Abaninzi bethu baqala ukucinga ukuba ukwahlukanisa, ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bethu, kuyafana nokulahleka okukhulu, zombini kunye nezinto zokomoya. Ngaphandle kokungena kwiinkcukacha zomtshato zomtshato, makhe sikhulume ngombono wengqondo, okungafanekiyo kwimiba enjalo ingabizwa ngokulinganisela okanye emvula. Eli nqaku liza kuthetha malunga nendlela yokuhambelana nendawo yakho yokomoya emva kokuhlukana, ngamanye amazwi, indlela elula ngayo ukusinda umtshato.
Okokuqala, kufuneka kuphawulwe ukuba abafazi bafumana ukuphuka kwiintsebenziswano ngokukhawuleza, bazibophelela ngokweenzondelelo zecala baze bawele kwiimeko ezinzima, ezinokuba nzima ukuzinqumla. Amadoda, ngokwezengqondo zengqondo, ngandlela-thile baziva bebhetele ngokuqhawula umtshato.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, wonke umntu onamandla angakwazi ukujamelana nobunzima beengqondo ngokwakhe, iimvakalelo kungekudala okanye emva koko, kwaye ubomi buba yinto eqhelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kutheni uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla, xa ephila ngokwenene yesibini yindleko. Ukongezelela, iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo zihlala zingenakulungele ukukhuliswa kwabantwana okanye imisebenzi yezobugcisa. Kwaye ukuze umntu akwazi ukuzinzisa isimo sakhe sengqondo, uncedo lweengcali zeengqondo-yengqondo yengqondo iya kuba luncedo kakhulu. Iingcebiso zakhe okanye uhlobo oluthile lwezakhono zengqondo ziyakunceda ukuba usebenzise indlela entsha yokuphila ngokukhawuleza, kwaye, mhlawumbi, ukwakha ubudlelwane obuzinzile nolusondeleyo kunye neqabane elitsha.
Emva kokuqhawula umtshato, umntu akafanele azivale, aqhube eli liva kwiindawo ezinzulu. Apha, unokwenza isiphepho kwiimvakalelo zakho - unokuthukuthela, ukukhala, ukucwina, ngaloo ndlela uza kuphazamisa iimvakalelo kwilizwe langaphandle, kwaye ungabalidli isimo sakho sangaphakathi. Yabelana ngamava kunye nabathandekayo bakho, abahlobo, indawo engqongileyo, oku akuyi kuqondwa ngabo njengezikhalazo ezivela kwicala lakho, kunoko ngokuchaseneyo unokunika iingcebiso ezilungileyo. Fumana into emnandi kuwe-iya kuma-movie, kwi-theater, unakekele umdlalo ozithandayo, ngokubanzi, ngokwasemoyeni ukuphazamisa imeko. Into ephambili apha akuyikuhlala ekhaya, ngokungavumelekanga ngokuvala ingxaki yakho, uya kuphazamisa isimo sakho sengqondo. Musa nje ukuthatha umsebenzi onzima oya kukufuna uxinzelelo lwengqondo, kuba ukungazinzi kwakho kwemvakalelo akuyi kukuvumela ukuba ikwazi ukuhlangabezana nokungafezeki komsebenzi kunokuthi kube nzima kakhulu imeko.
Ukutshatyalaliswa ngokuqhelekileyo kufaka isifiso esinamandla sokuziphindezela. Ngokomzekelo, ufuna ukugxeka abahlobo bomlingane wakho, uphawule umlingane wangaphambili kunye neengqungquthela, uchithe inhlebo malunga neenkcukacha ezithandanayo zobomi bakho kwaye ushintshe isizathu sokuba uhlukane naye. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuyi kwenza izinto zibe lula kuwe, kuba abahlobo bakho sele benento eninzi yokuva ngawe ngexesha lomtshato, ngaphandle kokubonakalisa ukungabikho kobuhlobo obusondeleyo nabanye, uxinzelelo lwakho luya kwanda kuphela. Yeka ukuphawula kwindlela yangaphambili kwaye uqale ukwenza ubomi bakho obutsha.
Ukongezelela, impindezelo yedwa ayizange ifake umntu okhunjulwayo. Ukubangela ubuhlungu komnye umntu, asisoze savuka. Yaye ngokuchasene neengxaki zangaphakathi zengqondo, ukuziphindezela kuya kukwenza ukhathazeke ngakumbi, ukwandisa imeko esele ibuhlungu.
Ubulumko bentolongo lusitsho - "i-wedge ikhatywe". Kule meko, ayikho into engeyinyani. Musa ukukhangela indawo yeqabane lakho kwiintsuku zokuqala emva komtshato. Ngokuqinisekileyo uza kulimaza ubuhlobo obunjalo kunye nawe kunye neqabane lakho elitsha. Iimvanoveli ezimfutshane ezinjalo, ukunyonyana, kwakhona, kuya kufaka kuphela umlilo kumlilo kwaye akuyi kubangela ukulingana kwengqondo.
Lindela ixesha elincinci kude kube yimeko yakho yengqondo, kwaye ubuhlungu kunye nokulahlekelwa ngumlingane wakho wangaphambili uza kutshabalalisa kwaye uhlale engummangaliso ongekho. Emva koko uya kuba ulungele ukwakha ubudlelwane obutsha, obundlobongela nomnye umntu. Abafazi abaninzi bavame ukutshata kwakhona, xa amava okuqhawula umtshato engazange aphule, ngaloo ndlela senza iphutha elikhulu, njengoko siye sagxininisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba ukuphulukana kwengqondo kuthatha ixesha. Umtshato onjalo kwiimeko ezinqabileyo ziya kuphumelela kwaye ngenxa yezenzo ezinje ziza kukuzisela kwimeko apho isazi sengqondo esiqhelekileyo asinakukunceda, kuba kwakhona ukuphoxeka kwengxelo kuya kuthintela isimo sempilo.
Zama ukwamkela iimeko ezintsha zentsapho ngokukhawuleza, fumana iimfuno ezintsha. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, wandise isangqa soqhagamshelwano, qaphela ukuba isimo sakho esitsha somntu oqhawule umtshato okanye umfazi oqhawule umtshato akusibi kakhulu. Umntu unenkani. Asisoloko sithatha ukungavumi ukuba yintoni na, endaweni yoko sifuna ukutshintsha into ethile ebomini, mhlawumbi ukubuyela kwindawo yangaphambili, sibona kwimiba "apha nangoku" kuphela embi. Ukusondela kwimeko yobomi ukusuka kulolo cala kunzima ukuwulathisa imeko ngendlela efanelekileyo. Ngexesha lokuqhawula umtshato, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuba luluphi ulwaphulo olungenakulinganiswa luneenzuzo. Unayo ixesha lokuphinda ucinge ngezenzo zangaphambili, mhlawumbi ukufumana iimpendulo kule mibuzo yefilosofi: "Ndingubani na?" Kwaye "Ndifuna ntoni?", Ukuze ndibone iimfuno zam zinyani, ukuba ngumntu ozimeleyo.