Ingaba malunga nomntwana wesibhozo ukuya kweyesibhozo unemiqondiso yesinye isantlukwano se-disorder, igama eliqhelekileyo elivakala ngathi "ukukhathazeka kweengxaki." Ukuxilongwa kudlalwa ngamazwi omama ngokuphathelele "ukuhamba kunye nokukhathazeka" okungavamile komntwana, ukuba "akunakwenzeka ukujamelana nayo, akunakwenzeka ukuzinqabisa. "Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kungumqondiso ongeyonto eninzi njengengxaki yokungathandabuzeki kwabazali. Kulungile njani ukuziphatha" ngokugqithiseleyo "okanye ukunyanzeleka (okwenzela iimeko zeengqondo) umntwana? Akufanele nanini agcinwe phantsi kwendawo, kufuneka ahlangabezane nazo zonke iindawo eziqhelekileyo zobomi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana aqeqeshe ngamanye amaxesha ukuqeqesha amandla akhe okubuthathaka ukuba agxininise kwiimeko "ezikufutshane nokulwa." Ngelo xesha, akukho nhlobo "unokuvumela konke", ngokubhekiselele ebukhosini be-syndrome. "Ewe, akanakuhlala nje!" - uthi umama kwikliniki, onyana wakhe ugijimela kwikorori kwaye unqongqoza ithoyilo ezindongeni, ecasula abanye kunye nokuthintela oogqirha ukuba bangamkeli. Kwaye kutheni umntwana ofanayo ehleli kwiiyure ezimbini kwikhompyutheni okanye ukhangele iibhotole yonke imini? Ukunyaniseka (kwanokufunyanwa ngutitshala) akusiyo isifo, kodwa imeko yentsholongwane yomntwana onikwe umntu. Makhe siqwalasele imizekelo. Ukungaziphathi kakuhle kunye neengxaki ezingabonakaliyo kubantwana - isihloko sesicatshulwa.
Silindele kumgca
Ukuhlala okanye ukuma kusekho uvavanyo kuye nawuphi na umntwana. Hlalani nilungele ukulungiswa kwe-prophylaxis "yokuhlaselwa koxinzelelo".
♦ Iqoqo elincinci nelula, kodwa linxulumene nomnye ngentsingiselo yamathoyizi. Ngokomzekelo, idonsa enesitya seengubo kunye nebhegi yokulala, i-transformer, isethi yamatywina kunye nephepha elithile ...
♦ Ekhanda lomzali kukho imidlalo emininzi ekhoyo kumntwana ngokudala kunye nomhle, apho ungayidlala khona okanye uhleli. Umzekelo: "Yintoni elayishiwe kwi-steamer?" "Yintoni oyifunayo, ngoko thabatha," yebo "kwaye" cha "musa ukusho ..." njalo njalo.
♦ Misela entsha (ebantwaneni) incwadi eqaqambileyo ingabonwa kwaye ixoxwe ngayo.
♦ Kubalulekile ukunyamekela umdlalo ongenakugwemeka ngokuphambili. Ngokomzekelo, thabatha idonsa ezimbini okanye iimoto ezimbini ukuphepha iingxabano, kwaye uxoxe nomntwana imida evumelekileyo: "Kuyakuthi kube khona ukudlala, kodwa kuphela kwindawo eboniswa yimi kwaye ngokuthula."
