Intsingiselo yegama elithi "indoda enobudlova" kunzima ukuchaza kwisigwebo esisodwa. Ngaphezu koko, ukuphathwa kakubi kungabi yinyani kuphela, kodwa kukhohlisiwe. Ungayahlula njani indoda engabonakaliyo ukususela namhlanje?
Okokuqala, machaze ukuba yintoni, lo bububi kunye naluphi uhlobo lomntu onokuthiwa lubuhlungu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, igama elithi "ubuqhetseba", okokuqala lithetha ukhohlakali nobuqhetseba. Kodwa, kwi-lexicon yethu, le ngcamango ifumane umbala ohlukileyo. Ukuba umntu ubizwa ngokuba ngumnxeba, unokuthi ukhaliphe kwaye unesibindi, kodwa akayikhohlakele. Ukongezelela, malunga nomntu ohlala kukho ummandla wemfihlakalo kunye nemfihlakalo. Amadoda aseBrutal akwazi ukunqoba abafazi ngamandla abo, ukungakwazi ukuzithengisa kunye nento ekhethekileyo yamadoda "kuphela abantu ababi". Kunzima ukushiya indoda enjalo kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba anqabe. Nangona okokuqala unokucaphukisa umfazi ngokunyaniseka kwakhe, esi simo sengqondo siya kutshintsha ngexesha, kuba ukuqina kwakhe kuya kubonwa njengobunqunu. Emva kwalowo mfana, nawuphi na umfazi uziva ngathi emva kwodonga lwamatye. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kunjalo, la madoda ahlale ethanda abanye, ngokukodwa abazali kunye nabanye abameli bezesondo ezinamandla. Ubunzima babo, ukungcola kunye neengcingo, kwenza abazali baqaphele, kwaye abafana bayathukuthela ngenxa yomona. Kuyaziwa ukuba abantu abaqinileyo, abanobugqubutha nabanobuqili banjengabesifazana, kuba kunjalo na amandla. Kwaye amanye amadoda ayaqonda ukuba abantu abatsha abanomdla banamalungelo kwaye banomona. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abafana bayayivumelani kwaye bachaze indlela abaziphatha ngayo ngokukhathazeka ngeemvakalelo zakho nokukhusela, kuba ukufuphi kwakho akuyena umfana.
Kodwa ke, makhe sichaze, kunokuba ubuqhetseba obuyinyani buhluke kwiqhinga. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba umfana onobungozi uyangcolisa nokunyaniseka kwakhe. Ngokusoloko, ngaphandle okanye ngaphandle, ukhulula amahlaya akhe angcolileyo, ezama ukuhlazisa nokuhlambalaza umntu. Ngokukodwa, oku kusebenza kwiimeko xa umntu oselula eenkampani yamadoda. Kodwa, ngokukhawuleza kufuneka wenze ukubhuka kwaye uqaphele ukuba abafana abasecaleni kuye kufuneka babe ngabancinci, bahlaselwe okanye bathathaka. Ukuba loo ntombazana ibona ukuba amandla egama kunye nesibindi ngokucacileyo engekho ecaleni lakhe, konke ukuzikhukhumeza kuyaphela kwangoko, kwaye uziphatha ngokukhawuleza nangokulula. Indoda enjalo ithi into eninzi malunga nokuba ngumlindi kunye nomkhuseli omkhulu. Kwaye, eneneni, ngaba bantu abahlaselayo baqala ukukhawuleza xa bethelwa ngumntu kummandla omnyama. Ngaphezu koko, baziphatha kakuhle nangona intombi yakhe isondele. Emva kwimeko elolo hlobo, ngokuqinisekileyo, loo mfana uhlala exelela amabali amangalisa ukuba azithethelele. Kwaye ngoku kuxhomekeke kwiitalente zentetho kunye nothando lwentombazana, uya kumkholelwa okanye cha. Kwakhona, abantu abaselula balo hlobo lengqondo kunye nomlingiswa, banokukhubekisa umfazi okanye baphakamise isandla. Bakholelwa ukuba ngale ndlela bafaka ubungqina namandla abo kwaye bazama rhoqo ukuzithethelela ukuziphatha kwabo emehlweni abo. Enyanisweni, abanalo amandla okwaneleyo okanye ubunzima bokufumana umdlali ofanelekileyo. Kodwa, bafuna ukuba bahlale bezingqina kunye nabanye ngokunyathela kwabo kunye nobukhulu. Abafana abaqhelekileyo basoloko behlukanisa abafana abanobuqhetseba kubadlali abanjalo kwaye bawaphulaphuli, okanye bawahambisa ekuhlambuleni amanzi. Kodwa amanye amantombazana akholelwa kuloo ndawo yokudlala yinto enye, apho, rhoqo, amava kunye nosizi. Oku akumangalisi, kuba ukhetha umfana, umfazi ukhangele phambili ekukhuseleni nasekuthandeni, aze athole umntu ongenakwenza nantoni na kwaye uqinisekiswa ngubuthathaka bakhe.
Indoda engumntu onobukrakra akayi kuphakamisa isandla sakhe kumfazi. Ubunzima bakhe buyabonakala ngokuziphatha, amagama, isenzo, ngokumalunga nesondo, kodwa ukuba loo mntu athabathe umfazi ungaphantsi kwesidima sakhe. Indoda enobunene ngokwenene iyayazi ukuba iyabaluleka, ngoko ayiyikuzifaka kuyo yonke into enokwenzeka kwaye engenakwenzeka. Ulula nje, uziphatha ngendlela athanda ngayo kwaye uhlale ehleli njengaye. Ubunzima bakhe nobuninzi bubonakala kwisimo seengubo, izithuthi azikhethayo ukuhamba, indlela yokuthetha, ukubukela, ukuhamba. Kulo mntu, konke oku kukhangeleka kwaye kubonwa ngokuvisisanayo. Akazami ukuba ngcono okanye okubi kunokuba ngubani ngokwenene. Amadoda aseBrutal ayengabantu abangaziwayo ukuba bazive, kodwa kuphela isangqa sabantu abasondeleyo - abaziwayo bayayazi ngabo. Kulula nje, inyaniso kukuba amadoda anonya awazami ukubonakala ekhohlakeleyo. Ngokulula, bajwayele ukungabikho kwiimvakalelo baze benze ngendlela abayibona ngayo. Abasoze benze nantoni na ukubonisa ubungqina babo kwabanye abantu, ngaba ngabafana okanye amantombazana. Abantu abancinci abakhetha ukuba benze ngokufanelekileyo.
Intsingiselo yelizwi elithi "indoda enobuhlungu" kukuba ngelixesha elilodwa umntu uyaqonda umntu othembekileyo onokuhlala emela yena kunye nokukhusela abo abathandayo. Yaye umntu onobukrakra angamthandi wonk 'umntu ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe okuzikhukhumeleyo, ngokuthe tye kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukungcola, abantu abasondeleyo bayazi ukuba ungumntu olungileyo, onokuthembela kuyo nayiphi na imeko. Ubudlobongela bakhe abuyonto, kodwa kunye. Kwaye, ngokwenene, la madoda ayenabo madoda kunye nooyise. Ngokulula, ngexesha bayaba bulumko kwaye baqhawule, kodwa amandla obuninzi nobuhle bahlala nabo ubomi.