Xa idlulileyo idonsa emnyango: indlela yokuziphatha ngayo nomntu ongaphambili

Indlela yokuziphatha nomntu owayengumntu okanye umntu
Umfazi ngamnye unokuzicwangciso zakhe zokuziphatha kunye namadoda angaphambili. Abanye bakhetha ukugcina ubudlelwano bobuhlobo, abanye balandela umgaqo "ngaphandle kwamehlo, ngaphandle kwengqondo". Unzima: ukuba indoda yangaphambili idibeneyo yinkwenkwe yakho okanye, umzekelo, ungumhlobo omhle womhlobo wakho omhle. Ngelizwi: ukuba nangona emva kwekhefu kufuneka uxoxe naye. Kule nqaku, siza kuthetha ngesicwangciso sendlela yokuziphatha kunye nabathandekayo.

Imigaqo yendlela yokuziphatha nomntu wangaphambili

Musa ukuthulula iinyembezi

Izikhewu zihlukile. Baye baphosa wena okanye wena ufuna ukugqiba ubudlelwane - iindawo ezisele ezingahlaliyo ziza kuhlala zihlala. Owesifazane ohloniphayo makamele abonise abanye into embi kuye. Ukuba usebenza nomntu wangaphambili kwiqela elifanayo, lungele ukuba uya kufuna ukuzisola kwaye ududuze ngamagama athi "zonke iibhokhwe zezilwanyana." Ungazivumeli udibanise, kwanaxesha elinjalo. Ngenxa yokuba onke amagama akho kunye nezikhalazo malunga nabangaphambili bangeniswa ngokuzenzekelayo ezindlebeni zakhe. Zama ukhathaza ukuphuka kwefilosofi: ulungile, kodwa akukho nethuba lobuhlobo.

Ukuba waqhekeka nabahlobo, xelela abahlobo bakho malunga nalo. Intombazana ephumelelayo neyithemba ayifuni imfesane nesihawu. Vumela ababukeli benkampani yesithathu babe nombono wokuthi uziva ukhululekile kwaye ulungele ukuba uqhelane nabantu abatsha. Nangona ungakulungeli kubo okwamanje, musa ukuchitha ixesha elide ukuhlalutya ngokwengqondo. Vumela ukuba uhambe phambili, udlale uvakalelo olude uze ube nethemba kunye nokucinga okulungileyo kukubuyela kuwe. Ubonisa umntu wakho wangaphambili ukuba naphezu kwayo yonke into oqhubeka uhlala kwaye ujabulele yonke imihla.

Gcina umgama

Ukuhlonelwa kubangelwa kuphela ngabantu abahlala beyinyaniso kwizwi labo. Kuyafana nobudlelwane. Ukuba waxelelwa igama lokugqibela kunye nesigqibo sokuphelisa ulwalamano lwakuyiqhinga lakho - linamathela kulo. Khumbula ngenxa yento enqumle ukuyishiya ngaphambi kokuba ubize umntu wangaphambili okanye ukummotheka ngokukhawuleza njengamaxesha amandulo.

Kwaye nangakumbi ungazami ukuqhubeka kwakhona nolwalamano ukuba umqalisi wegap wayengumntu. Mhlawumbi ulwalamano lwakho luye lwaluphelile, kwaye unesizungu ovakalelwa ngoku ngoku siya kudlula kwiiveki ezimbalwa. Uphando lwesigxina sabantu lubonisa ukuba abayithandanga xa i-passion yangaphambili ixhomekeke entanyeni.

Isiphelo: ayifumaneki. Yiba nomusa, ungabaluleli kwabanye - oku kuyindlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha emva kokuhlukana.

Musa ukucacisa ubuhlobo kunye nomntu owayengumthandi

Ngokuqhelekileyo emva kokuhlukana, lona wesifazane uhlala yedwa kunye nezikhalazo zakhe kunye neengxabano. Unokuchitha iiyure okanye iiyure entloko yazo okanye ezinye izihlandlo, ukufumana ukuziphatha kwendoda yangaphambili. Kwaye maxa wambi ufuna ukuhlambalaza, khumbula ukuba wayephosakele njani kunye ne-poddet phambi kohlobo lwabahlobo bakho. Kodwa ukuba uthe, awuyi kuziva uneliseko, kodwa uzihlazise emehlweni abanye. Njengoko uyazi: ulwalamano lunqunywe ngumntu okhathalelayo. Nangona amanxeba asesandul 'ukutsha, zigcine uzigcine kwaye uzikhumbule ukuba ulwalamano lwakho nale ndoda yiphepha elijikiweyo elingabonakali umzuzu wexesha lakho.