Akunxulumene neengxoxo "zokukhusela", kuba impembelelo yeziyobisi kumzimba womntwana unamandla kwaye kufuneka usebenze ngokukhawuleza. Ukunyaniseka akukho mpembelelo. Abaselula abakuthuswanga ngcaciso yeentlungu nokufa kwabantu abasebenzisa iziyobisi. Eli lixesha - iminyaka "yokungafi". Abaselula abakwazi ukufumana ithuba lokufa kwabo "ngokwenene." Umsebenzi owona mkhulu kukunceda umntwana abe ngumntu ozimeleyo, ukwenza ukuthanda, ukuzithemba nokuzimela ngokuzimela. Emva koko umntwana uya kukwandisa kakhulu amathuba okulwa nomthelela womnye umntu. Ungamxineli, uqaphele ilungelo lakhe lokukhusela uluvo lwakhe, xa kungavumelani nawe-mhlawumbi uya kufumana amandla okuthi "hayi" ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Emva koko, isizathu esona sokuba abantwana baqale ukusebenzisa iziyobisi banomnqweno wokuhlala kunye nabafana bevela kwinkampani yabo. Igunya labaontanga liphezulu kakhulu, njengokuba ukwesaba ukungathandabuzeki kwimimandla yolutsha.
Kodwa, ungamnceda njani umntwana ukuba usebenzisa izidakamizwa ixesha elide (oko kukuthi, akukho ityala elilodwa)? Umntwana wakho ugula kakhulu - akusekho umbuzo wokunyaniseka okanye ukungabi namandla. Into yokuqala yokwenza kulo mzekelo kukubeka onke amanqaku angentla "kunye" nobudlelwane nayo. Shayela umntwana ngencoko enzulu ngexesha xa ehlazileyo. Ungazami ukufumana ubuhlobo xa uphantsi kwefuthe leziyobisi-akunakuncedo.
Yinyaniseka - xelele ngokuthe ngqo malunga nezikhalazo zakho: "Ndicinga ukuba usebenzisa iziyobisi." Musa ukulila, ungalili kwaye ungasongeli - kunokushenxisa kude nawe. Ungalindeli ukuqaphela ngokunyanisekileyo - izilutha, njengamayeza atywala, zivumi ukuphika ukuxhomekeka kwabo.
Mxelele umntwana ngale ndlela elandelayo: "Siyazi ukuba usebenzisa iziyobisi, ubomi bakho buyikho kwaye unelungelo lokwenza isigqibo sokuba wenzeni nalo." Siyakuthanda kwaye siyazisola ngokuba wenza loo nto ingozi. ukuze ufe ngenxa yeziyobisi, kwaye ukuba unquma ukuzinikela, sikulungele ukukunceda nangayiphi na indlela. Ukuba awufuni ukutshintsha imeko, khumbula ukuba ngaphandle kwelungelo lokufumanisa indlela yokuphila, unembopheleleko yakho Sibona umonakalo omkhulu owenzele wena kunye impilo yakho iqhubekile, iingxaki ziqale esikolweni, izinto ziye zaphela endlwini yakho, imali kunye neziyobisi ziyabiza, kwaye awukwazi ukuzenza ngokunyanisekileyo, ngoko uqale ukuba ngenxa yeziyobisi, endaweni yokuba ube ngumntu okhululekileyo uba ngumlutha, kwaye awuxhomekeke kuphela kwiziyobisi, kodwa nakwabaphuli-mthetho abathengisayo ubuthi, ngenxa yento yonke oziphendulelayo. Ukuba ukhetha iziyobisi, sinyanzeliswa ukuba sikhuphe inkululeko yakho ukuze singabuyi, okanye kufuneka ushiye intsapho. "
Ukuba umntwana emva kokuba incoko ivumelana nokubuyela kwinqanaba le-narcologist ukuze uncede-injongo yencoko iyafumaneka. Kodwa, oku kungokuqala kwendlela. Ungalindeli ukuphumelela okulula.
Okungasebenzi nakanjani ziindlela zokulwa nokulutha kweziyobisi, njengokungena kwihostela okanye "ukuthunjwa" kwelinye idolophu. Abazali bomlutha kufuneka bakhumbule ukuba abakwazi ukutshintsha imeko ngokukhawuleza - isinqumo ngokuzithandela.
