Ngoko ke, ingxaki yothando lomzali namhlanje ifanelekileyo. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo kukho imeko ezimbi zokubulala umntwana wakho, ukuphosa ngaphandle, njl. Umsebenzi onzima ukufunda ukuziphatha okufanayo, kunye nokuchasene, ukufumana iimvakalelo zengqondo nezengqondo eziya kusikhokelela ekujoliseni. Kodwa ke sakwazi ukufumana imigaqo ethile, yinto yokwakhiwa kweengxenye zengqondo zothando lwabazali, kwakunye neemeko ezifunekayo ukuze ziphumeze.
Yintoni uthando lwabazali? Abaninzi beengqondo kunye nabafilosofi baye bazama iminyaka emininzi ukuba bafumane impendulo ethile malunga nale mvakalelo, kwaye ixesha ngalinye lihlukile. Olu luhlobo olukhethekileyo, oluqaqambileyo, oluphakamileyo luthando, abantu abaninzi abayibona njengesipho esona siphambili nesilonwabo, ezingenakufaniswa nezinye iintlobo zothando ezaqondwa ngaphambili. Ukuba ngumzali kukuba ube ngumntu onwabileyo kwaye uyavuzwa ngeli thuba-ukuqonda ulonwabo lokwenene. U-Sukhomlinsky uthe uthando lomzali lukwazi ukuziva iimfuno ezingokomoya ezilungileyo kunabo bonke ngentliziyo. Enyanisweni, phakathi kwabantu abanothando kukho ukuxhamla kwamandla okhethekileyo, intuition, umnqweno wokusondela. Kodwa abanye kwisigama sabo bagxininisa ukuba umntu akanako ukuqonda uthando lwabazali kuphela njengengqondo, kuba, ngokwenene, uthando luquka izinto ezithile, kuba ukuba uziva nje, kodwa ungenzi nto kumntwana, ngoko le nto ayiyi kuba ubungqina bothando , - abaninzi bakholelwa.
Ngokudibanisa imiba eyahlukileyo yokujonga, sinokwazi ukubona izinto ezivela kuyo uthando lomzali. Isakhiwo sengqondo sinezinto ezine: iimvakalelo, njengamava kunye neemvakalelo malunga nomntwana, imvelaphi ephezulu kunye nokwamkelwa komntwana, ukuvavanya kwayo, ukusebenzisana komzali kunye nomntwana. I-Psychophysiological factor ibonisa ukukhanga komzali kumntwana, umnqweno wokusondelelana kwendawo kuye, ubunqweno bomzali, umnqweno wokumbamba, ukuthintela, uhlale naye kwaye ungabi yinxalenye. Kwizinto ezinengqiqo esizibhekiselele ekuqondeni uthando lomzali, intuition kunye nazo zonke izinto ezingenangqondo ezivela kumzali womntwana. Kwaye okokugqibela kukuziphatha, okubonisa ukuphumelela kwothando lomzali nokubonisa ubudlelwane, iintlobo zokuziphatha komzali kumntwana, ukunyamekela.
Isakhiwo esinjalo asisoloko sisebenza ngokusisigxina, kwaye oku kuya kuxhomekeke kwiminyaka, umntu ngamnye komnye wabazali. Ezinye izinto ezivela kwisakhiwo sengqondo zikwazi ukulawula abanye.
Inyaniso enomdla kukuba uthando lwabazali luneenkcenkcesho zesini, kwaye uthando lomama luhluke kakhulu kwintando kayise. Kuba umama ubonakaliswe ukwamkelwa okungenammiselo komntwana, ukunika umntwana ithuba lokubonisa uluvo lwakhe, kanti uyise ngokuphindaphindiweyo uyalahla intando yesininzi kunye nokulingana nomntwana. Kodwa sekude kubekwe ubungqina bokuthi ukukhula kwengqondo ngokubanzi kwengqondo kubantwana, omnye nomnye umzali kufuneka, kwaye akunakutsholwa ukuba oomama baphathisa abantwana ngakumbi kunabo bobawo, okanye ngokufanayo.
Ukuze ufumane ulwalamano olupheleleyo lwabazali, kunye nokuba luyilwe ngempumelelo, umntu kufuneka anelise iimpawu ezithile, ezifana nokukwazi ukuthanda nokwamkela kunye nabanye, ukukhula ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo ngamnye. Kukho imfuno emininzi "yomzali omhle" ofuna ukukhulisa umntwana wakhe ngokukhuselekileyo, ukudala izimo ezilungileyo kuye. Apha, izakhono ezahlukeneyo nezakhono ziqwalaselwa, ithuba lokunika umntwana konke okuyimfuneko kuye. Nangona sele ibonakaliswe ukuba yintando yomzali - oku kuyona nto imfuno umntwana adinga ngayo, kunye neyoyimfuneko ekuphuhliseni ngokupheleleyo kunye nempilo yengqondo.
Uthando lwabazali lunokuphuhliswa ngokukodwa ngeprogram ngokubunjwa kweengxenye zengqondo zothando lomzali. Apha umzali udala izimo zangaphandle ezizodwa ezibangela ukubunjwa kwenkqubo engezantsi yengqondo ngokuphathelele kwinkqubo yothando lomzali. Ikwaqwalasela nokuphuhliswa kwezi zimpawu kumzali. Xa ukwenza lolu hlobo lothando, into ebaluleke kakhulu, indlela umntu aphathwa ngayo njengomntwana, nokuba ngabazali bakhe babonisa uthando. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana bavame ukukopisha ukuziphatha kwabazali babo, iimpawu zabo, izibonakaliso nezenzo zobuso, kubandakanywa nembono yothando lomzali kunye nokubonakaliswa kwayo. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, cinga imfuno yabantwana bakho ukuba uqonde ukuba uyabathanda, ukuba bazive kwaye bahlale beyazi ukuba unokunyathelwa kuyo, ukuba ungumntu wabo osondeleyo, onothando kakhulu nothando. Emva koko uya kukwazi ngokufanayo kunye nothando lwabo, ukufunda ukuba le yinye, into enokuzithandabuza.