Imicimbi yenkcubeko
Kule midlalo, abantwana abanomdla abakwaziyo ukuhlala ngisho nokudlala kwezingane. Esi akusona isizathu sokunqaba ukunikezelwa. Ngaphambi kwexesha, qaphela ukuba indawo yakho iphezu komgca kwaye unako ukuhamba nanini na. Mhlawumbi, ngokuqala, umntwana unento eyodwa kuphela - ufumene ukubonakala kwakhe. Kwixesha elizayo, njengoko umntwana ekhula, thintana naye: "Kukho ithuba lokuhamba, lithandekayo, uyayimisa njani, kulungile ukuba uchithe imali kunye nexesha?" Musa ukuthatha uxanduva kumntwana, makhe azame. Kwizinto zokutya kunye neeholide, abantwana abaxhamlileyo bahlala bexakeka, kwaye ke ziba zizinto ezinengqondo kwaye zize zenze iingqungquthela.Iziqhamo akufanele zithwale iimeko ezinjalo, nokuba iholide ihlonipheke kakhulu kwaye ibonakale. Ingane kufuneka ikwazi ukuba ukuba ufuna ukuqhubeka, kuya kufuneka 'azigcine ezandleni.'
Siya kutyelela
Ngaphambili, kwindawo ezolile, xubusha imiqathango yokutyelela: "Ukanina uZina akayithandi ukuthatha izinto kwi-sideboard yayo. Qinisekisa ukuba ubuze. "" Inja kaJack ayikwazi ukuxinwa kunye nokucinywa. Ukuba umntwana uqhubeka ephule yonke imigaqo, khawuleza umxelele indlela othukuthele ngayo ngokuziphatha kwakhe, ecaphukile, indlela ongonwabi ngayo. Akazange acinge ukuba kuyimfuneko ukugcina imida echazwe ngokucacileyo-kwaye nakhu umphumo. Ngexesha elilandelayo, kunika umntwana wakho ukhetho: a) awuyi kutyelela: b) uhamba u tyelele, kodwa ulandela imigaqo: c) awuyigcini imithetho kwaye uyonakalisa ukuzonwabisa kwakho, abazali kunye nabanikazi bendlu. Ngamanye amaxesha ukhulise "hyperdynamics" ngamanye amaxesha uyayenqaba ngokucacileyo: "Kungcono ukuba ndihambe, kodwa andinakulibamba, ndiphule into ethile, kwaye u-Unina uZina uya kuphinda ahlasele."
Kwibala lokudlala
Ucasula wonke umntu okanye uphazamise yonke into. Ncedisa umntwana: hlaziya umdlalo kunye nabantwana abaninzi, apho uya kulandela khona imithetho. Musa ukukhathala ngokuchazela nokubonisa imigaqo ye "hostele yentlabathi": "Kufuneka ucele ngomnye umdlalo", "Ukuba ufuna ukudlala kunye naye, landela imigaqo." Imeko ayisekho yolawulo? Ngokukhawuleza thabatha umntwana ngaphandle kwesiza ngamagama: "Ngelo xesha kwakungekho uxolo loxolo, ngoku sihamba." Ngomso siya kuphinda sizame kwakhona. "Kuze kube yinto esebenza ngayo njengoko kufanelekile."
Kwi venkile
Masithi ngokukhawuleza: akukho xhaphalo olulungileyo lugqithisa i-shop hysteria yezingane, xa kuvela umsindo ovela kwintsana: "Ahhh! Kuphela nje ngenxa yeephambeko zokufundisa zabazali. Kungcono ukuba ungathabathi abantwana abancinci kwiindawo ezisezantsi, kuninzi kakhulu ezinokuthi zenzeke, izinto ezininzi eziphazamisayo. ukungena kwisitolo) yonke into ixoxisana ngokuthe ngqo: "Kulo venkile siza kuthengela into yokukhetha itiye ngokukhetha kwam, kunye neswidi enye kuwe - ngokukhetha kwakho." Ukuba uthe watsho njalo, lungela ukuthenga enye yeyona candy enkulu okanye ebiza kakhulu. "Siza kuthenga ithoyilo. Enye, kwaye ingabi ngaphezu kwamahlanu i-hryvnia. "Xa umntwana eqonda ukuba amagama akho abonisa ngokuchanekileyo oko kuza kwenzeka ngokwenene, akuyi kuba namathandle." Ukubuza imibuzo: "Kodwa oku akunako ukuthengwa? "U Kufuneka ube yi-philosophical-community society, ufuna ntoni?