Kwintsapho apho umntwana esebenzisa iziyobisi, into ephambili kubazali akuyi kuba yintsebenziswano esi sifo. Ukufihla ingxaki kwabanye kuba yimpazamo enkulu. Ukuba izalamane nabahlobo bengazi malunga nokuxhomekeka komntwana wakho - akuyi kuba nzima ukuba "athabathe" kubo imali kwi dose elandelayo. Tshela umntwana malunga nokuxhatshazwa kweziyobisi kubazali bakhe abahlobo bakhe - mhlawumbi kuya kusindisa umntu ovela kwingxaki okanye avule amehlo abo kwingxaki ekhoyo. Unokukunceda njani umntwana ukuba usebenzisa iziyobisi
Musa ukugqiba umntwana wengxaki yakhe-esikolweni, ngamapolisa, amatyala, njl. Oku kumnciphisa izikhuthazo zokulwa nesifo. Amalungu entsapho apho umlutha ephila khona, kukho ingozi enkulu yokuba "ngumlwelwe". Abazali abaxhalabileyo bakhetha amaqhinga angalunganga: abayathethi nomntwana, ngokuxhomekeka kwakhe, ukwesaba ukulimaza iimvakalelo zakhe, ukufihla kwabanye ukuba kukho umlutha weziyobisi kwintsapho, ukusombulula iingxaki kuye. Zonke izicwangciso zentsapho zakhiwe ngokuchitshiyelwa "abagulayo" - iindwendwe azimenywanga, iipakethi zeholide azithengi, njl njl. Abanye abantwana kwintsapho kufuneka baziphathe "beqinileyo kunamanzi nangaphantsi kwengca" ukuze "bangabi phantsi," kuba intsapho inentlungu enjalo. Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba indlela enjalo iya kuphazamisa eso sifo kuphela.
Isimo esiphezulu apho i-drug addict's recovery is possible khona isifiso sakhe esivuthayo sokubuyiselwa, kuba impembelelo yeziyobisi emzimbeni womntwana iyonakalisa. Abazali abanakufuna ukwenza oku kuye. Into kuphela ukuba izidakamizwa ezinokwenene zinokukunceda ukuguqula ukuziphatha kwazo. Kubalulekile ukususa uxanduva lobunzima bomntwana kwaye uyeke ukukhusela kwimiphumo emibi yokusetyenziswa kwezidakamizwa. Oku kuya kumnceda ukuba ahlole ngokuchanekileyo ukuba ukuxhomekeka kuye kuthintela njani ubomi bakhe. Vumela ukuba izidakamizwa zilawule ezantsi, ke kukho ithuba lokuba uya kufuna ukumchukumisa aze asuse. Umntwana osemtsha kufuneka aqaphele ukuba utshintsho kuye lwenzeke nakwizinga lomzimba. Ukuqaphela oku kwaye ufuna ukuphuma kumngcipheko, umntwana uya kukhangela indlela efikelelekayo yokuphelisa umlutha. Ukuva kumntwana "Ndifuna ukubopha" akufuneki ukukhawuleza ukufuna ikliniki engcono. Makhe athathe amanyathelo okuqala ngokwakhe-uya kujonga i-narcologist kwi-dispensary. Kodwa, ukuba uyakucela ukuba ube khona ekuthintaniseni - ungafuni.
Ngoko, sathetha indlela yokunceda umntwana xa esebenzisa iziyobisi. Kodwa musa ukulibala ngobomi bakho. Yintoni ekhuthaza ukufumana umntwana ukuba abazali bakhe basebenzise lonke ixesha lokulwa ukulwa nokugula kwakhe? Ukuphila kwixesha elinjalo elingenakunqandeka, awuyi kuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana usempilweni. Mbonise ukuba ulahlekelwa kangakanani.
Okwangoku, kukho amaqela amaninzi ahlukeneyo ngoncedo kwiintsapho zezidakamizwa ezidakamizwa, ezakhiwe ngomfanekiso woluntu olungabonakaliyo utywala. Sebenzisa amava abantu abanenkinga efanayo nawe.