Akusiyo imfihlo ukuba amadoda ethu anamandla ayesaba ngabafazi abaqinileyo abakhulisa abantwana babo kuphela, basebenza emsebenzini omhle, kwaye bayaziqhenya ngokuba bodwa. Kubonakala kum ukuba ngeli xesha, abaninzi abafazi bakholelwa ukuba umntu ungumthwalo kubo. Ngokukodwa xa umntu esela okanye engasebenzi, ngoko kuya kuba lula ukuba ibhinqa libe yedwa kunomntu onjalo, kwaye ngokuzibandakanya umfazi uqala ukukholelwa ukuba enye ibulula kwaye kulula. Yaye kunye neengcinga ezinjalo baqala ukuqonda yonke iminqweno namaphupha abo. Kancinci bayeka ukufuna uncedo lwabanye, kuba abafazi abanjalo baqala ukuhlala kumgaqo othi "akukho mntu uya kwenza ngcono kunami", kulula ukuba benze into kunokuthembela komntu, kuba, xa esenze umsebenzi ngokwakhe, uyaqiniseka , ukuba umsebenzi wenziwa nge-bang. Abasetyhini abanjalo abasetyenziswanga ukwamukelwa uncedo lwabantu, kwaye amadoda awanamdla wokunceda loo mfazi.
Kwaye sithetha nentombi yakhe, sathintela kuzo zonke iingqungquthela ezixhalabisa isiqingatha sentombi esipheleleyo seMhlaba, okokugqoka, apho uhamba khona kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, amadoda. Sathi le ntokazi ibuthathaka kwaye ihlala ifuna uncedo, nokuba yinto ephathekayo okanye ngokomoya. Sathetha kwesi sihloko ngokuchanekileyo kuba nguye kuphela ovelisa umntwana, kwaye uncedo kuye aluyi kuba khona.
Ngokwemvelo kakhulu umntu othobekileyo kunye nomntu ongenalwazi ongenalwazi ongacela uncedo lwabantu, kwaye akabonakali ukuba ufuna uncedo. Kwakudingeka ukuba loo mntu ngokwakhe aya kuqaphela oko akufunayo kwaye wayinike yona ngaphandle kwezicelo. Nangona kunjalo, ukulindela "imozulu yemozulu" ayikho ixesha okanye amandla, kufuneka uphile kwaye uphile. Kwaye, ngandlela-thile, ukholelwa ukuba ukucela uncedo kumadoda kungaphantsi kwesidima sakhe. Nangona kunjalo, abanye abantu bakwazi ukufumana uncedo nangona bengayidingi. Akufunwa nhlobo. Uncedo, izipho, uhambahamba, iivenkile - bonke bangazifumana ngaphandle kokubuza. Kwaye bayamkela konke, becinga ukuba baxabisa kakhulu kunoko. Kwenziwa njani oku? Kutheni umntu ebuza kwaye engamkeli, kwaye ngubani ongaceliyo, kodwa uyafumana?
Kungekudala, umhlobo wakhe wamemela e-phesheya ukuba aphumle, kwaye wandixelela ngoku. Wajika nje waba ngumfazi ongenakunceda ongenakukwazi ukufikelela ngaphandle. Wathi wayengenakukwazi ukuzithengela kwaye engayikuziqhayisa ngohambo oluzayo, njengoko ekhubaza ukuba ayifumaneki. Emva koko wamkela isimemo sokuphumla ngeendleko zakhe. Akazange azenze njengowesifazane ongenakunceda, kwaye waba yinto yesibini yokwahlukana, ethi akakwazi. Kutheni abafazi beba namandla, ngaloo ndlela badikibala amadoda kunye nokunyamekela kwabo kunye nokuncedisa, ukuba kulula ukuba ngokwakho, kuba ngumfazi obuthathaka, ube ngowakho, kwaye emva kwemizuzwana nje isimemo sikhwameni sakho? Ngaba kulula ukubuthathaka? Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo ibhinqa likwazi ukuqina, kodwa kunzima ngakumbi ukuba ungubani. Amandla ebuthathaka. Kufuneka kuphela ukuba buthathaka kwaye amadoda aya kuwa ematakeni ukuze ancede ababuthathaka. Nguwo amandla. Kodwa ukuba awuziboni njengobuthakathaka, ubuncinane uzenza ngathi ubuthathaka, ukufumana uncedo kunye nokunakekelwa kwamadoda, ube nobuqili, ungaqhayisi. Emva koko, umfazi kufuneka abe nobuqili, angabi namandla. Kwaye umfazi kufuneka azi ukuba amandla anobuthathaka.
