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Kutheni a mabhinqa avuma ukulala ngesondo ?
Thina phakathi kwalabo bantu kunye nolwabelana ngesondo ngobunye ubusuku kubonakalisa izinto ezine eziphambili ezityhozela amantombazana kwiingalo zomntu oqala ukumaziyo naye.
Ukubulela ixesha elichithwe. Wachitha yonke ilanga kusihlwa wakho owenza konke okusemandleni akho ukwenza ukuba uzive ulungile: wandiyisa kwibhayisikobho, ivenkile yokutya, apho wandidla khona izitya ezidliwayo neziphuzo. Yonke yenza ukuba uzive unyanzelekile.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Yenza into ecacileyo kuwe ukuba awunakutyala nantoni na. Emva kwakho konke, akukho mntu wabuza umntu ukuba asebenzise imali, nangona kunjalo. Ukongeza, sele umbulele kuphela ngokuvuma kumntu owaziwayo kunye nokubamba kwexesha kunye, kodwa isondo kwi-akhawunti yemenyu, njengombandela, ayifakiwe. Ewe, ngaphandle kokuba awukho umnqweno wokuchitha ubusuku ngalo mkhonto.
Uthando ekuqaleni. Ngamanye amaxesha kunelungelo lokuvakalelwa le mizuzu emihlanu, ngamanye amaxesha iiyure ezimbini. Ngoko, wathandana nomntu wokuqala owaziwayo kule ndoda engaziwayo, kwaye unokuqinisekileyo ukuba ufuna ukuchitha lo busuku naye.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Zama ngexesha lakho lokufunda ukufunda kumntu oninzi ngaye. Mhlawumbi, kwi-biographie yakhe iya kuza neenkalo ezinjalo ukuba uya kucinga.
Ngokungaqhelekanga. Ngelo xesha ukhululekile kwaye ungobuhlungu kakhulu, kwaye ulungile ukuvumelana nobusuku obunye besondo kunye nolwazi olutsha. Ewe, okanye nje ngaphambi kokuba uqhelane naloo nto, waxabana nesoka lakho kwaye, ngokusemandleni onke, ufuna ukuphindezela. Kwaye wavuma ukuba uqhelane nomntu okhangayo, usela kakhulu kwaye ... Ukwazana kwakho okulula kwakhula kwaba yinto ebushushu. Kodwa kusasa waqonda ngokukrakra ukuba wenza ngokungafani.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Kwimeko enjalo, indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma kuyo ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye ungashiyi nayiphi na amanqaku okanye ifowuni. Kodwa ukuba umhlobo wakho omtsha avuke, khawuleza uxelise ukuba unentloni uze ushiye intsimi yakhe!
Umnqweno omkhulu. Ngokucacileyo awunayo ingqalelo ngokwaneleyo, kwaye apha ngasemva kwakho kwakungumntu onobubele onobubele ozinikezele ukuqhubela phambili omaziyo kwindlu yakhe. Kwaye wagqiba ekubeni usebenzise oku.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ukuba ufuna ukwenza-nto, musa ukulahlekelwa yintloko yakho kwaye ungakheli ingcinga malunga nelokuba le nto izayo. Khumbula, oku kungokulala ngesinye ubusuku, kwaye kuya kwenzeka ntoni emva koko kuya kugwetywa kuphela ngexesha.
Ubuhlobo obusisiseko kukuba ungathandabuzeki .
Njengoko uyazi, abafazi basolisa kakhulu. Ngamagama, makabeke nje ukuba banike isizathu sokuba babe neentloni kwaye bakhathazeke. Ngoko isenzo esinjalo esinokuthandana, njengobusondelene nolwazi lokuqala, alukwazi ukunyanzela ukuba umfazi ahlupheke kwaye ahlupheke ngenxa yokucamngca kwakhe okubuhlungu ngale nto. Sinikeza ezinye zeengcamango ezifanelekileyo kunye nabafazi abaqhelekileyo abakwazi ukutyelela iingqondo zabo emva kobusuku bokukhanga ngomhla wokuqala.
