Uloyiko oluhambelana ngqo nomntwana.
Ukukhulelwa sisigaba esitsha ebomini, kungakhathaliseki ukuba okokuqala okanye akunjalo. Wonke umama ozayo uyaxhalabisa ngexesha lonke.
Uloyiko lolokuqala luyisongelo lokukhulelwa kwesisu. Le nto ayikho into eyoyikisayo, ukuba uyayilandela ngokucophelela yonke imiyalelo kadokotela okhokelela ukukhulelwa kwakho. Ukwesaba kunye nokulala esibhedlele zonke iinyanga ezili-9, ukuba akufunwa, akuyimfuneko. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwiimeko ezinjalo kubalulekile ukuthatha amavithamini, ngakumbi ukuba ube ngaphandle kwaye uphumle. Enye ingcebiso kubo bonke oomama abalindeleyo: akukho mfuneko yokuba "umoya". Ukuziphatha kwakho kukuchaphazela kakhulu isimo somzimba.
Ixesha lidlula, kwaye "i-puzozhitel" ikhula. Sele usuqala ukuziva ukuhamba kwakhe. Uloyiko olulandelayo "kutheni engacingi okanye ahambe?". Ndiya kukhumbuza bonke abafazi ukuba umntwana, ngelixa esesiswini sakho, elala ngaphezulu emini, uvuka ebusuku okanye kusasa, xa ufuna ukulala.
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana akayi kukhwela, linda iiyure ezintathu, mhlawumbi uphumla. Ixesha lidlulile, kodwa ungaziva uhamba? Ungabibize uze ubize u-03. Ukuqala, zilawule, uze uzame ukuthetha ne-crumb, ukubetha isisu sakho. Kwiimeko ezininzi, umntwana uya kuphendula ngokukhawuleza ngokubetha ngesantya. Kwaye ulindele nje. Ukuze unqobe loloyiko unye, ncokola ngakumbi kunye nosana uze uphathe ngesisu ngesisu.
Kwakhona, abaninzi bajamelana noyiko lomonakalo esiswini. Ukuze ugweme oku, kufuneka ulandele imithetho embalwa elula:
1. Musa ukugqoka isithende esiphezulu, njengoko kukho ithuba lokuwa.
2. Ebusika zama ukushiya indlu engahambelaniyo, unako ukutshintsha.
3. Ngethuba lokukhulelwa, ungaqhubeki ukuhamba ngezothutho loluntu. Hayi, abantu abazange bafunde indlela yokuhlonela abafazi "kwindawo."
Oku, akunjalo, akuyiyo yonke imigaqo, kodwa inxalenye ephambili iphuma kwezi zintathu. Hlalani nikhumbula ukuba sele sele nibini, kwaye uxanduva, ngokukodwa, luhlala luhlala kumama ozayo.
Uloyiko oluhambelana nemiqondiso.
Inani elikhulu labantu bakholelwa kwiimpawu. Oomama bexesha elizayo baphantsi kwesi simo. Yilapho ukwesaba kuvela ukwenza into engalunganga kwaye ulahlekelwe ngumntwana.
Ukwesaba ukunqoba kuyimfuneko ukuqonda apho ivela khona, kwaye ngubani osongelayo. Kwimeko ezininzi, ngaba oomama abathandayo, omama-mkhwekazi, ugogo-makhulu okanye, umzekelo, abahlobo abakhulu. Ngelizwi, bonke abo sele benabantwana. Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zidibaniswa kunye nombala weenwele okanye ukuguqula isitayela seenwele, zithi, umntwana uya kuguqula intambo yomlomo okanye anciphise ubomi bomntwana. Yonke into engekho. Ukuba ukukhwabanisa okunjalo kubakho, oko akusiyo imbangela yeendlela ozenza ngayo kunye neenwele. Naluphina ugqirha uya kuthi, oku kubonisa ukuba umntwana wakho usebenza, kwaye ngenxa yoko, bekukho ukungcola.
Ukoyika ukuzala.
Nantsi, uloyiko oluqhelekileyo. Kulo lonke iplanethi yoMhlaba akukho mfazi ongeyilo lokuzalwa. Ukuba umntu uthi ibhetele, ngoko, mhlawumbi, ubuqhetseba.
