Kwiengqondo zanamhlanje, ngokuqhelekileyo zibhekiswe kwi-skazkoterapiya kubantwana abanzima. Nangona kunjalo, akuyena wonke umntu oqonda ukuba yiyiphi inqaku elithi "unyango lwezantshi" lithetha. Abaninzi bayakudibanisa ngokufunda iindaba zeengane kubantwana abanokwenyuka kweengqondo ezahlukeneyo. Enyanisweni, intsingiselo yonyango lwengqondo yamantombazana kubantwana abanobunzima ihlukile.
Iingcamango zonyango lonyango
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba i-skazko-therapy ihlobene ngokuthe kratya nobugcisa, ubuchwephesha nje kuphela busetyenziswa kwiimeko ezininzi zokukhanya. Abantwana banikezwa ithuba lokupenda into abavakalelwa ngayo kwaye bacingisise ukuze balwe nobunzima kunye noloyiko. Nangona kunjalo, xa abantwana behlala befumana imifanekiso efanayo enobudlova, ngoko kwikhosi baya kwi-skazkoterapiya. Ngokuqhelekileyo isetyenziswe ngokubanzi kubantwana abanzima kwiinkedama zeenkedama. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho iimeko apho ngoncedo lwale ndlela baphilisa izifo ezinogqirha abangenakukwazi ukuzijonga ngedibilism.
Ngoko, yintoni na unyango lwengqondo kumntwana onzima? Umntwana unikezwa umzobo wakhe kwaye ucelwa ukuba athethe malunga noko kwenzeke kulo mfanekiso. Abantwana kufuneka bajonge phambili kwimbali, bachaze yonke into eboniswayo, kwaye ebaluleke kakhulu, kutheni konke kukhangeka ngale ndlela. Enye yemisebenzi ephambili yesazi sengqondo kukuba ibonisa ukuba unomdla kumntwana othethayo. Ukuba oku kungenzeki, ke abantwana baqala ukungena ngokungathandabuzeki ukuba umntu ufuna iimbali zabo kwaye bayazibuza ngakumbi.
Indlela yokwelapha i-fairytale isebenza njani
Kutheni umntwana kufanele akhulume ngezinto ezenzekayo emfanekisweni wakhe? Enyanisweni, yonke into ilula kakhulu. Xa uthetha, zonke izinto ezibonakala zingenangxaki kwaye zingenathemba, ngokuthe ngcembe ziqala ukutshintsha, zikhule kwiinkcukacha, ezenza zibe ngcono kwaye zenzeke. Ngenxa yoko, ufika ngesiphelo esihle kwaye uloyiko lwakhe luqala ukuphela.
Omnye unokunika umzekelo ocacileyo wendlela unyango lwe-fairytale lisebenza ngayo. Omnye umntwana wapenda imithi etshisa. Kwomthi omnye kwakukho umquba, apho izilwanyana zaye zawa, zawela emlilweni. Kodwa xa waqala ukuqulunqa iindaba zobomi ngokuqhubekayo, kwimbali yakhe yabonakala iifubhethi, ezazikwazi ukubeka amaphiko emlilweni ngamaphiko azo. Ngaloo ndlela, umntwana washiya uloyiko lomlilo.
Ulwaphulo lwetale luvela kwi-Gestalt unyango. Umthetho osisiseko wale ndlela kukuba unokuyisa ukunkwantya xa uzalisa isenzo. Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Umntu uyatshiswa ngento ethile aze aqale ukuwujonga ngokugqithiseleyo. Ngako oko, ixesha ngalinye lisondela eloyikisayo, uzama nje ukukhusela imeko, uloyike ngakumbi. Kodwa ngexesha le-skazkoterapii umntwana udlula le ndawo eyoyikekayo kwaye uyaqonda ukuba emva koko inyaniso ayisekho. Into ephambili kukuba i-psychologist inokuyiqhuba ngoloyiko, inkxaso, kodwa ngelo xesha ayivumeli ithuba lokuphepha kwakhona kwimeko eyoyikisayo.
Bonke abantwana bathanda ukuxelela amabali. Kwaye wonke umntu owaziyo okanye ongaqondi kakuhle ufuna yonke into iphele kakuhle. Esi sisiseko sendlela yokwelashwa kwe-skazko. Umntwana, echazele ukwesaba kwakhe, ngenkxaso yesazi sengqondo, uzama ukuphela kokuvuyisa kwimbali kwaye xa kwenzeka, ukwesaba kupheliswa. Ngoko ke, xa usebenza nabantwana abanobunzima, isazi sengqondo se-psychologist kufanele sinike umsebenzi wokubonisa into ebenza babesabisayo, umzekelo, iintlekele. Emva kokuba umzobo ugqityiwe, kufuneka ucele umntwana ukuba athethe ibali malunga noko kwenzekayo kumfanekiso. Ukuba i-psychologist isebenza neqela labantwana, ngoko kufuneka asebenze inkcazelo yamagama kunye nelungu ngalinye leqela ngalinye. Ungafaki uxinzelelo kubantwana kwaye ufike ngokuphela kovuyo esikhundleni sabo. Nangona kunjalo, unokubuza imibuzo ephakamisayo njengale: "Yintoni enye eyenzekayo?", "Kutheni kwenzeke njalo ngale ndlela?", "Ngaba nantoni na iyakushintsha imeko?". Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba isazi se-psychologist sinceda umntwana ukuba aphumelele, kodwa akayilwa nendawo yokwesaba esikhundleni sakhe.
Ukunyangwa kwetale yindlela ejoliswe ekusebenziseni ukwesaba. Emva kokuba umntwana akwazi ukuhamba into into engamniki uxolo, unokuqhubeka nokuphila ngokuthula.