Inkxalabo ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwendoda nomfazi

Ubudlelwane bezithandani ezimbini kunokuthelekiswa nesityalo esincinci emoyeni: kufuneka bahambe kwiimvavanyo ezininzi ukuze balondoloze uthando lwabo. Omnye uphulaphula, kodwa umntu uyalinqoba yonke into, kwaye uthando lwabo lukhula luqina kwaye luvuyo ngaphezu kweminyaka, njengewayini elide elide.

Ifilosofi edumileyo uArtor Schopenhauer wathi xa abantu bebathandana, izilingo ezingaphezulu zilungiselela. Kwaye kaninzi le mvavanyo ivela apho ungalindelanga khona. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zaqaphela ukuba umsebenzi owonakalisa ootata, ukuhleba kunye nabahlobo kunamandla onke, unamandla ngakumbi phakathi kwabazithandayo. Ibhinqa ekulweni nemfazwe nendoda engakhathali iya kuxhaswa ngeenxa zonke. Kwaye ukuba uyathandana kwaye uyonwabile, intombi zezolo ziba lula ukuba zibe ngabalandeli abanokuzifuna ngokunyanisekileyo iimpazamo kwiqabane lakhe kunye nobudlelwane naye.

Kuyafana nakwamadoda: ukuba ebuhlotsheni nomfazi wakhe yonke into ihamba kakuhle, uyonwabile kwaye uyavuya ekhaya, kwaye kungekhona kwimibutho enobungane, unokukwazi ukufumana idumela elihle. Kwaye xa efika kubahlobo bakhe kwi pokozlovit ngesihloko esithi: "Bonke abafazi bayisiphukuphuku" okanye: "Kodwa i-bitch yami izolo ...", uba ngumntu wakhe kunoma yiphina inkampani.

Akukho nto eyonakalisa ngaphezu kwamandla abalahlekileyo abadibeneyo ngokumalunga nabanye abantu abaphumelelayo. Kwaye kuba kukho ezininzi iingxaki iintsapho ngexesha lethu, kunzima ukuba ungangeni emlilweni wokugxeka abahlobo babo abangenalucalulo kwimitshato yabahlobo okanye intombi.

Inkxalabo ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwendoda nomfazi inokuvela ngephoso "yabanqwenela kakuhle". Kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukunqoba, ukufuphi kwakho kumntu ochaphazelekayo malunga nococeko lobuhlobo bakho kunye nesiqingatha. Namhlanje siza kuqwalasela kuphela ezo iintlobo zenkxalabo ekunxibelelaneni phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, ezivuthayo ngquzulwano nezinye zeentsapho-kunye nendoda yomyeni wakhe.

Ukuxabana nomkhwekazi

Olu hlobo lokungquzulana lubhekwa lunzima kunzima kwingxaki yeentsapho. Kunzima ukuphepha ingxaki ebomini phakathi komyeni nomfazi, ukuba unyoko wakho akawamukeli umkhwekazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, lo mgaqo usekelwe kwiinkathazo ezipheleleyo zeengxaki ezinzulu. Oku kuthetha ukuba bangasombululwa kuphela ngoncedo lwengqondo yengqondo. Zonke iintlobo zesisombululo zingasisombululo kuphela, ezinciphise ubuncinane bezinto ezinqwenelekayo, kodwa aziyi kunika ithuba lokwakha ubudlelwane obudibeneyo.

Nangona kunjalo, kukho ezinye iingcebiso eziza kukunceda ukuba uphucule imeko nokuba nje kuphela ngexesha eliya kubakho ukuyicombulula ngakumbi.

Uhlobo lokuqala lwesisombululo luthembeke kakhulu, kodwa amadoda akavumi ukuvuma. Iqule kumyeni ngokwakhe eyakha imida phakathi komama kunye nentsapho yakhe entsha. Umama wakhulisa unyana wakhe, ixesha lokuphumla kwaye uziphilele. Unyana ngokwakhe unako ukuzinyamekela kwaye uphendule imibuzo eninzi yobomi bemihla ngemihla kunye nolwalamano lwentsapho. Ukuba umama akayikuqonda le nto, kubalulekile ukwakha umgama wengqondo ngokwenza umgaqo: "Ndiyayiqonda, kodwa andiyi kwamkela!" Ukuze kube lula, umyeni unokukwazi ukuthetha ibinzana elinye elikuqala eliya kuthintela yonke imizamo yomama ukuthetha kakubi ngomfazi wakhe okanye ukunyuka ngamacebiso kunye nokuziphatha . Umzekelo, inokuba ibinzana: "Mama, ndiyiqonda imbono yakho kwaye ndiyabonga ngcebiso, kodwa ndicinga ngokuhlukileyo, kwaye ndiya kwenza njengoko ndicingayo." Kubaqalayo, awukwazi ukusho: "Siyakholwa ..." Ukuba uninazana wakhe unenzondelelo kumalokazana wakhe, kuya kuba njenge-red rag yenkomo yakhe.

