Ukususa oonxibelelwano, ukulahla izinto ezixhaswe, oku kuqhelekileyo kubantu abahlukeneyo. Amakhwenkwe, amaninzi, amantombazana amancinci malunga neengcambu, kwaye ukuba ayenzayo, azama ukuwafihla kwabanye, kunye nabo. Benza oko ngenxa yokuba iimvakalelo zothando, ngokombono wabo, ziphikisana nobume bendoda-kufuneka ibe namandla, ephikelela kunye nokuzola. Amantombazana, ngokuchasene noko, bahlala behluke kakhulu kwiintanda zabo, ngokukodwa ukuba iimvakalelo zazinjalo. Bangakwazi ukungena kwi-stupor, bakhonze ama-trinkets amancinci anikezelwe ngaphambili, okanye baqalise ubomi obutsha, ngokugcwele ngokuchaseneyo.
Ngoko kutheni amantombazana afuna ukubuyela kwixesha langaphambili?
Izizathu zokuthi kungani amantombazana enokushiya amadoda abo ngamanye amaxesha angaziwayo, ngamanye amaxesha anelungelo, kodwa akakwazi ukuhlala exolela abantu ngenxa yezenzo zabo, ubuncinane ukuxolelwa okunjalo kufuneka kubekho isizathu esihle kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, kunzima ukuxolela umntu ngenxa yokunyelisa, nangona kunjalo, njengowesifazane. Ugcina loo matyala, mhlawumbi uthando okanye imali, kwaye kunzima ukusho oko kusebenza ngakumbi. Intombazana, ukuba uyayithanda kakhulu indoda yakhe, inokuxolela ukunyeliswa kwayo kwaye ibuyele kuye emva kokuxabana, kodwa oku kuya kushiya into ebalulekileyo ekuthandeni kwabo. Le ntombazana, efuna ukuxhamla imali, iya kuba yinkxalabo yakhe, kwaye, njengokuba kunjalo, ukuxolela umntu, kodwa ukuxolelwa okunjalo akuyi kuba yinyani, ezayo iyakubandakanyeka nayiphi na into yokuthula.
Kwenzeka ukuba amantombazana alahle abafana bawo ngenxa yesimo sekhredithi yabo. Iintombazana ezimbalwa zingakwazi ukuhamba iminyaka emininzi kunye ne-wardrobe enye kwaye unelisekile kwihostela encinane erentiweyo ngaphandle komzi. Imeko enjalo ayikwazi ukugcinwa ngothando oluqinileyo, kuba indoda emehlweni enkosikazi kufuneka ibonakale njengenkxaso, i-getter, umntu ongeke ahlale yedwa, kodwa nabantwana babo. Ngenxa yoko, i-scandals rhoqo, ilungu ngalinye lentsapho liziva lihlazekile kwaye likhubekile. Umntu uvale yena ngokwakhe, kwaye ngenxa yoko ulahlekelwa amandla akhe okuziphucula ngendlela yezobugcisa. Umfazi usoloko ehlasela umntu ngeentlobo zonke zokuzenzela, nangona ufumana ubunzima bakhe, kodwa ukholelwa ukuba ukuhlaselwa yindlela ephela yokuvuselela intanda yakhe. Kuvela isangqa esichukumisayo, esingenakuwunqoba ibini nganye, kungaphinda kuhlangane emva kwekhefu. Kukho ukwesaba ukubuyela ekuxinezelekeni okuqhubekayo, intlupheko kunye nothando oluqinileyo kuphela lunokuluyisa.
Kukho amantombazana ashukumisayo adibana nomnye okanye omnye. Mhlawumbi abakwazi ukufumana lowo bafuna ukuyichitha yonke imihla yabo, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, abafuni ukuboshwa ngobudlelwane obunaphakade. Kule meko, isizathu sokuhlukana kunokunceda nantoni na, nokuba yinto ekhohlakeleyo yokuthenga i-chocolate tshilo. Nangona kunjalo, ukubuyela kulo mzekelo kungenzeke ngokungalindelekanga: intombazana inokukhathazeka ngumlingane omtsha okanye ibonakale ukuba nguyena, yedwa kuphela kunye naye kuphela okulungileyo, kodwa kwiimeko ezinjalo kunokwenzeka ukuba u-self-suggestion kwaye ayidluli kungekudala. Emva koko intombazana iphinda ibuyele kuphando. Mhlawumbi uya kumfumana elincinci.
