Abaninzi baye baqaphela ukuba kumaxesha adlulileyo ukufunda iincwadi ezahlukeneyo ziba ngaphantsi nangaphantsi. Ekubeni, ngokuqinisekileyo, abazali abaninzi abaqondi kakuhle? apho kuyimfuneko ukufunda iifriythi kubantwana. Kodwa akuyimfuneko ukulibala malunga nezithethe ukufunda iifriythi kubantwana bakho ngokuvakalayo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokuba kukho nawuphi na umculo wokurekhoda, kuya kufuneka ukuba ukhethe ukushicilelwa ngokuqhelekileyo, esikuqhelene nathi. Ngoko ke zeziphi izizathu zento ofuna ukuyifunda, xelela amabali ebusuku? Ewe, konke okusemandleni abo bangabancedisi bamama, mhlawumbi, ukukhuliswa kanzima komntwana. Emva kwakho konke, ngoncedo lwale okanye ibali, abantwana bakho baya kukwazi ukufunda into enomdla, entsha, ukufunda ukuhlala ngokuchanekileyo ngokuchanekileyo, kunye nokulahla ukwesaba kwabo. Kodwa ziziphi iincwadi ezifanele ukuthenga? Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba akunakulungele ukukhetha okushicilelweyo kakhulu. Emva koko, ukuze ufunde incwadi ethile, akufuneki ukuba ukhethe, ukuthenga izitya ezintsha. Kulula nje xa ukhetha oko, kuya kufuneka uhlawule ingqalelo ixesha elilodwa-ukubopha kwimeko enye, ngenxa yokuba isikhombi esiphezulu siya kuhlala ixesha elide. Emva kwakho konke, ukuze umntwana akuphulaphule ngokukhawuleza, imifanekiso eqaqambileyo ibalulekile.
Umyalelo kwindlu nangengqondo. Esinye sezizathu zokuqala ukufunda kubantwana naliphi na iindaba ezifihliweyo kukuba ukufunda ngokuvakalayo okunje kuya kunceda ukuhlaziya ihlabathi lomntwana wakho. Emva koko, umntwana uya kuqala kwaye aqonde into elungileyo, okanye ububi, kwaye uphi umgca phakathi kwabo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba, ngoomama, iimeko, ngakumbi ezo zichazwe kwincwadi, zibonakala zichithwa. Ngokuqinisekileyo phantse nawuphi na umntwana, akunandaba nokuba ibali ibali okanye ibali. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba le nkcazo igcwele iziganeko. Ukongezelela, iindaba zeentombi zizinto ezifanelekileyo kunye ezigqibeleleyo kumabonwakude. Ewe, kwaye ngokwemigaqo yabaninzi beengqondo zezingane, abantwana banamhlanje banomdla kakhulu, xa kuthelekiswa nezizukulwana zangaphambili. Isizathu sokuba konke oku kuhleli kude, eqhubekayo phambi kwesikrini seTV esikhona. Emva koko, ukuba iindaba zobufebe zikwazi kakhulu ukuhlakulela iimpawu ezintle kumntwana, esi sikrini senza kuphela ukunganakwa kunye nobugwenxa.
Imilinganiselo emihle. Uninzi lwabantu luyazi ukuba abantu abazalwanga ngembeko. Ngenxa yokuba kuya kufuneka bahlakulele kumntwana. Kwaye oku kuya kufuneka ukuba ufunde, uxoxe ngeengxelo zabantwana. Emva koko, uninzi lwabantu, abantwana kunye nabantu abadala baya kudibanisa kunye namaqhawe athile. Ewe, kunye nabalinganiswa bamisela umzekelo kumntwana wakho, okokufuneka kwenziwe, kwaye oko kungenjalo. Ukongezelela, abantwana abayithandi njengamanye amabali ebusheni bamama noodade. Kungcono ukhethe iindaba ezingamhlanje, okanye amabali anamagama adumile, aqhelekileyo njengoHarry Potter noPeter Pen, okanye uCaptain Jack Sparrow. Inkcazelo yamagama "Isizwe, ummi kunye nesilwanyana esincinci" ngumbhali omnye: uKim Fuks Okeson, uya kuba nako ukuphakamisa umba wabantwana abangaqhelekanga. Ngokukodwa, kwintsapho enye, balinda kakhulu umntwana wabo, kodwa esikhundleni sakhe inkawu yabonakala ngandlela-thile. Kwaye abazali banikezwa ithuba lokutshintsha lo mntwana. Nangona baqonda ukuba abantwana abangaqhelekanga bayona xabisa kakhulu, kakuhle, okanye banokuba njalo.
