Ukuziphatha komntu othandana neofisi

Ngokuphathelele iirekhodi phakathi kwabasebenzi bekampani enye, kwaye baze basebenze kwiofisi enye, bathetha amagama amaninzi. Abanye bacinga isigqibo sokwenza ulwalamano nomnye umntu owenza naye umonakalo obulalayo.

Yaye le ngxelo ayinakubizwa ngokuba yinto engafanelekanga: ngokuqinisekileyo, isigxina sihlala kwindawo enye, apho kungekho zimo zokubonakalisa umona, kunye nezizathu zokuvela kwayo - ubunzima, akulula kubo bathathi-nxaxheba. Nangona kunjalo, umkhwa wokwenza ulwalamano oluhle phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi uhlala engenandaba: phantse yonke inkampani kukho imizekelo emininzi yothando oluvela phakathi kwabasebenzi beli sebe.

Ziziphi iingxaki ezinokubakho?

Ingxaki ebalulekileyo kwezobudlelwane akufanele iphosakele ngokuvavanywa komnye umntu osebenza naye kwenye. Kwaye ukuba umfazi eofisini angakwazi ukuziphatha ngokufihlakeleyo, ngaphandle kokunikezela naluphi na uvelwano kumqeshwa ohleliyo, izenzo zomthandi eofisini zingabonwa ngeso iso. Yintoni eyahlukana nendoda evela kwabanye osebenza nabo, nje uvelwano nomsebenzi othandekayo?

Okokuqala, ukucacisa ukuba umntu osebenza naye uyamthanda ngokulula, ukuba uyagqithisa ingqalelo ixesha eliza kuhamba naye. Kwimibutho esemthethweni yequmrhu, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kulungiswa ukuba abone isifundo sokububula kwakhe, okanye ngokuthe ngqo ngqo. Ngexesha elifanayo uya kuzama ngazo zonke iindlela ukuze angabonakali ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo zakhe ngokucacileyo: akakwazi ukummema ukuba adlale, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba ngowokuqala ukuzalisa indebe yakhe. Ukubona umfazi wakhe othandekayo endlwini, naye, ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kubizwa, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuhlola ukuba uya ekhaya ngaphandle kwemidlalo. Ukuba uyazi ukuba i-heartbreaker emoyeni entliziyweni yakhe ayihambi ekhaya emva kokuphela kweqela elilandelayo, kwaye ngokulandelayo uya kuvela kwi-ofisi eyona nto. Ngaphandle kokuba kungenzeki ngenye indlela kwi-nightclub efanayo njengoko yena, apho sele ezaliswe ngumlingo womoya odibeneyo, uya kuba nako ukubonisa umlingane wakhe indlela ecinga ngayo.

Ngaphezulu, nangona emva kokubambana ngamathuba amaninzi okanye iingxoxo ezingenangqiqo, indoda ethandwayo eofiseleni iyayika ukubonakalisa esidlangalaleni iimvakalelo zakhe emsebenzini. Ubungqina bendoda ngokuqhelekileyo kubangele ukulibaziseka ekuqaleni kobudlelwane obubi kunye nexesha elide. Ingxaki akukhona ukuba ngobusuku kwiqela le ndoda indoda nje idlala nomlingane wayo. Amava akhe ayenzulu kakhulu: ukuhlala phantsi kolawulo lwabalandeli abalambileyo kwiziganeko ezithandekayo, ufuna ukugcina indawo yakhe, eyenza uthando lube sisengozini. Nantsi into exhomekeke kulo mfazi ngokwakhe: ukuba uye waqaphela kuye ngokwakhe imbonakalo enengqalelo yomntu osebenza naye, ingqwalasela yakhe ingqalelo kwimicimbi yakhe kunye nomnqweno wokuhlala ube kufuphi naye, ngoko kukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane kufuneka enze into eyodwa kuphela: ukuthetha naye, ukuqala uvelwano okanye ukuchasana kuye.

Ngenye indlela eyahlula ngayo loo mntu kwinkampani evela kwabanye osebenza nabo?