"Zonke i-muzhiks zifuna enye kuphela! ". Akukho mntu uxhaphaza, kodwa akukho nto iphosakeleyo nayo. Kuwe, indoda yabona umfazi omhle nonotshabhinqa, ngoko umsola ngokusebenzisa le meko, akukho ndawo. Emva kwakho konke, wena ngokwakho, kwindawo yokuqala, wavuma ukuba ukwandiswa kokuhlwa. Ngoko masicinge ngengqiqo kwaye siphendule umbuzo onzima: Ngubani na?
"Hayi! Undithabatha njengendoda enomfazi onokuqhaqhaqhaqhazelayo, oye walala ngesondo! ". Inyaniso yokuba ibhinqa lifuna ukuthandana nomntu, akukho nto ityala. Ukongezelela, ukuvuma ngokuvisisana ngesondo, uthi uvelwano nomnye. Ngoko ungesabi ukuba inene malunga nawe ingacinga kakubi. Khumbula ukuba wonke umntu uvavanya omnye umntu ngokusekelwe kwihlabathi. Kungenxa yoko, ukuba umntu ufuna wena kumhlobo wakhe wokuqala, akayi kukugweba ngokunyanisekileyo kwisinyathelo sakho sokubuyisela.
"Kunokwenzeka ukuba, andinguye kwintetho yakhe kuyo yonke into yegama ...". Ngokuqhelekileyo, le ngcamango ifika kumantombazana emva kokuchitha ubusuku obunye kunye nomfana, kwaye imshiye inombolo yakhe yefowuni ngoko ayizange ilinde umnxeba. Nantsi kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele into yokuba ukutshatana nokulala ngesinye ubusuku, unokuhlala kwaye uhlale kulobu busuku kuphela. Kwaye ngendlela, akusiyo isizathu sokungabaza. Umfana nje, eqinisweni, wabalwa kanye kuphela kwaye uzigweba ngenxa yalokhu akukho sizathu.
"Sifanele simgatye kwaye ke yonke into yayiyahluke nathi! ". Amadoda abazingeli. Ngoko ke, xa befumene "ukuphangwa" kwabo, bakhawuleza bepholile, kwaye oku akuxhomekeke kuyo kwiintlanganiso ozinike zona. Ngendlela, amadoda akhangwanga ngokungabonakali, kodwa ngokuzimela kwabasetyhini. Yingakho, emva kobusuku kunye naye, akufanele ucele imibuzo enje: "Ngaba siya kuphinda sibone kwakhona?" "," Uya kundibiza? "Njalo njalo. Yithi nje ukulahla kwaye ushiye kwaye uza kuba nethuba lokuva ilizwi lakhe kwifowuni. Ngendlela, nokuba awuzange ushiye inombolo kuye, uya kufumana iindlela ezininzi zokukubona kwakhona.
"Ngokuqinisekileyo wayecinga ukuba ndincinci! ". Yinyani ngokwenene, ukuba nje ufumane apha ngenxa yento? Kodwa, unokucinga ukuba ukhangele into eyona nto onokuyenza yona.
Uthi kuye "hayi" kumhlobo wakho wokuqala ?
Yintoni ongayithathi, kodwa thina sonke sibabhinqa, izidalwa zisesichengeni kunye nemvakalelo. Kwaye nangona ebudeni bokuqala beqhelana nendoda simvumela ukuba aqonde ukuba akuyi kubakho ukuqhubeka, siqala ukuxhalabisa kwaye sicinge ngendlela aza kucinga ngayo ngoku. Ngokukhawuleza ugqiba ukuba:
Awunazo amava ezesondo. Ukungabi nantoni ayikho into ephantsi. Ngoko ke, ukuba uthe wagqiba ngoko, uya kuba nomnqweno wokukufezekisa.
Awuthandanga nhlobo. Yiloo nto abantu bacinga ngokuqhelekileyo xa ibhinqa lithatha. Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo kungekhona kumhlobo wokuqala. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyaqhubeka uphika kuye, ngoko uya kuqiniseka ngekhulu leepesenti. Ngoko ukuba uyayithanda, zama ukusibonisa.
Kwaye into yokugqibela, ngexesha lokuthandana ebusuku, nangemva kwayo, cingisisa malunga nesi sihloko kwaye ungazisoli oko kwenzeka!