Ngamanye amaxesha, abantu bahlukana ngeemeko ezibalulekileyo: iintsapho ezihambayo, umsebenzi omtsha onomdla, intlekele. Indlela abantu abanokuthandana ngayo, abakwazi ukutshintsha iimeko. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba intlungu yeemvakalelo ezifanayo zithe zavela ezintliziyweni zabo, ziya kuba zizama ukufumana omnye nomnye. Ngokukodwa kunokwenzeka ukuthetha ngabantu abathandekayo. Nangona iminyaka emininzi idlulile, intombazana inomnye umntu, mhlawumbi baze bakwazi ukutshata, uya kukhumbula uthando lwakhe lokwenene kwaye, ekuhlanganisweni kwabo, baya kuzama ukuzibuyisela kuye. Inyaniso kukuba akusoloko iqhubeka. Indoda inokuyeka ukuziva. Mhlawumbi unomdla kakhulu emsebenzini wakhe kangangokuba akanakuthandana nabani na. Okanye ubeka kwindawo yakhe yokuqala intsapho yakhe entsha, apho, mhlawumbi, abantwana babonakale. Kule meko, nangona kungenakuzisola, le ndoda izakuzama ukuvala uthando oludlulileyo emphefumlweni wakhe kwaye zizinikezele kubantwana bakhe, intsapho yakhe entsha.
Kuya kwenzeka kwaye-ke kukho intombazana ehamba phantsi esitrato ize ibone iphantsi kwayo kwenye. Kodwa wayekade emthanda. Wamnika izipho ezihle, wenza amaqanda aqhoqhozayo ekuseni, wamthabatha kwiifilimu, kwaye ngokubanzi babenandipha kunye. Kungenxa yintoni abaye baphikisana ngayo kwaye bahlukana? Kubonakala ngathi isizathu sihlala sisasazeka kwiindawo zezindlu. Ngoko uyisiphukuphuku. Kwaye ngoku uhamba wedwa, abanye abantu ngokuqinisekileyo bafanisa naye. Konke kubi. Lezi zihlwele ezimbi, ezicolileyo. Waya kunye nomnye. Ngaba uyahlupheka? Mhlawumbi, ewe, kuba uyazi ukuba uyamthanda. Yaye uyabuhlungu. Ngaba ixabiso? Mhlawumbi akunjalo. Ngaba iisokisi kunye neTeeks zibeka ulonwabo loluntu? - Kuyinto ehlekisayo. Kwaye lo mkhwele, kuba endaweni yentombazana kufanele ibe yinto. Ngoko ke, kwixesha elizayo, uzama kanzima ukufumana umfana wakhe wangaphambili. Okokuthi akafumani kwabanye, ngenxa yokuba unako abanye abangenako.
Ngenxa yoko, sinokuthi ukuba ngokuphindaphindiweyo abafazi babuyela kumntu wabo owayesithandayo okanye ngabayeni babo, belandela iimvakalelo zabo, ukunyanzelisa iintliziyo zabo. Bacinga ukucinga ngempilo yabo yangaphambili, bakhumbule iimpazamo zabo, iimpazamo zabo, bavavanye ukuba ezi mpazamo ziyonwabile? Ngokuqhelekileyo impendulo ayikho. Kukho amabhinqa aphezulu. Babuyela kumandulo, ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa yimpilo yabo, ubutyebi babo, ithuba lokuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo. Kwakhona kunokwenzeka ukubuyela ngenxa yokuba nomona kwabanye amantombazana. Emva kwakho konke, unokuvumela njani abanye ukuba babe nolonwabo xa ungenayo, kodwa bekuyixesha xa wayenaye. Abanye bathi abakwazi ukufumana abo baqabane. Baye baphumele emva kokukhangela, kodwa baqhelise ukuba baphumelele.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba unike impendulo engakumbi kumbuzo: kutheni amantombazana afuna ukubuyela kwixesha langaphambili? Ngokuqinisekileyo. Isizathu esona siqhelo uthando, oluya, nangona yonke imingcipheko, ludibanisa abantu.