Kulula: uhlala enomdla kuyo yonke into encinane, edibene nobomi bakhethiweyo ngentliziyo yakhe. Ukuziphatha komntu othandana neofisi kudla ngokubhekiselele kwiimeko apho yena ngokwakhe wayengaqhelanga. Ngako oko, akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kukwazi ukufihla ingqalelo yakhe kwingqalelo yoluntu. Esinye sezibonakaliso ezithandekayo zothando lomntu onjalo ngumdla wakhe: uya kuhlala ebuza omnye umlingani ukuba usuku lwakhe luhamba njani, buza oko kulandelayo kwiprojekthi yakhe. Kwaye, ukuba nomdla, loo mlingane uya kuqonda zonke izicwangciso zomsebenzi oye wamthabatha kwaye azama ukumkhusela kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwiimeko ezidakisayo. Kuye, unako ukulungisa ingqalelo ngesibindi kungekhona nje ngeengcebiso ezifunekayo, kodwa nangona uncedo olunzulu. Indoda ethandwayo ayikho into enomdla kunokuba ibambisane naye kwiprojekthi ethile, ayimelanga. Kodwa apha kukho ingozi: ukuba kukho into engaphumelekanga ngexesha lomsebenzi, umphumo ungase ulungelelaniso - ukusuka ekulahlekelweni komdla okwenziwe kuyo, ekuguquleni uthando olufudumeleyo kwiqanda elitshisayo, inzondo enkulu.

Izenzo ezimbalwa eziqhelekileyo.

Izenzo zendoda ethandwayo e-ofisi zigqithiselwe ingqalelo kuphela kwintanda yakhe. Ukuzama ukufihla iimvakalelo zakhe, ezicinga ukuba zingabonakaliyo ngokungagqibekanga, uya kubonisa umdla omkhulu kumsebenzi wakhe ngamnye. Kuze ufike kumgangatho weengqalelo ezibonisiweyo. Ewe, akunakukwazi ukufezekisa ngokupheleleyo umlinganiselo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kudibanisa abasebenzi ngokuphathelele ukuba ngubani na osebenza naye othandana naye. Nangona akunzima ukuzimisela njengoko kubonakala ngathi: ngokubona. Indoda ethandwayo ithanda ukujonga isihloko sokububula kwakhe. Ngokukodwa xa ecinga ukuba akukho mntu uyamjonga. Ngoko ke, xa ukhetha indawo entsha yomsebenzi, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukhetha itafile ekhoyo emva kwendawo ethandekayo yakhe, kwaye ekuphumeni kunye nabahlobo uya kukhetha indawo apho indawo yokubhema okanye ukusela itiye kwinxalenyekazi ye-ofisi ibonwa kakuhle.

Ukuziphatha komntu othandweni kubangelwa ukubayika, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umlingane wakhe okanye umfokazi, obonwa kwifestile yebhasi ehambayo, uya kuba yinto yakhe. Kulo ofisi ukuba ezo nkwantya ziza kubonakala zibonakala ziyingozi kwaye ziyingozi kumbono oncomekayo ngokubhekiselele kumathuba omsebenzi. Kwaye akuninzi ukupapashwa kophuhliso lobudlelwane okanye isisongelo sokubonakaliswa emehlweni kwintanda ethandwa ngumntu osebenza naye, kungekhona. Ingxaki yinto eqhubekayo yokukhungathekisa. Ukubona umfazi onqwenelekayo imihla ngemihla, ukwazi ukuba ngubani othandayo kwaye ongenalo, ukuvavanya amandla akhe kunye nenhlalakahle, kwaye ukugcina ingqiqo yemibono ayinzima nje-akunakwenzeka. Ngokungafani nomfazi, indoda iyaziqonda kakuhle. Yingakho esaba. Umthandi obesabayo uhlala engenzi lutho. Ubonakaliswa ngokukhawuleza okukrakra. Okanye ngenye indlela - ukumomotheka ongaveli ebusweni, obufana ne-grin okanye uvuyo lomntwana ekuthengeni ithoyilo entsha. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo umntu othanda iofisi uziphatha ngendlela ephazamisayo, ngokukodwa ukuzama ukugcina phantsi kolawulo lweemvakalelo.