Ekugqibeleni, ukuxilongwa akuyiyo into enzima kakhulu: enokuthi i-HIV ayithethi ukuba umntu ugula nge-AIDS. Umntu onentsholongwane kaGawulayo unokutshata kwaye abe nabantwana abasempilweni. Ngoko ke, ingxaki enkulu ye-HIV ihlale isondelelwano nabanye.
Kwiintsebenziswano nabantu abane-HIV, iingxaki zengqondo zingahlula zibe ziindidi zibini. Kwinqanaba lokuqala kuya kuba neengxaki zokuzithemba komntu, isimo sakhe sengqondo ngokuzimela kwakhe kunye nesimo sakhe esitsha. Ekuqaleni, abantu bafumana iimeko ezinzima kakhulu. Akasazi bani ukuba aphendukele uncedo kunye nenkxaso, akazi ukuba izihlobo zakhe nabahlobo bakhe baya kuthini. Ngeli thuba, nabani na ofunyanwe ne-HIV unxinezelekile. Mhlawumbi, umntu ovela kwiintsapho sele esazi ukuxilongwa. Kule meko, kufuneka axhase, abonise ukuba ubudlelwane abukatshintshi, kwaye loo mntu uyakuthandwa kwaye uyathandwa.
Iingxaki ezinxulumene nabantu abakujikelezile zivela kwiingxaki zangaphakathi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umntu unokucaphukisa okanye ecindezelekile. Iingxaki zeengqondo ekujonganeni ne-HIV kufuneka ziphathwe ngokwaneleyo kwinqanaba lokuqala lokubuyisela, xa umntu engazange asebenzise ingcamango yesimo sakhe esitsha. Ngeli xesha, unokuba yingozi kuye nakwabanye. Iingcamango ezinokwenzeka malunga nokuzibulala, ngokuziphindisela kumntu otyholwa. Kule meko, kufuneka uhlale unxibelelana nengcali yengqondo. Mhlawumbi, ukunxibelelana nabantu abaye banqoba iingxaki zeengqondo zexesha lokuqala kwaye baya kukwazi ukwabelana ngamava kuya kunceda.
Isimo sengqondo sabantu abangasondelanga kwaye bengenalo uthando ngenye icala lombuzo. Apha, njengoko akunakwenzeka ngendlela, ilizwi elithi "Umhlobo uyaziwa kwiinkathazo" yinyani. Kakade ke, ukuxilongwa - ukuphakama kwexabiso, ukufumana isimo sengqondo sengqondo kuwe kwabanye. Kuyakwazi ukuqondwa, umzekelo, ngokwenza isenzo esithile esingafaniyo nokulindele kwabanye. Ngoko kuvela ukuba emva komtshato okanye umtshato, utshintsho lwendawo yomsebenzi nomntu luhlala kuphela ngabantu abangayigxeli imbono yakhe kwaye abazizame ukuzibophelela zabo. Kuhlala kuzisola kukuba abanye bethu baxabise imbonakalo yabo ekhangelekileyo kwabanye ukuba abaqapheli indlela ababa ngabamba ngayo imibono yabo. Mhlawumbi kukho ukuxilongwa kwolu hlobo - uya kushiya kuphela abo bakuphatha kakuhle.
Umntu onentsholongwane kaGawulayo kufuneka afumane indawo entsha ebomini. Ingundoqo yokuxazulula iingxaki zengqondo kukuvuma indawo. Ngokwamukela ixabiso lobomi bomntu kunye nomntu ngamnye. Kungenzeka ukuba umntu kude kube mzuzu engaziqondi isizathu sokuba aphile, kutheni usebenza kule nto okanye loo nto. Esi sifo sinzima, kwaye le fowuni ayikwazi ukushiywa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo uza kufuneka utshintshe indawo yakho yomsebenzi, mhlawumbi ukuhamba. Kodwa musa ukufihla. Unako ukubalekela abantu, kodwa ungeke ubalekele kuwe kunye nengxaki. Abanye bangabakhohlakele ekujonganeni ne-HIV, kodwa le ntshutshiso idlalwa ngokungazi. Abantu abaninzi abafumene ukuba bangena ekukhanyeni basebenza. Babengesabi ukuthetha kumabonwakude, kumaphephancwadi, kwi-Intanethi baze baxelele esidlangalaleni ingxaki yabo. Njengoko kwavela, akubona bonke abantu abazange baphathe kakubi kule ngxaki. Ngokuqonda ngokwandisa kuluntu, ukuqonda kuyaqhubeka. Emva koko, ingxaki enkulu yokwenqatshwa ngabanye kukuba isifo sibonwa njengomqondiso wokuziphatha kakubi, ukwephulwa ngokwesini, ukuxhatshazwa kweziyobisi. Xa abanye beqonda ukuba emva kwabo kwintlekele kwakukho umntu oqhelekileyo, njengabo, ukugatywa kunika indlela yokuvelisa.
Iingxaki zeengqondo kwiintsebenziswano nabantu abane-HIV abavele nje ngenxa yesimo sengqondo esibi kwesi sifo kuluntu. Unokuchitha ubomi obungaphezulu kweyodwa uguqula uluvo lwabanye, mhlawumbi, kungekhona kwimeko enjalo. Kodwa kufuneka uqale kuqala ngokwakho. Ukuvalwa kwingxaki yabo kunye nokuxinezeleka yimiphumo yokwesaba. Umntu ukwesaba ukuhlaziswa nokugwetywa. Oku kwakhona kubonisa indlela umntu exhomekeka ngayo kwisimo sengqondo sabanye abantu kuye. Kuyakwazi ukujamelana nomngeni onzima kakhulu ngokukuqonda ukuzineliseka komntu. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uphinde ucinge ngesimo sakho sengqondo kwizinto ezininzi kwaye uyingxenye ezininzi. Omnye umele akhumbule ukuba nokuba ukuxilongwa okubi kakhulu akusipheli kubomi. Kungenzeka ukuba ubomi bunikeza ithuba lokubona amacala ayo amatsha.