Ngelishwa, akusoloko abantu besecaleni lomfazi, ngamanye amaxesha bemi ngecala lomama baze baqale ukuthetha nale mbini. Inkxalabo kulolu hlobo lolwalamano aluphepheki. Ngaphezu koko, kukholelwa ukuba umfazi ongenakho izifo akakwazi ukuhlala kuloo meko ixesha elide. Uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo lubangela izilonda, i-gastritis, ukulahleka kwesisu kunye neentlungu zokuqala. Le meko ayikwazi ukunyanzeliswa ngokupheleleyo ukuba loo nto ibhinqileyo ebomini bakhe. Kwaye nangona kungekho nkonzo ekhululekile okanye engancinci yengqondo kwindawo yakho, kuyafaneleka ukuthetha neengcali zengqondo ze-intanethi nokufunda iincwadi.

Kukho kuphela inani elincinci lokukhetha ukulungisa ingxaki yezilwanyana ezimbini-indoda kunye noninazala-inxalenye yecala, oko kukuthi, umfazi. Enye kukunceda uninazala ukuba akhethe ubomi bomntu. Njengomthetho, abasetyhini, abakwazi ukuxabana kunye nomona kubantwana babo, kunzima kakhulu. Kanti kuyafaneleka ukujonga iindlela zokuqinisa ubudlelwane bawo kunye noyise womthetho. Kwaye ukuba akukho mkhwenkwe-mkhwenkwe, kulungele ukuzama ukumnceda ngamadoda. Futhi unobtrusively and without tips. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukusekwa kobomi bomama kamama-mkhwenkwe, okwelizwe lethu lincinane ngexesha lokukhula kwonyana, lunceda ukulahla ingqalelo yakhe.

Enye indlela yokuxazulula ukungquzulana nomama-mkhwenkwe ngumfazi kukufumana indawo ecacileyo kwi-hierarchy. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umfazi omncinci nomkhwekazi baxabana kwintsimi ukuba bahlala kunye. Kwaye unyana kunye nomyeni abaphazamisi umntu omnye, ekubeni unina olawulayo wamfundisa ukuba "uhlale ethule". Kule meko, indawo echanekileyo kwi-family hierarchy yomfazi yindawo yesibini. Oko kukuthi, kufuneka wenze unyoko ube ngumbindi wokwenza isigqibo, ube ngowona wesibini kakhulu, kwaye umyeni uya kuqhuba izihlandlo zombini. Iinzame zokumvimbela umyeni wakhe, ukunyanzelisa ukubonisa umsebenzi kunye nokwenza izigqibo kwintsapho enjalo - le yindlela kuphela yokubangela ingxabano ngakumbi. Emva koko, kuvela ukuba umfazi weza kwindlu entsha kunye nomqulu wakhe, kwaye uzama ukulungisa ubuhlobo phakathi koomama nendodana eye yaphuhlisa iminyaka. Le ndlela ayifanelekanga kwiintsapho apho umama-mkhwenkwe sele ebonakalise iimpawu zokuziphatha, ukungafundwa kwintetho kunye nezinye iimpawu zobuntu be-psychopathic.

Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kukufanelekile ukukhankanya malunga nomntu wesithathu kwingxabano-malunga nomamazala. Ukusuka kuye, imbambano yokuhlalisana ngokuzinzileyo kweengxabano incike ngaphezu kweyona ndodana. Kulolu hlobo nje luhlelwe ukuba umama-mkhwenyana akancinci kunokuba oonyana babo baye kuxolelana okanye bazame ukuzibamba. Nangona kunjalo, le yindlela yokwenene yokusombulula ingxaki. Ukuba unyokokazi wakho evela emhlabeni, kwaye ubona ukuba unyanisekileyo kwiinjongo zakhe, kwaye akazami ukukusebenzisa, ungalokothi uthinte ukuthetha. Ngokuqhelekileyo le ndlela iyindlela elula kwaye iyisebenzisayo yokusombulula zonke iingxaki kwibudlelwane naye kunye nendodana yakhe!