Kuza kuzo zonke amaxesha ahlukeneyo, le minyaka yobudala "yintoni? Njani? kutheni? kwaye kutheni? ". Omnye kwiminyaka emibini okanye emithathu, umntu oneminyaka emihlanu, kodwa uninzi-malunga nezine. Kwaye ukubonakaliswa kwesibhakabhaka sokufuna ukwazi komhlaba kuya ekupheleni kweminyaka emithandathu okanye eyisixhenxe ... okanye akakho. Kufana nokuba ngubani onenhlanhla. Abanye, ukuba baye esikolweni, bafumane iimpendulo ezininzi kwiimbuzo abazange bazibuze, kwaye bayeke ukubuza. Abanye baqhubeka befuna iimpendulo, kodwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo: bayiguba nge-intanethi, bafunde kwiimbobo ze-encyclopedia, baqhube iimvavanyo baze bazakhele iingcinga zabo ... Yiyiphi imeko oyithandayo? Mhlawumbi okwesibini. Ukufuna umdla womntwana uye waba nomdla wophando, kufuneka ukwazi okuninzi kwaye wenze okungakumbi.
Ubudala obuhle
Ikhulu lamawaka "kutheni" ukubonakala entloko yakho karapuza kukubonakalisa ukuba ulungele umsebenzi ogcweleyo wengqondo. Kwiminyaka emithathu nantlanu, abaninzi abantwana sele basebenzise izixhobo zenyama, yengqondo, yengqondo nezentetho kule nto. Ngoku umntwana usenako ukwenza into emdlalayo. Kwaye uhlobo lokuthintana nabantu abadala luyahlukahluka: utshintsho kwimisebenzi eqhelanisiweyo yokusebenza luvela kwi-ranting. Kule minyaka umntwana uqala ukuqonda ukuba izinto ezininzi azilula nje njengoko zicinga, kwaye uzama ukungena kwizinto ezibalulekileyo, kubuza imibuzo emininzi. Kodwa amava akhe nolwazi akwanele, ngoko ufuna umthombo onolwazi lolwazi. Igunya eliyinhloko kuye. Ngako oko, intshaba yemibuzo iwela kuwe. Phendula! Ukudibanisa neminye imithombo, funda ukufumana iinkcukacha kunye nedatha yonke indawo. Khumbula: kwiminyaka engama-6-7 umntu adala isiseko seengcamango zehlabathi, ubuchule buvulekile kwaye bubonakaliswe ngokucacileyo, indlela yokuziphatha kunye nokufunda isetyenziswe. Oko kukuthi, ingundoqo yomntu yenziwa.
Ukuguqulwa kombuzo
Ekuqaleni, inkunzi ibumba imibuzo ngesitayela esithi "oku ndithetha nje, ndiyabonisa." Njengomthetho, akaceli ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa ucinga ngokuvakalayo ngento okanye into enomdla kuye. "Kutheni iintlanzi zihamba? Ufuna ukubona yonke into? "Incinci ayifuni impendulo, kodwa umama noba ngumqondiso: indlu inesizathu. Masinyane uqale ukuphendula. Akuyimfuneko ukuthetha malunga nokuveliswa kobukumkani bezilwanyana kunye nesakhiwo sephiko. Ixesha eliza kuza. Ngoku kubalulekile ukuxhasa nje ingxoxo: "Ndicinga ukuba bafuna ukuza. Kwaye bafuna ukutya. " Ukuba emva kwempendulo yokuqala ininzi yemibuzo yokucacisa yawa, yonke into iyahlelwa. Ingane ukubuza imibuzo emininzi kuyimfuneko ukuphuhlisa njengoko kuyimfuneko.
Ngaphandle kokuphawula
Akunabo bonke "kutheni" kungenxa yezidingo zeengcinga ze karapuza. Ngamanye amaxesha bathetha malunga nezinto ezikhathaza umntwana, malunga neengxaki zakhe zangaphakathi. Inyaniso yokuba i-kryotuli ayithethi emphefumlweni iboniswa ngemibandela engenanto, ngoluvo lwakho, ephindaphinda amaxesha amaninzi, nangona xa kucaciswa ngokucacileyo. "Kutheni umbhede?" Ucela umntwana. "Yiyiphi inkohliso othetha ngayo!" - Umama uphendula kwaye uyaqhubeka enza ishishini lakhe. Okanye: "Uphi ugogo wethu?" - Ngesihlandlo sesihlanu ulandelelana. "Ndixelele: kwi-dacha. Namhlanje kuza. Yanele ngokwale nto! "- umsindo uhlala kuwo onke amagama. Lindela ukuthukuthela. Zama ukucacisa izithembiso zomntwana. Kwimeko yokuqala, uva oku okulandelayo: "Ndiphulaphule," "Masidlale!" Okanye "Ngaba uyandithanda?" Kwesibili: "Ndifuna ukuthetha ngogogo. Ndimkhumbula "okanye" Ngaba undibona? "Ukunyamezela okunamandla kukufakazela kwakhona ukwandisa uxhalaba. I-crumb kufuneka ivewe ukuba akukho nto itshintshile kwimigangatho emihlanu edlulileyo, ukuba konke kulungile kwaye ugogo uya kuza ngokuqinisekileyo. Njani ukuba? Nika wonke umsebenzi kwaye uthathe ixesha ngesizathu esithile. Qamba, ufunde, udlale, uthetha ngogogo, emva koko. Uhlobo luni ludaka ayenalo, luyintoni ekhulayo apho, kwiyiphi imoto eya kuza kuyo. Izingane zibuza imibuzo eninzi nje ukuba zizenzele ngokwabo uthando. Buyisela ukuvisisana nentliziyo yengane.