Ukuze unqobe ukwesaba, kukufanele uqikelele ngezinto ozoyika kuzo. Ukuzalwa? Ubuhlungu? Inyaniso yokuba awukwazi ukuyenza esibhedlele xa sele kuqalile ukulwa?
Masiqale ngokulandelelana. Ngoko, ukwesaba ukuzalwa ngokwayo kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Ukukuphelisa ngokupheleleyo akuyi kuphumelela, kodwa ezandleni zakho udlulise ukwesaba ekukhutshweni kwexhala. Ukwenza oku, kuyimfuneko ukuzilungiselela ngokuziphatha kwasekuqaleni kokukhulelwa. Wonke umntu ufumana indlela yokwenza. Omnye uphinda njengemantra: "Yonke into iya kulungile," kwaye omnye umntu, umzekelo, uphendukela kuThixo. Yonke le yodwa. Fumana isikhubekiso sakho uze usebenzise kuze kube yilapho uzalwa.
Ukuba i-term yokuzala izitya, kwaye unesaba kakhulu ukuba awufuni ukuzala, ke le yimeko ehlukile. Zama ukuthetha nodokotela oza kuthatha ukuhambisa. Uya kuthetha ukuba xa uphulaphule kwaye wenza konke akutshoyo, oko akuyi kubakho bubuhlungu kwaye buyikrakra. Kufanelekile ukukholelwa, awuyena owokuqala. Kwimeko apho kungekho nzekayo, vele uhlale phantsi, vala amehlo akho uze ucinge umntwana wakho. Cinga ngohlobo luni lovuyo oluya kusasazeka kuwo wonke umzimba xa uva ukukhala okude kulindelwe umntwana osandula. Yiyo le ngcamango eya kukusindisa ekubeni uye kumgqirha.
Ukuba ukwesaba intlungu, ngoko umgqirha akayi kunceda. Ngale nto kufuneka uwamkele. Kwiifilimu, ukuzala, ubuninzi beentombi bakhala. Yimfilimo kwaye ucinge ukuba kuwe ukuzalwa kuza kuba yinto yokugqibela yokuphila akulungile. Ewe, akukho nto inomdla ekuzalweni ngokwawo, kodwa akukho mntu uya kukwazi ukufa etafileni. Wena-umzekelo kumntwana wesikhathi esizayo, kwaye utshele iminyaka embalwa kamva, ukuba buhlungu kangakanani, ungekho nto. Ibhinqa kufuneka lihlale liqine, ngakumbi ekubeni le ntlungu ikwazi ukunyamezela kwaye kufuneka ibekezelele.
Ukwesaba ukungakwazi ukufikelela kwikhaya lokubeleka xa ukulwa kuqala, kwiimeko ezininzi, akunakulungile. Musa ukulibala ukuba ngaphandle kokuvela kwimithetho. Ukuze uthabathe esibhedlele ngexesha, akudingeki ulinde dexesha lexesha phakathi kwephulo lincinci. Ukuba unomuvo wokuba ulwaphulo luqala okanye amanzi aphelile, ngoko kufuneka ubize u-03 kanye kanye kwaye ubize i-ambulensi eya kukusa esibhedlele ekhethwe ngaphambili. Zonke izinto eziyimfuneko kusengaphambili, zifake esikhwameni, kuba ngokuqinisekileyo awuyi kubakho ukujikeleza indlu, ukhangele ishaja kwifowuni okanye kwikhadi lokutshintshiselana. Thatha umoya ophefumlelweyo, ubeke izinto kufuphi nomkhumbi kwaye ulinde ngokuzamile oogqirha. Ukuba uyayilandela le mithetho, ngoko uloyiko lokulibala into efunekayo ekhaya linyamalale ngokwalo. Xa ungena esibhedlele, cinga ukuba namhlanje uza kuba ngumama. Othandekayo nomntu othandekayo usana olulindele. Ezi ngcamango ziya kunika ithemba, kwaye konke ukwesaba kuza kuphuma.
Ukucaphula konke oku ngasentla, sinokukhipha enye inyaniso elula. Ukwesaba ngaphakathi kwethu, ngokwenyama abakwazi ukubulawa, kodwa ngokuziphatha kuya kwenzeka. Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo siyimfuneko yokukhulelwa okucokisekileyo kunye nokuzala ngokuphumelelayo, oomama abaninzi abaza kukhangela iminyaka emininzi.