Naliphi na umntu oyoyika umfazi ophumeleleyo. Ukuba ibhinqa liqhuba iLexus, kwaye yiTeven kuphela, ngokoqobo, iya kuhlakulela i-inferiority complexes. Kwaye ngenxa yesizathu esithile kwihlabathi lethu akukho nto (mhlawumbi ikhona, kodwa encinci kwaye andizange ndibonwe njalo), ukuba emva kokuba umntu onjalo azame ukuba ngcono kunowesifazane, ngesizathu esithile uqala ukummona aze amthiye. Kwaye ngenxa yoko, kungekhona amadoda kuphela, kodwa amadoda anamandla ayesaba abafazi abanamandla .
Elizweni lethu, ilizwi elibhekiselele kwintombi liyaziwayo, "kwaye kwindlu yokutshisa iya kungena kwaye ihashe iya kumisa emncintiswaneni." Ngaba akuyena umthwalo womntu ukungena kwindawo yokutshisa kunye nokulondoloza emlilweni umfazi okhwaza uncedo kuloo ndlu kunye ne-squeals? Ngaba akuyena umsebenzi womntu wokumisa ihashe emncintiswaneni ukugcina umfazi ohlala ehashe? Ngaba amadoda ethu anamandla alahlekelwe amandla? Hayi, bahlala bekhululekile, kuba loo ntokazi inokuyenza yonke into, kuba inamandla. Uya kukhonkwane isikhonkwane, uya kupheka aze alungiselele, uya kumbeka umntwana ukuba alale, kwaye uza kuzisa imali efanayo endlwini. Yaye yintoni umntu okwenzayo ngeli xesha? Kwaye isiqingatha sethu esinamandla sigubungela umbhede nokudlwengula iTV. Thina sibuthakathaka siye saqhelana nokuqineka ukungazi, ukuzenza ngathi unamandla. Andiyi kukumangaliswa ukuba ilizwi elimalunga namabhinqa liza kutshatyalaliswa kungekudala "umfazi wokwenene kufuneka enze izinto ezintathu ebomini bakhe: utyala umthi, wakhe indlu, uzalele intombi" ... kwaye kutheni kufuneka sibe nendodana? Ukuba intombi ingenza okufanayo?
Kwaye ekuxubeni ngohambo lwakhe lwexesha elizayo, wathi, abaninzi baya kuba ngabafana abaya kukulungele ukuhlawula uhambo lwakho phesheya ... okanye amadoda okwenene. Nangona kunjalo ndikholelwa ukuba kumntu wonke indoda yangempela ilala, ngubani ongakulungele ukuhlawula uhambo oluya phesheya, kodwa bonke ubomi bethu, obuqulethe kuphela ubuhle bee-salons kunye nama-boutiques abizayo. Umfazi kuphela ufuna ukuba ngumfazi wangempela, oko kukuthi, umfazi obuthathaka, kodwa kuqala ukhawule umntu ngokufanelekileyo, oya kuba ngumntu wangempela wavuka. Kwaye ngoko ebomini bethu akuyi kuba namadoda azimisele ukuhlawula, kodwa kuya kuba namadoda okwenene aya kuba alungele ukusiphatha.