Malunga neempendulo zeempendulo
Kutheni ufuna ukuba unzulu kakhulu ngokuxhatshazwa? Ewe, ukuba ungumthombo wolwazi, ngeendlela ezithile nokuba injini yenkqubela yakho yintsikelelo, sele uyayazi. Kodwa kuvela, ukuphendula imibuzo yengane, uyanelisa nayo imfuno yakhe yentlonipho! Nantsi! Inyani yinto yokuba umntwana oye waziqhawula ngaphandle kwenkxaso eqhelekileyo yokubonakalisa, ekungeneni kwendawo yokucinga, ucinga ukungaqiniseki kakhulu. Yaye nayiphi na inzululwazi evela kubazali, ukuhleka okanye ukungafuni ukuphendula isicaphulo kunye nomsindo. Kodwa xa umama okanye i-pan befakiwe kwingxoxo, baphulaphula ngokucacileyo baze bachaze yonke into, kubonakala ngathi yena wakhula. Emva koko, ukuzithemba kwakhe kwanda. Ngendlela, ukunyaniseka kwabazali kwanegalelo kule nto, abangenamahloni ukuvuma ukuba bakude nolwazi lwe-encyclopedic. Baye bacebisa ukuba bafune iimpendulo kunye. Le ndlela yokuziphatha ipholile. Okokuqala, umntwana uya kwandisa ithemba kuwe. Okwesibini, i-karapuz iya kuqonda ukuba akuyiyo imbiza ephambili etshiswayo kwaye nayo ingaba nengqiqo, njengabantu abadala. Okwesithathu, umntwana ufunda nje ngezinye iindlela zokukhipha ulwazi, kwaye le nto sele isetyalo-mali lokwenene kwikamva lakhe. Naphezulu. Infinite "kutheni?" - i-barometer yokuzithemba. Ngoxa bekunjalo, ukholelwa kwiinkcukacha zakho kunye nokukwazi ukuchaza yonke into ehlabathini, ukunceda kuyo yonke into. Ungumxhasi othembekileyo kunye nenkxaso, unokuza usebenza ngeengxaki uze ufumane isisombululo ... Ingxabano enzima yokuchitha ixesha lakho namandla ekufuneni inyaniso? Inqwenela kulula ukutshabalalisa. Uyazi iresiphi: ungaphenduli, uphese eceleni, uhleke "ubuyatha," ugxininise "ukungabikho." Yaye indlela yokuvuselela? Zibuze. Ngamanye amaxesha kunjalo nje, ngaphandle kwesizathu: "Kutheni ufuna iipumlo?" Kutheni unamazinyo amhlophe? Uphi imvubu ehlala kuyo? "Nangona umntwana ecinga ngeempendulo, phumla uze uqokelele iingcamango zakho phambi kokutshayelwa kwe-pacifier ngokutsha kwemibuzo emitsha.
Phambili, ngenyaniso!
Ayikho yonke imibuzo efuna ukuphendulwa. Kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye kunomdla wokubafumana bonke.
1. Phendula umbuzo ngombuzo. Akunjalo, kodwa rhoqo. Ukhetho olufanelekileyo kukuba "Ucinga ntoni?", "Ucinga ntoni ngale nto?"
2. Thatha ingqalelo zonke iingcamango zomntwana. Eyona minye imnandi. Kwaye phambili: ngamanye amaxesha ukunyusa, ngamanye amaxesha kuyashukumisa. "Uthi intloko igqoke iingubo zoboya ukuze ivuselele? Okanye uthanda nje umbala? "
Ncokola, xubusha, cela uncedo kwimithombo eyahlukeneyo yolwazi. Uyakhumbula: kwingxabano, inyaniso iyazalwa. Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana uyazi oku. Emva koko uya kufunda ukuba anganelisekanga encinci, kodwa ukuba afune ubunzulu bezinto. Kwaye oku kukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ucela imibuzo eninzi ngenzuzo. Kwaye kuya kuhlala kutheni ... umntu omdala kwaye ubalulekile.