamthemba ngokuzithembayo, uyayigcina kwaye uyayilawula yonke intshukumo ebusweni bakhe, ngoko ngaphandle kokungabaza, ngokukhawuleza ubalekele kuye ngaphantsi kweyiphi na into. Umntu oqhelekileyo usoloko ehlala ecaleni angenayo ibinzana lakhe, isandi, isiqu sezwi. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu oqhelekileyo entlanganisweni ucebile kwaye unamahloni, kungekhona ukubeka ingalo yakhe ehlombe lakho, ukwesaba ukubuza umbuzo owongezelelweyo. Into eyona nto umntu oqhelekileyo unako ukukumema kwi-movie okanye kwindawo yothando apho ungenakuchitha imali eninzi. Kuye, into ephambili kukuqwalasela kunye nokwamkelwa kwakhe njengoko unako konke ukungaphumeleli.
Ukuba ukhululekile nombono wabathengi kwibhokisi yamadoda enhle kakhulu kwaye awuyikutshintsha "ukudlala" naye ngothando ngobusuku obubodwa, unokudlala i-pickup kwaye uchithe ixesha kunye nenzuzo, kokubili umphefumlo kunye nomzimba. Inzuzo yecandelo ayizange ikhanselwe okwamanje!
Into ephambili akuyi kuwa ngenxa yeengcungcuthe zolu hlobo lwesigxobhozo, soloko uqaphele kwaye ungavumeli ukuba unomdla ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye uphathe kakubi. Khumbula umthetho olula, kodwa osebenzayo, owona mntwana wonke umama ukhuthaza intombi yakhe-engazange akhulume nabantu abangabazi. Ihlazo, kunjalo, kodwa kuzo zonke ihlaya kukhona i-spoon yeqiniso.