Ufundisa umama. Kuya kuba lunqweneleka ukufunda iincwadi ezinjalo ezichanekileyo nomntwana wakho. Ukongezelela, ukufunda amabali kubantwana kuya kuba luncedo kuphela kubabodwa ngokwabo, kodwa nabazali babo. Emva kwakho konke, amaninzi amaninzi afana namagqirha afundisa abaninzi oomama nootata ukuba banxibelelane nomntwana wabo othandekayo, kunye nokumfundisa. Olunye udaba lwefestile, olufana ne "Frog" kuYakobe uMartin Strid unokuxelela malunga nabanye abantu. Yaye ubomi obulinganisiweyo bendidi yamagqabi buphela ngokubonakala kwintsana engabonakaliyo. Apha u-scoundrel uhlala ecetyiswa ngenxa yezi zilandelayo, njengokuba uhlamba iincwadi ngeesepha kwaye ubeka ifowuni ehovini. Kwaye ukuxabana okuqhubekayo, ukuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo kukukhokelela kwesi siphumo, ukuba igqabi sinquma ukubalekela ekhaya ngokupheleleyo. Emva koko konke, emva kokufumana umntwana, abazali bathetha ukuvuma zonke iimpazamo zabo.
Lahla ukwesaba. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abantwana, kunye nabantu abadala, bacinga, bayesaba ukufa. Kwaye iindidi ezahlukeneyo zefilimu zingabangela ukwesaba kumntwana. Kodwa ngokwenene ingqondo yengane ayisakhiwa ngokuzeleyo, ngoko into kunye nokuxhalaba kuyingozi kakhulu kumntwana. Kwaye incwadi enjalo nguKim Fuks Okeson ngokuthi "Uhlobo loba ngumoya" linokukunqoba njani ukwesaba ukufa. Nantsi inkwenkwe uEsben kwaye uthi uyabona umfo kayise. Kwaye akukho mntu ukholwa nguye. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba kwiingxoxo zobusuku bakho umntwana ukhumbula ixesha elifanelekileyo lobomi, kwaye iingxoxo ezinjalo kunye noomkhulu zingachazela umntwana ukuba intlungu ethile inceda ukusinda kuphela imemori yothando yabantu abasondeleyo. Yintoni engabalulekanga ebomini.
Ukuphuhlisa ukucinga . Akukho imfuneko yokufunda le ngxelo. Emva koko, phakathi okanye isiphelo sinokushiywa kamva. Oku kukuthi umntwana ngokwakhe ufike kunye naye, okanye uzame ukuqulunqa umgca. Ngaloo ndlela ukucinga kuvela, kwaye umntwana ufunda ukuvakalisa iingcamango zakhe ngokuzwakalayo. Kwimeko xa uvala incwadi phakathi, unokutshatyalaliswa kamva kumntwana kwaye ukwesaba ukuthetha ngeengcinga zakho. Ngokukodwa, kuya kubakho ukufaka umntwana umnqweno wokuthetha kunoma yimuphi na uluntu.
Ukuphucula umsebenzi wengqondo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ngenxa yokufunda kubantwana ngokuvakalayo kwingqondo, izigidi ezihlukahlukeneyo ze-neuronal compounds zenziwe. Kungatsholwa ukuba oku kuphucula umsebenzi wengqondo. Ukongeza, ukufunda ngokuvakalayo kunconywa kubantwana abanokuphuculwa kwengqondo engapheliyo. Kwaye ngaphambi kokulala, kuya kuba ngcono ukunqanda kwiingxelo zefestile kunye naluphi na icebo lokuthula. Kwaye ngaphandle kokufunda ungadlala ibali. Emva kokudlala iziganeko ezivela kwiintandane zentandokazi yomntwana kuya kunceda anqobe kwaye abe neentloni. Ukongeza, isenzo sinokudlala kungekhona kwinqanaba, kodwa nakwibhodi lokudweba. Nangona ucinga ngenye into.
Lahla i-vagaries. Njengoko kuyaziwa, umntwana onomdla uba bobabili kwiminyaka eyi-3-4, nangenxa yemfundo engalunganga. Kodwa iindaba ziya kunceda ukujamelana nezingane ezingenakunqabileyo. Ngoko uhlakulela njani umva wokuthobela? Ewe unokumxelela ukuba emva kwamaphepha amabini eeklasiki ngosuku uya kuvunyelwa ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo. Emva koko, umntwana uya kuphuhlisa imida ethile yokuziphatha kwakhe, ngaphandle koko uya kuba yintsholongwane.
Akungabazeki ukuba iindaba zamabhongo zonyango oluthile kuzo zonke izifo. Emva koko, ibali lezintlu liyabancedisa abantwana abaqhelekileyo nabantwana abakhethekileyo abaneengxaki zabo. Yaye uluvo lokuba ukunyaniseka kwiminyaka engama-10 ubudala kuya kuba yisipho - nje nje ukukhohlisa. Emva kwakho konke, amandla omntwana angenakunqunyanyiswa kuya kufuneka avinjelwe. Ngokukodwa, kufuneka ijoliswe kwicandelo elithile elifanelekileyo. Inketho enkulu-ukufunda iincwadi ezahlukeneyo.